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Last online
Sep 30
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Has a kid
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Irish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly), Dutch (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I am not extraordinary, but neither am I anything resembling normal or average (is anyone?) I have my quirks (who doesn't?) and am looking for someone who enjoys my eccentricities instead of trying to get me to conform to some ideal.

I am manic depressive, now more commonly calledbi-polar, and refuse to feel any shame in the way that I am made. I have recently decided to occasionally refer to my illness as Tigger-Eeyore Disorder.

I think it is important to understand my relationship style if you want to engage in romance with me. It is predicated on two principles, that people are not possessions, and that love is not a finite resource that must be parceled out.

I believe that relationships (platonic and romantic) should be allowed to find their own level instead of trying to shape them to meet some sort of expectation. I just accept them as they are, and how they change over time, instead of trying to fit them to preconceived templates and be all bent when the relationships aren't "shaped" right.

I believe the all relationships should be based on CHOICE and not upon OBLIGATIONS.

I used to identify as pansexual, and depending on the context I may still for the reasons that I like connecting with people, not caring what gender they are, or present as. I now prefer the term bisexual for several reasons, some philosophical, and some political. I understand there are more than two genders, and I use that label to mean that I am attracted to people who share my gender, and those that do not share my gender. The term bisexual does not to me imply a gender binary.

I am pretty geeky. I wrote my first computer program when I was 6 years old on an Apple II. It is a fond childhood memory for me. Several years ago, I taught my son who was at the same age that program on an Apple II emulator. My dad shaped me into the hacker I am today, but my own son takes after me in another way, he is a brilliant writer.

I was between religions for a few years, and was pretty comfortable about that. I have been pretty eclectic in the past and did know where I would be in the future. Buddhism intrigued me but there was no community where I lived for me to learn more or be with others who are like minded. In the end, I gave up all belief in supernatural agency of any kind, and will most likely not subscribe to any religion ever again. Rationalism, Reason, and Love are what guide me today.

I do subscribe to living a Jedi Path without the mysticism but I don't really see it as a religion more of an applied philosophy. It is, like many things in my life, a work in progress.
What I’m doing with my life
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In July of 2014, my primary partner bought a house for our growing Ohana (family). Much of my time is currently is spent taking care of the home, and doing what repairs I can, hoping to fix the house faster than it can break (I seem to be gaining ground on that, albeit slowly).

I recently started building the website about my take on real life applications of Jedi Philosophy. Trying to build community there, but have not built momentum yet.

I have had success in computer programming projects in the recent(ish) past (If you are in Second Life, it is very likely you may have seen or used my work). 2011 was a good year for writing with two pieces (a short story in the Charity Anthology, Kizuna, and an article in 2600 the Hacker Quarterly) Now that my living situation is stable again after a few years of less than ideal conditions, I am looking forward to working on creative endeavors again.

I have also been focusing on essay writing, as a dear friend who has a terminal degree in creative writing told me it was my strongest area.

I wrote a very short book that is available on Amazon called Programming Concepts for the Non-Programmer. It was more to teach myself how to self-publish with Amazon's tools. I have thus far earned enough royalties on the book to purchase four cheeseburgers or so.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am good at Aikido. I am also pretty good at teaching lil' kids Aikido. I am practically unbeatable at Star Wars Trivial Pursuit, even playing with a handicap. I'm no slouch when it comes to Genus Edition, either.

I am a decent Hacker (in the programming sense). I am also good at teaching others about computers.

My friends and others seem to like my writing (journal, poetry, fiction, and so on...).

I have been told that I am very patient.

Another says that I always know just the right thing to say, but I think it would be more correct to use the word "often" instead of always.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I probably need a shave and haircut.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite books include Stranger in a Strange Land, Anathem, Snow Crash, The Shockwave Rider, The Hobbit, Neuromancer, Musashi, The Lorax, Where the Wild Things Are, well, and many more. I am a word addict, and the Internet is like crack, something new to read every day. I also like comix, especially those by Alan Moore, Geoff Johns, and Neil Gaiman.

I also enjoy reading a variety of non-fictional books about my many and varied interests. In November and December of 2013 I went through a jag and bought pretty much every book by Disney Historian Jim Korkus. I am currently reading (May of 2014) Rolly Crump's Autobiography, _It's Kind of a Cute Story_.

My favorite film of all time is Fritz Lang's Metropolis, closely followed by Star Wars (don't make me pick a favorite out of them!). I also really enjoyed Whalerider, The Truman Show, the Karate Kid, The Man of La Mancha, Eternal Sunshine on the Spotless Mind, The Incredibles, ah, heck, too many to list really.

The above was written years ago. Movies I have liked recently
Scott Pilgrim vs. The World, Avatar, Inception

A few more years down the line, and wouldn't you know they keep making movies I like? I saw Frozen 4 times in the theater, and look forward to wearing out my Blu-ray of it when it comes out.

Music! When I was younger I was too Rock for the folk groups and to folk for the rock groups, but I made do. Lots of music flips my lid, but right now I really dig Coltrane, Hendrix, Traditional Irish and Scottish, Neil Anderson the Antipypr, Queen, Taiko drums, and techno.

In the intervening years that have passed since I wrote the above paragraph, I'd like to add The Dresden Dolls, (And Amanda Palmer's work apart from this project), Coheed and Cambria. I recently bought the Goonies on DVD for $5 I would have paid more than that just for a DVD of the Cyndi Lauper Video. Man I forgot how awesome that era of MTV was -- a music video with a framing narrative, a cliff-hanger, and a Part 2!

I have a background in theatre, and did more musicals than shows that weren't, so "show music" usually wins with me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
As a Jedi I need to be mindful and be able to let go of what I fear to lose. While wary of unnecessary attachment I hope this list instead can substitute for attributes which I value.

Love, Freedom, Beauty (in the hearts around me), Creativity, truth, reason
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why we have not yet achieved peace in the world, why the hungry go unfed, and why the rich continue to evade justice.

Applications of Peace in this world.

The mythological symbolism found in Star Wars.

My next programming project (there is always something new to code!)

New plots and new stories to write and where whatever I am writing will go next.

The comparative mythology of Superman

The Fermi Paradox.

The implications of that characters in musicals seem to gain information from the exposition in songs -- do people actually break out in song within the fictional narrative in which these characters exist, or is it a dramatic representation to the audience of pretty much just a plain old conversation that they had?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home improvement -- hopefully improving my home, and not breaking things worse than they were when I started the "repair" (this is not always the case. Ask me about the switch that turned into a three day project).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I do not care for the "friends with benefits" dynamic. To me the real benefits of friendship are great conversations, shared activities, shared interests, and mutual emotional support for one another.

I do however, love having sex with very good friends on occasion.
You should message me if
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(If you meet any ONE or more of the following, don't worry about meeting every list item)

If you would like a reply! I respond to all messages.
I attempt to reply to MOST messages. It can be quite arbitrary at at times, but if you want to improve your odds, one thing you could do is honestly answer the "most private" section with something other than "well it wouldn't be private, would it?" Not a deal breaker if you do, but it is one of my favorite sections and that is my least liked response. In fact, openness and forthrightness on your entire profile will go a long way with me, with the exception of obvious fictions that are funny as hell.

If you use dating websites to actually try to meet people to date.

Message me if you recognize the significance of the number 3263827

If you get as excited over 6EQUJ5 as I do.

If you understand that being bisexual does NOT mean that I am looking for "one of each".

Any instance of the letter "X" in your username serves a phonetic purpose.

If you would like me to look over and critique an essay contrasting and comparing Astrological Horoscopes with Myers-Briggs Personality Types (seriously, I would love to read this!).

If "God" does not appear anywhere in your list of six things you could never do without.