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My self-summary
I'm an exceptionally happy, married man, and a new father! We welcomed our first child on July 4th, and every day has been a new learning experience. I have infinitely more respect for every parent out there..
I've been with my partner sidekickempress for over 8(!!) years, and we've been through a lot in that time. In 2010 we decided to try polyamory, since it fits with our philosophies of enjoying life and people. We don't want to deny ourselves experiences, and the opportunity for fulfilling relationships with other people. We've both dated outside of our marriage, and it's been pretty enlightening. It's taught us a lot about ourselves and our relationship. As a bonus, we've gotten to meet some excellent people! We've always talked about one day living in a community of close friends, so polyamory fits well with that idea as well. Why not live with friends and people with whom you have intimate relationships? We can't think of a good enough reason not to, either. So, yeah. We're working on that. My partner and I live with her other partner DRWise in the San Francisco bay area. It is quite nice to have a roommate and a built-in network.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now I'm working for an automotive dealership. I was a car salesman, but I've recently moved on to Finance Manager. *Now* you trust me, right? :P I'm always learning, and sales is a great fit for my personality. I look at it as the most interesting game I've ever played - trying to match someone with a protection product that works best for them taking into account an almost infinite number of variables... I find it enjoyable, and I'm good at it, so it works out pretty well! Also, paperwork paperwork paperwork. Plus side- we're in process of switching to full electronic signing! Finally...

I like almost anything having to do with the outdoors. I was in a frisbee league, I really want to play soccer again, I hike or go trail-running every week if I can, and I'm trying to make time for yoga and swimming! I'm also looking for someone to run with. I like to rock climb when I get the chance, ideally outdoors. Know any good spots?

I met my partner in an acting class, and we've worked on several theatre projects together and individually since then. I am exclusively an actor, while she does acting and directing. We are hoping to start an independent theatre company that is accessible physically and in attitude to people with disabilities.
I’m really good at
Making people laugh, listening, hugging (I'm told), imitating people, being a smartass.
The first things people usually notice about me
The fact that I'm a goofball, who is pretty outgoing, almost always smiling, and usually walking a dog - we adopted a rescue named Banshee. Oddly, despite her name, she is almost *always* silent... Also, nine times out of ten I'm either wearing a child, or pushing a stroller. Dad lyfe?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Farenheit 451, Animal Farm, The Science of Fear, Switching Time, every now and then a gratuitous Tom Clancy novel.

Pulp Fiction, Get Shorty, Snatch, Dazed and Confused, Fight Club, Dark Knight (the whole trilogy, really), Out Cold, That Thing You Do!, Legends of the Fall, Super Troopers, The King's Speech... I could literally fill pages with movies I like. I can also quote most of them unnaturally well.

I don't have cable, but Netflix comes through with White Collar, Dexter, and Face Off ( I usually hate elimination shows, but that one is just incredibly cool ).

Music is pretty eclectic - anything from AC/DC, White Stripes, OK Go, The Beatles, Bullets and Octane, lately the Black Keys and Jack White's new solo stuff... I stick mostly to rock, but I can listen to almost anything.

Food is something I have been exploring more recently. I enjoy trying new things and I'm always interested in finding a new favorite spot. Like almost every other white dude in San Francisco, I love curry and ramen, which are plentiful near work.
The six things I could never do without
The happiness of those close to me
some kind of vehicle - just got a new MINI Cooper Clubman (stick-shift, of course), but I make it a point to ride my bicycle as part of my commute every day. Note: auto-correct thinks 'commute' should be 'conjure'.
A way to keep in touch with friends- I tend to be the one that randomly calls people out of the blue to catch up
a job - I would go crazy without something to keep me focused (edit: I do NOT need a job to keep busy! I've been a stay-at-home dad for a month, and it's great! I don't want to go back to work...)
open space - there is SO MUCH to do in the bay area. I will never be able to complete it all...
ethnic food. and american food. food in general. I like it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the human mind - I was a psych major, and one of the things that I enjoy most about acting is trying to figure out other peoples' minds. I'm not always very good at it, but I find it fascinating

I also fantasize about going to sleep at 9pm and getting 10 hours of sleep. It never happens though. I have much more important things to do than go to sleep at 9, but it's still fun to think about.
On a typical Friday night I am
Catching up on emails for work, walking the dog, visiting people, or hanging out at home on most occasions. During the summer months, i try to make it to Off The Grid at Fort Mason every Friday that i get the chance because FOODS TRUCKS. they also come to El Cerrito weekly on Wednesdays, which is more convenient than the event in SF. And they come to Larkspur on Sundays! I'm a food truck groupie, apparently.
I work weekends, so my nights for going out are actually Tuesday and Wednesday at the moment. That usually just entails going on a hike with the dog and maybe friends during the day, and having a whiskey at home that night. Enthralling, yes?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have never eaten brussel sprouts
You should message me if
Drop me a line if you have questions about polyamory - it seems to be a pretty good ice breaker. That, and it's a lot of fun to trade stories about how other poly folks ended up in that style of relationship.

Also, if you know the bay area better than me (so, basically everyone), TELL ME ALL OF THE COOL THINGS THAT I NEED TO GO DO/SEE/CONSUME/POKE-WITH-STICKS.

Or, you know, if you want to go rock climbing. Or running. Or just talk over coffee (hot chocolate for me!) or over the internet(s). I try to get back to people in a reasonable amount of time, but as my life is generally chaotic, sometimes it takes a few days.

Additionally, if we're a high percentage match, we should be friends. Seriously.