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37 M Alameda, CA

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My self-summary
Oh, hi there. Thanks for stopping by. Take a few seconds to peruse my profile. And then come back here when you feel like you've gotten to know "the real me".

All done? Ok, great then! So, by now you can probably tell that I am a professional motivational speaker and "life coach".

Most of my life-advice comes from those posters that hang on HR and Guidance Counselor office walls. This is because I really don't have that much life experience to draw from, being overly sheltered and privileged and all of that. But I speak with a loud firm voice (as long as it's not to tough guys!) and try to make up what I lack in substance with bravado.

I am sure you are wondering how soon you can meet me at the nearest starbucks for 15 minutes (or less!) of awkward conversation. Well, since I don't get many motivational-speaking appointments (yet!), I am usually free, so hit me up.
What I’m doing with my life
i build models of sometimes real and sometimes fictional things and places.

spend my spare time plying my craft towards a place of beauty, and maybe, someday, wonder, too.
I’m really good at
apparently, generating unflattering OkCupid personality graphs.
The first things people usually notice about me
people often mistake me for other people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
recent movies i have enjoyed:
café de Flore
like someone in love
enter the void
5cm per second

currently listening to a lot of:
blue sky black death (slow burning lights)
some lana del rey (like a good designer with a bad sense of style, i look forward to her later work).
various ladytron
droney whiney post rock douchery.

not a big reader but have at one point or another enjoyed:
gary shteyngart
haruki murakami
ray loriga
miranda july
michel houellebecq
the wallace of course.

salty over sweet but i do love good black licorice and dark chocolate.
prefer a high vegetable to meat ratio.
properly frothed lattes make my day. 2 shots. 8 oz.
rounder apples taste better than oval apples, as do smaller apples than larger apples.
wine: not an expert but have found preference for drier full bodied (if that makes any sense) reds with a thing for tempranillo, sangiovese, and of course petite-sirah , zin.
hate cheese (really).
The six things I could never do without
who cares.
but what i can do with out is easy: cheese.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Is that cheese in my food?

reduction towards simplicity and elegant efficiency.

how men's clothing could be more like ikea furniture.

what a good abstract urban landscape photographer would take a photo of in my everyday surroundings...

how the values for sin and cos are calculated, not from their respective triangle ratios, but from a radian.. That is, what is the formula behind the calculator buttons?

architectural cinematography and photography.

do people who make electronic music get their samples from a stock bleep bloop library or do they record them themselves? cause it seems like everyone uses the same samples..or do bleep bloop instruments just all sort of sound the same?

related to previous, who was the first 80s or 90s house dj to use "you all ready for this" to start their song? and what are we supposed to be ready for?

all i know is.. i want to be ready. i want to be ready for this. i really do.

is memory in the human brain readable and if it is can you decode it to read thoughts? that would be super rad.

...per previous above: i suspect if you can do this.. that any visual element would not be nearly as complete as one would imagine. it would probably be very low res.
On a typical Friday night I am
probably waiting to be ready for this.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
oh lots of things

judging books by covers is how i pick most of what i read. and it works pretty well. i wish more things had covers.

i don't really like traveling or outdoors stuff. meh. not that i haven't seen and done stuff. but still meh. "experiences" are over rated. people need to learn how to be happy where they are with what they don't have. i have lived in the bay area for like two months now and still have not been to SF even though it is less than half an hour away. I am sort of proud of this.

similarly, don't care about good food very much. eat to live. yadiyadaya.

don't drive cause i don't like having to follow all those rules and pay attention to stuff like "laws" and "signs". it's like a not-fun game somebody made up in daycare. same goes for "countries" and "cultures" and probably some other things that belong in quotes too.

so i guess.. really i don't know what we'd do on a date. but i leave that up to you. i am very deferential, if you like guys like that. *shrug*
(update: see "You should message me if" section for a list of date ideas i made!)

i guess this is more of a "don't like" list than a "private" list.. but really.. aren't these the things that should probably better be kept private on a dating site?
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
you design or create anything or think about it a lot

people often don't like you but you don't mean any harm.

have good color sense.

you want to have a nice date with me doing one of the following:

1) if you are a sporty type we can go to a park and find some rocks or pine cones and kick them around.

2) if you are into nature, we can find a place where tall grass grows and pick a piece of grass and see how many times we can fold it before it doesn't fold anymore. This is the most fun if the grass is a little dry so that you know you are done playing if it breaks!

3) if you are into music, we can go to a dump and find "olden times" telephone with the buttons that make the beeping sound when you push them. then we can try to play our favorite songs on the buttons.

Please do not all rush my message inbox at once. I have trouble keeping it open.