Things I like do for fun are pretty standard: reading, travel, eat out, movies, canoeing, camping. Some places I’d like to share with a significant other would include New Orleans (as far away from Fat Tuesday as possible), the South Carolina coast, a beachfront condo near Cocoa Beach, snorkeling the Florida Keys, the Current River National Scenic Riverways in Missouri, and Mr. Gyros on 38th Street (this last one is completely optional, but where else are you going to get a foot long polish sausage on a bun with hot peppers??).
If you really want to know what my personality is like, Google “INFJ” and “INFP”, along with “Myers-Briggs Personality Test”. The personality types I have are sometimes referred to as The Healer, The Protector, or The Councilor. Yes, I have a degree in psychology. And another degree in computer programming. As Bluto said in Animal House, "Seven years of college down the drain." ;-)
As far as beliefs go, I only occasionally attend church, but I am basically a quasi-Quaker who also practices Zen. I used to be a Fundamentalist, but Zen mental training caused me to lose certain illusions and just see the stark reality of things. I believe, like Einstein, that "only a life lived for others is worth living". My goal is to become more selfless and purpose-driven.
I am pretty dedicated to doing what I can to stop the spread of domestic violence. For the last 15 years I've been volunteering as a support group facilitator for a program that counsels children who have been in violent homes. This is a very personal issue with me, as both my mother and sister were abused by their husbands, and the effects on my family were devastating.
I have a long term love for Okinawan fighting arts that started when I was in college. I’ve trained in many different styles of karate, as well as jujutsu and traditional weapons. I just wanted to be a good fighter when I was young, but I’ve learned that the real goal of training is to subdue the ego while developing good character. I am a Sandan (3rd degree black belt) in karate, so I am pretty into it. Martial arts training and volunteer work are probably the biggest things I spend time on outside of work.
I often describe myself as A Lesbian Feminist Trapped In A Man's Body. I can tell you honestly that I'm looking for an equal partner, not a plaything. I sometimes joke that I spend all my free time trying to make myself a better citizen, but unfortunately, there's a lot of truth in it. In any case, I’ve now decided to experiment with a dating site just to see what happens. Maybe I’ll get to have some fun before I die. Maybe. ;-)