Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I haven't been very good in talking about myself or in telling my
own life stories although I've been told there's enough there to
make for an interesting novel. I do have an impeccable memory
(which will certainly help in writing that novel) so I do remember
what other people have said about me. Here's a sample:
Renaissance man: loves arts and literature on the one hand, and
sports and the wilderness on the other...traveled to many countries
in what might now be called the classical mode, i.e. to visit
friends, to immerse oneself in the culture of the land, to travel
off the beaten path, or to enjoy the great outdoors.
Nomad: doesn't care much for material possessions. Doesn't go for
comfortable lodgings when traveling (a tent is already paradise).
Lived in Singapore, Indonesia, Germany, England, South Korea,
Scotland, and now the USA, and yet doesn't really have one place to
Como agua para chocolate: connoisseur of coffee, wine, scotch
whisky and food; likes to lose himself in cooking; tactile and
affectionate; great kisser; passionate lover
Self-made man: orphaned at the age of 14, co-breadwinner to a
family of five, became Finance Manager in an international firm
then left the corporate world and now working to become an
Hobbit: has 2-3 breakfasts in a day.
But if forced to account for myself, I go by my conviction that the
kind of society we live in no longer allows for any kind of
uniqueness (which is probably why most of us are so captivated by,
or engrossed with, the prospects). So what in fact determines the
shape of our lives is not so much what we choose or aspire for but
rather the opposite--those things that strike us to be beyond our
control, often sinking us under, mocking and disrupting our
choices, commitments and ambitions. Our fatum, our passions, our
I like to frame this in the following scenario--what do I imagine
myself suffering from the most as I pass the bardos of existence?
Three things: the world of ideas, beautiful people, and the
outdoors. These are my three delusions.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am thinking and writing about the kind of social change that
grows out of people's concrete life experiences, trying to
reanimate the legacy of Spinoza and Nietzsche, teaching
introductory courses in moral and political philosophy, and
immersing myself in American culture.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
writing, cooking, listening, bearing witness, being there for
others, articulating my thoughts and emotions, asking questions,
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Roland Barthes' Lover's Discourse,
John Banville's The Untouchables, Tom Stoppard's The
Coast of Utopia trilogy, John Burnside's The
Lighttrap, Salman Rushdie's Midnight's Children,
Thomas Mann's der Zauberberg, Virginia Woolf's The
Waves, and Friedrich Nietzsche's die fröhliche
Music: Wagner, Beethoven, Mahler, Schubert, Jazz
(esp. Miles Davis & John Coltrane), Female jazz vocals (esp.
Stacey Kent), Indie Rock, Bluegrass, the 'Easy Rider' and 'Almost
(1) Anything by Michael Haneke, especially Code Unknown (2000), La
Pianiste (2001), and Das Weisse Band (2009)
(2) Jules et Jim (1962) Francois Truffaut
(3) Farewell My Concubine (1993) Chen Kaige
(4) Diary of A Country Priest (1951) Robert Bresson
(5) An Autumn Afternoon (1962) Yasujiro Ozu; 35 Shots of Rhum
(2008) Claire Denis
(6) Casablanca (1946) Michael Curtiz; Noises Off (1992) Peter
(7) Barcelona (1994) Whit Stillman
(8) Mandala (1981) Im Kwon Taek
(9) The Passion of Joan of Arc (1928) Carl Dreyer; The Trial of
Joan of Arc (1962) Robert Bresson
(10) The Idiots (1998), Dogville (2003), and Melancholia (2011)
Lars von Trier
Painters: Edouard Vuillard; Gerhard Richter; Agnes
Food: Korean, Indian, Italian
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Form, Sensation, Perception, Mental Formation, Consciousness, and
the sense that it wasn't a Buddhist who came up with this question.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the history of culture, the state of human values in modern times,
the redemptive role of art, the relationship between individual and
community, the four noble truths, how to live out one's passions,
fear and loathing in America, the dynamics of online attraction,
and beautiful people (albeit a very different kind of thinking)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
- working on a paper / book
- watching a film or a performance (theater or concert )
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are a self-effacing adventurous spirit, are
looking for an outdoor sports buddy, or are a bodhisattva warrior
with more than two hands to show for it
you prefer to talk about ideas or anything other than what you or
other people do
you are laid-back and can just go with the flow (oh, and a charming
smile and a sense of humour are ultra-sexy)
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