33 High Point, NC
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My self-summary
I haven't been very good in talking about myself or in telling my own life stories although I've been told there's enough there to make for an interesting novel. I do have an impeccable memory (which will certainly help in writing that novel) so I do remember what other people have said about me. Here's a sample:

Renaissance man: loves arts and literature on the one hand, and sports and the wilderness on the other...traveled to many countries in what might now be called the classical mode, i.e. to visit friends, to immerse oneself in the culture of the land, to travel off the beaten path, or to enjoy the great outdoors.
Nomad: doesn't care much for material possessions. Doesn't go for comfortable lodgings when traveling (a tent is already paradise). Lived in Singapore, Indonesia, Germany, England, South Korea, Scotland, and now the USA, and yet doesn't really have one place to call home.
Como agua para chocolate: connoisseur of coffee, wine, scotch whisky and food; likes to lose himself in cooking; tactile and affectionate; great kisser; passionate lover
Self-made man: orphaned at the age of 14, co-breadwinner to a family of five, became Finance Manager in an international firm then left the corporate world to become an academic.
Hobbit: has 2-3 breakfasts in a day.

But if forced to account for myself, I go by my conviction that the kind of society we live in no longer allows for any kind of uniqueness (which is probably why most of us are so captivated by, or engrossed with, the prospects). So what in fact determines the shape of our lives is not so much what we choose or aspire for but rather the opposite--those things that strike us to be beyond our control, often sinking us under, mocking and disrupting our choices, commitments and ambitions. Our fatum, our passions, our darkest temptations.

"le principe de l'invention est le hasard." - Paul Souriau

I like to frame this in the following scenario--what do I imagine myself suffering from the most as I pass the bardos of existence? Three things: the world of ideas, beautiful people, and the outdoors. These are my three delusions.
What I’m doing with my life
I am thinking and writing about the kind of social change that grows out of people's concrete life experiences, trying to reanimate the legacy of Spinoza and Nietzsche, teaching introductory courses in moral and political philosophy, and immersing myself in American culture.
I’m really good at
writing, cooking, listening, bearing witness, being there for others, articulating my thoughts and emotions, asking questions, kissing
The first things people usually notice about me
eyes, smile, style
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Roland Barthes' Lover's Discourse, John Banville's The Untouchables, Tom Stoppard's The Coast of Utopia trilogy, John Burnside's The Lighttrap, Salman Rushdie's Midnight's Children, Thomas Mann's der Zauberberg, Virginia Woolf's The Waves, and Friedrich Nietzsche's die fröhliche Wissenschaft

Music: Wagner, Beethoven, Mahler, Schubert, Jazz (esp. Miles Davis & John Coltrane), Female jazz vocals (esp. Stacey Kent), Indie Rock, Bluegrass, the 'Easy Rider' and 'Almost Famous' soundtrack

(1) Anything by Michael Haneke, especially Code Unknown (2000), La Pianiste (2001), and Das Weisse Band (2009)
(2) Jules et Jim (1962) Francois Truffaut
(3) Farewell My Concubine (1993) Chen Kaige
(4) Diary of A Country Priest (1951) Robert Bresson
(5) An Autumn Afternoon (1962) Yasujiro Ozu; 35 Shots of Rhum (2008) Claire Denis
(6) Casablanca (1946) Michael Curtiz; Noises Off (1992) Peter Bogdanovich
(7) Barcelona (1994) Whit Stillman
(8) Mandala (1981) Im Kwon Taek
(9) The Passion of Joan of Arc (1928) Carl Dreyer; The Trial of Joan of Arc (1962) Robert Bresson
(10) The Idiots (1998), Dogville (2003), and Melancholia (2011) Lars von Trier

Painters: Edouard Vuillard; Gerhard Richter; Agnes Martin

Food: Korean, Indian, Italian
The six things I could never do without
Form, Sensation, Perception, Mental Formation, Consciousness, and the sense that it wasn't a Buddhist who came up with this question.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the history of culture, the state of human values in modern times, the redemptive role of art, the relationship between individual and community, the four noble truths, how to live out one's passions, fear and loathing in America, the dynamics of online attraction, and beautiful people (albeit a very different kind of thinking)
On a typical Friday night I am
- working on a paper / book
- watching a film or a performance (theater or concert )
You should message me if
spiritual chemistry you are a self-effacing adventurous spirit, are looking for an outdoor sports buddy, or are a bodhisattva warrior with more than two hands to show for it
intellectual chemistry you prefer to talk about ideas or anything other than what you or other people do
sexual chemistry
you are laid-back and can just go with the flow (oh, and a charming smile and a sense of humour are ultra-sexy)