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40 F Seattle, WA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 30–46
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 19
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
:::Update: I'm most interested in finding new kink connections right now. Particularly femme tops - if you're looking for a fabulous butch bottom to scene with, send me a message (out of role):::

I am equal parts Chandler and Ross, introvert and extrovert, snarky and empathetic, irreverent and respectful, dashing wordsmith and awkward bumbler. I laugh often and loudly, I cry in movies, and I sing in the grocery store. I am jocular, incisive, honest, and bighearted.

I'm a sucker for brainy, compassionate, feisty femmes. Pepper me with sass and vocabulary, and salt me with the kind of communication borne of integrity and emotional intelligence, and you'll make my knees go to jelly.

As to relationship structure, I'm more inclined toward ethical non-monogamy than straight up monogs*, but I'm open to relationships looking a lot of different ways. Being able to negotiate about it is what's most important to me. (*Though I'm coming to realize that my end game ideal looks much more "monogamish" than not.)

My thoughts on sexytimes run in a similar vein. I'm more inclined toward kink than vanilla, but I'm open to sex looking a lot of different ways. And again, being able to talk about it is the key.

Um... and now here's a list of a bunch of stuff I like:

-Words. I love them so. Some of my faves: facultative, savvy, inveigle, dyspepsia, platypodes, onomatopoeia, haberdashery, canoodle, and boobies.
-Writing (as a corollary to the aforementioned logophilia). I have successfully rocked one National Novel Writing Month and I spend a fair amount of my time writing these days.
-Various forms of nerdery: math, zoology, DNA, evolution, anatomy and physiology, the Periodic Table, Venn diagrams, writing code.
-Dancing the Lindy Hop. And skipping the light fandango.
-Games. Word games, card games, ice breakers, ironic kickball, debaucherous super lesbo quasi-soccer. The usual stuff.
-Internet cat videos. If internet cat videos are wrong, then I don't want to be right.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Professionally, I'm transitioning from teaching math and science to web development.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-Playing lesbo-folk and 80s pop songs on my guitar.
-Wooing cats. If cats were ladies, I'd be balls deep, 24/7.
-Making up words, in a consciously entrepreneurial sort of way, more so than an accidental malaprop sort of way.
-Crafting artisanal "Your mom" jokes.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm wicked funny, spanning multiple humor indices (such as rapier wit, smart assery, word play, math and science jokes, goofiness, and the gutter). I burst into song regularly, often with no discernable external stimulus. I have some pretty awesome salt-and-pepper going on as well. (And now I'm singing, "Salt-n-Pepa's here and we're in effect, want you to push it babe." Is that stuck in your head now? You're welcome.) Also, maybe my giant rack.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books/Authors: Grad school largely broke my will to read the printed word, so I mostly listen to books these days. I listen to a lot of young adult sci-fi/fantasy - Hunger Games, Leviathan, Golden Compass Trilogy, Ender's Game, and Harry Potter, for example. I also listen to a lot of fluffy mysteries. On the more literary front, I love me some Sherman Alexie, Carlos Ruiz Zafon, Isabel Allende, and Ann Patchett. Virginia Woolf (Mrs. Dalloway especially) holds a special place in my heart. I don't do a lot of non-fiction, but I swooned my way through Rachel Maddow's reading of Drift, and before that really enjoyed The Disappearing Spoon, about the curious and conflicted histories of the elements of the periodic table.

Graphic novels/Comics: Saga, or anything by Brian K. Vaughan, really. Powers, or anything by Brian Michael Bendis, really. Watchmen, though I'm not afraid to say that I don't love much else by Alan Moore.

TV (extinct): Buffy, Eureka, Firefly, Friday Night Lights, Friends, Veronica Mars, West Wing, Wonderfalls, 30 Rock.

TV (extant): Orphan Black! Grey’s, Archer, The Good Wife, Sleepy Hollow, S.H.I.E.L.D.

Movies: A League of Their Own, Safety Not Guaranteed, Matrix, Looper, Notting Hill, Pitch Perfect, Bring It On, Tron, Top Gun, Dirty Dancing.

Food: I enjoy food of many stripes - Indian, Thai, Vietnamese, Mediterranean, pizza, hippy veggie food (well, some of it), Meaty McMeaterson food. I love sandwiches and tacos and cheese. L-O-V-E love them. Mostly my dislikes are very specific little land mines, like lemon desserts or bell peppers or potatoes or kalamata olives, the latter of which mostly taste like barf to me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Okay, well, obviously air, food, water, shelter. Also, Earth, Wind, and Fire.

But if I'm being true to the spirit of the question: My BFF, community/connection, my car (which facilitates connection), my cat, words, song.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Things are pretty busy in my brain. I like to make lists in my head: good sing along songs for the guitar, good band names, all the people I’ve made out with, who should play all the characters in the book I’m reading if they made it into a movie, places I might like to volunteer, stories I might write someday.

I also think on hypothetical flights of fancy: what would I say if I ran into Emily Saliers? Would I actually like it if I were famous? What if that girl I had a crush on in high school turned up queer and single at the next reunion? Who will I invite to my wedding? Who would win in a fight between a platypus and a honey badger? Seeing as how they're black and white, would anthropomorphic orcas be more likely to employ an inflexible moral framework than anthropomorphic grey whales? Would they therefore be more likely to lead Cetacean militias, forsake all else to slay marine vampires, or become correspondents on Fox News?

I think about social justice a lot, too. And coding.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
awesome. Just like on all the other nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can squish Jell-O through the gap in my front teeth.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
-You are a kinky femme top with good boundaries.
-You want to karaoke "Next Time I Fall" by Peter Cetera and Amy Grant with me. Seriously, this is a dream of mine.
-You're a pervy commie pinko queer nerd.