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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27–52
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 1:00am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Graduated from university
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
fair warning: If this is too much reading for you, then we probably won't get along.

"Simple Design. Intense Content" -- Tufte

That quote pretty much sums me up. I have that on my desktop to remind me to keep it simple, but don't hold back. I switch it now and then with a photo of Beaker. Because, Beaker.

I'm polyamorous. I strongly believe that love is not a zero-sum game. I'm currently seeing the wonderful kushali and the beautiful "dirty" hippy A-through-Z. I'm open to others but I'm currently more open to casual forms of socializing and play as my schedule is fairly full.

I'm an unabashed nerd. My brain is my strongest tool and my most fun toy (with my hands coming in a close second). I like my women smart. I break a lot of rules, invalidate a lot of assumptions, and fuck with a lot of stereotypes. I have a very strong sense of loyalty and friendship. I don't let people push others around. I pick fights with bullies. I do not suffer fools lightly. I'm honest to a fault, anal about spelling, and know when to use a semicolon (and prefer not to use them at all).

I've been called "the gayest straight boy" as well as "flaming heterosexual" by my gay boys over the years. I agree with the latter and still don't understand the implications of the former.

I've been living on Capitol Hill for over a decade now. It is my home. These are my people. I bought a new place in 2010, largely because of the kitchen and I have been absolutely in love with it. I hated my last kitchen and avoided it like the plague. Since moving in, I've been cooking up a storm. My place smells awesome.

Unless I'm on a stage and/or behind a podium (which still happens a bit too much), I don't like the focus being on me. While I'm a good speaker, I prefer to listen. As a result, this section was the hardest for me to write. I... I... I... ugh. Additional challenge! No more "I" on the rest of my profile!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
How to say this...

A few years back was the Life Changing Experience™.

On that day, a lot of illusions died that once helped me get through my day/week/month/life. Illusions of: control, structure, discipline... they pretty much just disappeared one day and it turns out that they weren't actually helping me in the slightest. Success and happiness can be had without controlling or planning every minute and every year...

So, the short answer is: whatever is happening that day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing patterns in people, places, and things (esp processes).

Being a catalyst.

Knowing exactly where things are in the dark. It is kinda freaky, not having to grope for something, even in a hotel room.

Cooking simple tasty dishes.

Fostering Kittens! My 3 exhausting kitties have made weight and are just waiting to get fixed before they can be adopted out. Wow. Time has passed. Since those three, all with adorable fitting names, there have been many more kittens to pass through my doors. It turns out that adorable fitting names are very hard to do. Now they get the greek alphabet, with the last batch being Xi through Rho. Dorky? Yes. Easier? Much. Update: the Greek alphabet has been exhausted and has moved on to a 152 box of crayons. Outer space and mango tango have been adopted.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My presence/intensity.

"You're huge and intimidating and you smell really good... Yeah... you smell REALLY good." -- not sure how to take that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
John Steinbeck's beautiful use of the simple word, Glen Cook's worlds, George R. R. Martin's characters, David Drake's harsh depictions, and China Miéville's sexy sexy brain (if only... damn he's hot).

Guillermo del Toro, Robert Rodgriguez, the Coen brothers, Martin Scorsese, Alfred Hitchcock, the Kaufman brothers, Terry Gilliam, Akira Kurosawa, Hayao Miyazaki.

Mezzanine by Massive Attack (and omg! the new one!!), Earth Sun Moon by Love & Rockets, Music By Cavelight by Blockhead, The Fragile by Nine Inch Nails, Black Celebration by Depeche Mode, Doolittle by Pixies, Carnage Visors by The Cure, Garlands by Cocteau Twins

Eating: My first cuisine was cajun, so pretty much any variety of "ethnic" (esp spicy!) is good. Burgers, not so much. No mushrooms, please. They're all sorts of wrong.

One of my favorite photos of myself is me in a high-chair eating my first bbq--ALLLL over my face with a shit-eating grin. It hasn't changed much since, 'cept cleaner.

Cooking: Texan-style BBQ (not sweet) with grilled veggies, indian, mexican, italian, cajun, exploratory cooking, and the best damn oatmeal/porridge (sweet or savory) you've ever had.

Spices: Good salt, fresh black peppercorns, true cinnamon, whole nutmeg, fresh basil, garlic garlic garlic. And my latest two favorites, grains of paradise (NOM) and dukka (a blend for dipping... but still... NOM). Homemade chili powders (super duper NOM)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Something to read.
Something to listen to.
Olive oil and salt.
A cappuccino to sip.
A laptop to create with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ummm... On the less hormonal side: thinking, stuff to design and/or make, problems to solve, patterns, human behavior, drum beats.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If you're curious about something, ask.
You should message me if
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