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38 M San Marcos, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 20
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I believe in love, chivalry, and true friendship. I believe in listening, mutual respect, and attention to details. I believe open & honest communication is essential to strong relationships.

I'm particular in my tastes, but I'm _open minded_. I'm not looking for perfection nor a perfect match.

I believe all relationships take work and I'm absolutely willing to make the necessary changes to accommodate anything that will help me grow and become a better person and partner.

I'm looking for something real, meaningful, and extraordinary.

I take pride in not being ordinary or 1 dimensional, but I also don't think I'm better than anyone else. We all have our strengths.

I'm probably guilty of being confident, but arrogant? No, I hope not. I don't ever want to be "that guy" -- he's a jerk.

I've been called "handsome" before, but it was dark they were probably drunk. I've also been told I'm charming, charismatic, and funny -- but I think I was being serious at the time. O_o

Friends say I'm difficult to describe -- be it from my profession, hobbies, or photos -- I'm not defined by what I do and I don't fit in a box. And I greatly prefer it that way.

INTEGRITY. It's very important to me. I could write a book on this, but I'm sure someone else already has, so I'll spare you.

While I think "core values compatibility" (sorry -- that sounds super nerdy) is important, I'm _not_ looking for a "match".

I think the best relationships are those in which couples fit together like pieces of a puzzle -- where they compliment each other's strengths and weaknesses and help each other grow and learn. I want that.

Health and fitness is an important part of my life. I figure it's probably important in my "match's" life also. I think fit women are sexy and I'd LOVE a workout/play partner to sweat with -- be it in the gym or out. If you had a super suit, you'd probably look good in it.

I love wit, intelligence, and people who are a positive force in the world. Curiosity, an adventurous mental attitude, and self-awareness is huge.

I think anything can be fun depending on how you do it and who you do it with. I'm all about learning trying new things and living life to the fullest -- so if there's something you like to do or simply want to try, I'll try it.

Underwater cake baking tango classes? What the hell, let's do it.

I hope to find a woman without children. Not because I don't love kids -- I do -- and I always somehow turn into the "kid magnet" at get togethers. I look forward to having children -- but that's the thing, I'd like to meet someone and go through that experience of being a first-time parent _with_ them. But again, I'm open-minded.

However it turns out, one of my primary goals in life is to be an amazing partner and an excellent dad (we're talking the "#1" variety). And I want the damn t-shirt to prove it.

But all in good time.

What else?

Automatic doors make me feel like a Jedi. And wearing suits make me feel like James Bond.

I think saying "Hey baby!" to babies is funny. And I sometimes make polite conversation with the check-out robot in the self-serve lane at the supermarket. "Did you scan your rewards card?" - Yup! "Please remember your receipt." - Whoa, almost forgot it! Thank you, robot lady!

If I think I can make someone laugh or smile, I often go out of my way to do so. Except right now, because I'm being like super duper serious. You can tell how serious I am by my use of "super duper".

When I pull out a "super duper", you know serious shit is going down. I don't always swear, but when I do, there's usually a "super duper" involved.

Actually, that's not true, but it is funny. Maybe I'll add it to my list of charming eccentricities.

Ok, hold on. Where was I? ... Getting ready to close this thing out, I think.

I should point out that due to how I work, I'm geographically flexible and willing to relocate under the right circumstances. (Twue wuv bwings people togeder).

There's more to me than this, but this is just a taste anyway. And if you made it this far down, thank you.

I will leave you with this:

Whether it's online dating or in real life, the right person will come along when the time is right! So if you're almost fed up with looking -- or you've had a series of awful dates -- don't lose hope! Random GOOD things happen to people ALL the time!

EVERYTHING we experience in life helps prepare us for the next thing and contrast is good! So a "bad date" definitely gives you something to appreciate when a truly can't-stop-smiling-about-it one comes along.

Sadly, this box still says almost nothing about me, but I'm optimistic that it will resonate with the person it was intended for - if that's you, come say hello.
What I’m doing with my life
Writing, arting, photographing, adventuring, and humoring. And nothing else. Because that would be too much.
I’m really good at
Creatively arranging letters to form words, sentences, and crap, I forgot what I was going to say. No. Wait. That was it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm not a huge fan of listing favorites because I always feel doing so is somehow at the exclusion of whatever it is I don't remember at the time... but here is a short list (from a much larger one) to show that we might have a mutual interest in awesome things...

Say Anything
The Princess Bride
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
Lawrence of Arabia
Galaxy Quest
Cool Hand Luke

Learning: (I love to learn)
TED talks
James Burke: Connections documentary series (although dated, is still amazing).

TV / Netflix: (I don't own a TV)
Arrested Development
Game of Thrones
It's Always Sunny...

Books: (I'm an avid reader and am usually in the process of reading at least 3 books at any given time)
Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy (anything Douglas Adams)
A Short History of Nearly Everything (anything Bill Bryson)
The Alchemist
Anything Calvin & Hobbes

Kind of covers the whole horizon depending on my mood.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Your momma.

*That's a **joke.

**A your momma joke.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sleeping through 3/4 of it, I think.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
As a child, I used to think the speed of light was how fast you could flick a light switch.

True story.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–37
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You are:

Fun, funny, fit, open-minded, positive, smarter than the average bear -- and you appreciate the same in people...

And you think:

1. We might possibly have a physical & intellectual connection


2. You're not entirely sure about the above, but you're really stubborn and/or confident and you just want to write and don't really care what I say -- because YOU have something to say...


And hey -- it's just a fact (at this point) that I don't reply to everyone. And I'm sorry.

I try hard NOT to be a jerk in life, but time has told me that I have difficulty prioritizing replying to every single okcupid email above everything else I have going on right now.