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28 Brooklyn, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Dropped out of two-year college
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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Baker, musician, auto didact, lover and wrangler of dogs, cocktail nerd. Queer lady looking for people to spend time with.

I have a boyfriend. I seriously dig him and we are super lucky to be making this poly thing work. You must be cool with that sort of thing.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
On a hiatus from animal rescue career to sling coffee and cocktails in Red Hook.

Trying to plan fundraisers for animal rescue, any suggestions?

I can't seem to find enough DIY punk shows, please help me in this.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Working with animals.

Making a fool of myself (e.g. singing songs to inanimate objects and doing jigs while working).

Stress reading. Seriously, when I'm stressed I'll go through a book a day.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know why but I get stopped to give directions all the time. Maybe I look like I know where I'm going.

I should probably change this as ever since I got an undercut people have stopped asking me for directions so....maybe undercut?

UPDATE: People have started asking me for directions again. I blame Miley.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Third Plate, 100 years of solitude, The Ethical Slut, The Sandman series, Snow Crash, Where the Sidewalk Ends, Good Omens, Physics of the Impossible, Ender's Game, The Amazing Adventures of Cavalier and Klay, Kraken, Lolita, Dune, Hero With A Thousand Faces, Blood Meridian, Windup Bird Chronicles, Bone, any books on folklore or mythology and I read books on geology for fun, don't judge, geology is awesome.

Tom Waits, Johnny Cash, Neutral Milk Hotel, Bob Dylan, Lou Reed, Thee Oh Sees, Velvet Underground, FIDLR, Shannon and the Clams, Screaming Females, Nobunny, The Cramps, Dave Von Ronk, Townes Van Zandt, Blind Willi Johnson, Sam Cooke, Sarah Vaughn, Bessie Smith, Billie Holliday, Gillian Welch, Vaughan Williams, Debussy, Shostakovich, Bach, Ravel.

I terribly miss the mexican food back home.
I'm big on baking but don't enjoy eating baked goods.
I much prefer honeydew to cantaloupe.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music (playing it, not just listening)
Movement (dancing, sex, biking, etc)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

Body mods.

Whether or not the fact that I'm unwilling to give up meat despite my work with animals is morally reprehensible.

The gender binary, feminism, kink, desire vs reality, polyamory/consensual nonmonogamy/open relationships, etc.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm just as likely to be getting stoned with my man watching TV on the couch as I am to be going to whatever raucous show seems appealing that week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am fairly convinced that this profile is not in any way a good representation of who I am.
You should message me if
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If you honestly have something interesting to say.

Want to chat about Joseph Campbell.

Want to chat while baking a pie and/or drinking some whiskey.

You want to take me on an adventure.

'I like aggressive women with a nerdy vibe.' There's a lot of truth in that....