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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–50
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Sep 27
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Enthusiastically nerdy and creative butch queer. Equal parts Chandler and Ross, introvert and extrovert, snarky and empathetic, witty and clueless. I cry in movies, sing in the grocery store, and laugh really loud and kind of a lot.

I spend a lot of time making websites these days, both because it's my new career and because it's a fantastic platform to be, well, enthusiastically nerdy and creative. I get to fixate on detailed code puzzles and use that to make beautiful/weird/funny/unexpected things. It's so frickin' cool, I can't even believe it.

Also I, like, really like watching cats on the internet. It's the very core my soul.

Abrupt transition! I totally dig the femme types, historically with pretty different personalities and presentation. Integrity and the capacity for joy tend to be the common threads.

I'm open to relations and relationships looking a lot of different ways: I've been happy with poly and monogs, kink and not, serious and NSA. It's the being able to talk about it with self-awareness and skill that is vital to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
These are the things I do for money: I've just transitioned from teaching math and science to doing web development. I take care of other people's pets a lot. I occasionally MC queer strip shows.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- I do a pretty rad cover of "Straight Up" on my guitar.

- Karaoke-ing 80s power ballads.

- I will destroy you in Bananagrams.

- Wooing cats. If cats were ladies, I'd be balls deep, 24/7.

- Communicating. Feelings. Communicating about feelings.

- Witty banter. Chatty conversation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a fat butch with a giant rack, so...probably that.
The dark blue ring around my irises.
I'm wicked funny and really warm. Warm like in the friendly way, not the the temperature way. Actually, I'm both kinds of warm, but folks probably wouldn't notice that first, unless they were uncomfortably close.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books/Authors: Grad school largely broke me of the will to read with my eyes. When I do, it's generally genre fiction, mysteries, or graphic novels.

More often, I listen to podcasts like Story Collider, The Moth - and the totally wacky genius of Welcome to Night Vale sends me into transports of delight.

TV (extinct): Black Mirror! Shows from the old Whedonverse, Eureka, Friday Night Lights, Veronica Mars.

TV (extant): Orphan Black! Grey’s, Flash/Arrow, iZombie.

Movies: A League of Their Own! Easy A! Safety Not Guaranteed, Hanna, Notting Hill, Dirty Dancing. New addition: Me and Earl and The Dying Girl.

Music: I am really moved by music, but I don't listen to it much anymore - more out of habit than intention. I do try to go to Bushwick Book Club shows and hear lots of different local musicians singing about books.

Food: I am on a hunt for the finest tacos (TacoQuest!) and sandwiches (SammyQuest!) in all the land! Aside: I feel like Seattle is experiencing a bit of a sandwich boom recently, and I'm hella psyched about it. (I mean, I also like other food. I'm just sayin'.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) My BFF
2) Community and connection
3) Independence
4) Kitty snuggles
5) My laptop (for making bitchin' things and also for this video)
6) Alone time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Grab bag of randomness: my feelings, web typography, other people's feelings, color palettes, things I want to make, things I'd like to learn, what I would I say to x person in y situation, how in the world everybody likes Scandal so much, awesome band names, CSS animations, awesome cat names, who would win in a fight between a honey badger and a platypus.

How to be a compassionate and effective advocate during a time of deep cultural polarization. How to just be... better, I guess.

Tech culture through a social justice lens: teaching folks from underrepresented groups to code, helping those folks get jobs in tech, and how to change the culture they/we would be joining. Essentially, how do we start lifting people from vulnerable populations out of poverty in a sustainable way.

Tacos and sandwiches.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
awesome! Just like on all the other nights. 😀

In addition to being awesome, I'm usually having dinner with friends, out at a show, making something on my laptop, or curled up watching tv with my cat.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can squish Jell-O through the gap in my front teeth.
You should message me if
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Any or all or none of these are true:

-You are body positive and not fat shame-y.

-You don't equate "butch" with "stoic", and "stoic" with "strong".

-You are a kinky femme top with good boundaries.

-You are a not-kinky femme not-top with good boundaries.

-You want to see the Jell-O trick in person.

- You want to karaoke, see a movie at Central Cinema, hang out at Dykiki, and/or seek out delicious tacos.