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42 M Modesto, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 5:40am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Irish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly), Dutch (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I am not extraordinary, but neither am I anything resembling normal or average (is anyone?) I have my quirks (who doesn't?) and am looking for someone who enjoys my eccentricities instead of trying to get me to conform to some ideal.

I am manic depressive, now more commonly calledbi-polar, and refuse to feel any shame in the way that I am made.

I am also pansexual I like connecting with people, not caring what gender they are, or present as. Some would more easily say bisexual but I understand there are more than two genders.

If you are looking for straight guys only or gay guys only I am not who you are looking for. But if you say you are looking for "Guys who like girls" or "Guys who like guys" I might message you as that applies to ME too.

I am pretty geeky. I wrote my first computer program when I was 6 years old on an Apple II. It is a fond childhood memory for me. Several years ago, I taught my son who was at the same age that program on an Apple II emulator. My dad shaped me into the hacker I am today, but my own son takes after me in another way, he is a brilliant writer.

I was between religions for a few years, and was pretty comfortable about that. I have been pretty eclectic in the past and did know where I would be in the future. Buddhism intrigued me but there was no community where I lived for me to learn more or be with others who are like minded. In the end, I gave up all belief in supernatural agency of any kind, and will most likely not subscribe to any religion ever again. Rationalism, Reason, and Love are what guide me today.

I do subscribe to living a Jedi Path without the mysticism but I don't really see it as a religion more of an applied philosophy. It is, like many things in my life, a work in progress.
What I’m doing with my life
One of the fun things I do is programming projects in Second Life specializing in communication between the virtual world and web-based databases.

I used to do custom work for a fee, but have recently given that up to concentrate on community service and open source projects. The largest of which is creating a new donation system for the American Cancer Society's Relay For Life of Second Life. This system is responsible for collecting, routing, and recording all the donations collected in Second Life which for the 2010 season reached $222,840 USD

In 2011, I concentrated a bit on my writing and got published in a couple places in print. Probably the best was being published in Kizuna: Fiction for Japan along with some "top shelf" writers. The proceeds going to a charity in Japan to help those that were orphaned by the Tsunami. It's still in print (or available for Kindle) and would be exceedingly groovy for the Orphans if you picked up a copy.

I recently started building the website about my take on real life applications of Jedi Philosophy. Trying to build community there, but have not built momentum yet.
I’m really good at
I am good at Aikido. I am also pretty good at teaching lil' kids Aikido. I am practically unbeatable at Star Wars Trivial Pursuit, even playing with a handicap. I'm no slouch when it comes to Genus Edition, either.

I am a decent Hacker (in the programming sense). I am also good at teaching others about computers.

My friends and others seem to like my writing (journal, poetry, fiction, and so on...).

I have been told that I am very patient.

Another says that I always know just the right thing to say, but I think it would be more correct to use the word "often" instead of always.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I probably need a shave and haircut.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite books include Stranger in a Strange Land, Anathem, Snow Crash, The Shockwave Rider, The Hobbit, Neuromancer, Musashi, The Lorax, Where the Wild Things Are, well, and many more. I am a word addict, and the Internet is like crack, something new to read every day. I also like comix, especially those by Alan Moore, Geoff Johns, and Neil Gaiman.

I also enjoy reading a variety of non-fictional books about my many and varied interests. In November and December of 2013 I went through a jag and bought pretty much every book by Disney Historian Jim Korkus. I am currently reading (March of 2014) a book called The Columbine Effect.

My favorite film of all time is Fritz Lang's Metropolis, closely followed by Star Wars (don't make me pick a favorite out of them!). I also really enjoyed Whalerider, The Truman Show, the Karate Kid, The Man of La Mancha, Eternal Sunshine on the Spotless Mind, The Incredibles, ah, heck, too many to list really.

The above was written years ago. Movies I have liked recently
Scott Pilgrim vs. The World, Avatar, Inception

A few more years down the line, and wouldn't you know they keep making movies I like? I saw Frozen 4 times in the theater, and look forward to wearing out my Blu-ray of it when it comes out.

Music! When I was younger I was too Rock for the folk groups and to folk for the rock groups, but I made do. Lots of music flips my lid, but right now I really dig Coltrane, Hendrix, Traditional Irish and Scottish, Neil Anderson the Antipypr, Queen, Taiko drums, and techno.

I have a background in theatre, and did more musicals than shows that weren't, so "show music" usually wins with me.
The six things I could never do without
As a Jedi I need to be mindful and be able to let go of what I fear to lose. While wary of unnecessary attachment I hope this list instead can substitute for attributes which I value.

Love, Freedom, Beauty (in the hearts around me), Creativity, truth, reason
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Applications of Peace in this world.

Being a better Father and man, and how not to repeat the mistakes of my father.

The mythological symbology found in Star Wars.

Fantasies and Daydreams.

My next programming project (there is always something new to code!)

New plots and new stories to write and where whatever I am writing will go next.

The comparative mythology of Superman

The Fermi Paradox.

The implications of that characters in musicals seem to gain information from the exposition in songs -- do people actually break out in song within the fictional narrative in which these characters exist, or is it a dramatic representation to the audience of pretty much just a plain old conversation that they had?
On a typical Friday night I am
Surfing the Internet into the wee hours since I do not have to go anywhere in the morning!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I occasionally sleep with this stuffed crochet clown doll I got for Christmas when I was five years old.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 18–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you would like a reply! I respond to all messages.
I attempt to reply to MOST messages. It can be quite arbitrary at at times, but if you want to improve your odds, one thing you could do is honestly answer the "most private" section with something other than "well it wouldn't be private, would it?" Not a deal breaker if you do, but it is one of my favorite sections and that is my least liked response.

If you use dating websites to actually try to meet people to date.

Message me if you recognize the significance of the number 3263827

If you get as excited over 6EQUJ5 as I do.

If you understand that being bisexual does NOT mean that I am looking for "one of each".