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48 F Memphis, TN

My Details

Last Online
Feb 17
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Norwegian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Quirky. Authentic. Centered. Kind. Goofy. Sapiosexual. Upbeat. Witty. "Likes" bad movies. Interesting. Curious.

Travel both on and off the beaten path is fun sometimes! I like to explore and read a lot about where I'm going. I want to see the funky things. Visiting the Mustard Museum in Madison, Wisconsin to see thousands of jars of mustard from all over the world was incredible. Where else can you get a shirt that says "Poupon U"? Have you been to Spook Caves in Iowa? Or the IUFOMRC in Roswell, NM? The last one is laugh out loud funny. Dollywood is *not* on my bucket list.

I'm legally single. I'm not looking to dive in too fast. I like to get to know someone. Friends, companionship, fun.

If marriage is on your mind in the near future, please move on. It's just not where I'm at at this point.

"YOU have body art?" Geez. I guess I don't look like "that" kind of girl. Whatever "that" kind of girl is. My body art suits me. I put elements together I liked. It's mine.

Makeup. I own it. I wear it now and then. A hat graces my head every day.

Don't judge a book by its cover. Nice girls have shadows too. I'm just not a raging "bad girl" on the outside.

I feel there's a time and place for some things. Being real is very important. I'm authentic, genuinely kind.

I'm rather terrible at fast recall trivia games despite having a large handle on lots of seemingly useless info. Like I said "seemingly useless". Like where can you get a great deal on tires consistently? If you guessed Tire Rack, you would be going my way.

I'm not very dogmatic on politics or religion. While I identify as an agnostic atheist, I find some of the Buddhist ideas interesting from a perspective on how to live a better life with less suffering. I've been working through Tara Brach's True Refuge, for example.

If being religious is important in someone you date, that's good to know. I'm not that person. I respect your choice to be a believer. And I expect you'll respect mine to not be a non-believer. I don't need another toaster, so no worries about me attempting to convert you to being non-religious.

Karaoke makes me giggle.

I pulled a few teats in my youth. Of the bovine variety. I grew up on a dairy farm in Wisconsin.

I am wonderfully imperfect. I frustrate myself at times.

A proper car has three pedals: accelerator, brake and a clutch AKA (wo)man pedal. For non-gear heads: manual transmission vehicle or "stick". I like The Stig. Did you know that only 15% of drivers in the US drive a manual transmission vehicle? Hopefully that will help you when you play fast recall trivia.

I am a "damn Yankee" living in the South. I'm really a Cheesehead melted in the South. If Salavador Dali had only melted cheese wedges and wheels rather than clocks in that painting.....

A few lines from some fave movies:
Have you seen my stapler?
Welcome to Costco. I love you.
Are you the Keymaster?
First you wanna kill me. Now you wanna kiss me. Blow.
Hmm. Asps. Deadly. You go first.
So, what do you say you do here?
It's got electrolytes. It's what plants crave.
Okay you primitive screw heads.
This is my brother Ruprecht.
I'm on the Garth Brooks Juice Diet.

And as that old sage Weird Al says "Dare to be Stupid".
What I’m doing with my life
I am a chemist by training with a music background. I design flavors.

I completed making my first shoes in August 2013. They are imperfect just like the maker. For my first experience, I'm thrilled with the result. I wear them everyday to work. Leather hides a multitude of sins.

I need a vacation from my vacation. Do you? ;-)

I watched Sharknado. Oh yes.

Hanging out with friends. Pursuing my interests. Living centered.

Got my 28 year old Cannondale SR-500 back from a major overhaul after many years hanging in the garage. Forgotten. It sat. Stifled. No longer. First ride had three stops to adjust the seat and handlebars. Another couple of rides before I dare to don the clipless cleated shoes. Then I'll wonder why I didn't from the get go. Ah, dear friend, cherry bruises ought to rise from better stories than "I fell over because I forgot to snap out of the pedal in time".

Meditation is a newer interest. I have a daily secular practice. Meditation really is less of a "woo woo" experience. The practice for me is practice redirection of focus from my run away thoughts back to the breath.

The mind really is a neat place. I'm looking at it from a different angles these days. I'm fascinated.

Running. I'm coming back from a knee injury after my first full marathon. Once I'm back on track, back on the bike, and perhaps KravMaga.... Or cross fit (rabdo can stay away)... Or ?

Connecting to others.

I am exploring the authentic me - an internal "Indiana Jones" experience. Dig, baby. Dig.

I'm building new skills. Better communication. Daring more.

Being authentic. Being real.
I’m really good at
A smorgasbord of stuff! If I'm interested, I tend to become competent in that arena. I adore learning.

I'm fairly adept at writing fiction and poetry, creating jewelry, sewing, knitting, landscaping, yarn spinning, gardening and what not. I really like to bake.

I see a recipe or a pattern as a guideline rather than a "set in stone" deal. I'll veer from the instructions after following the instructions one time. I like to get a feel for stuff. Leads to frustration at times. That's what learning is - failure, frustration and success.

Note: mayonnaise can make an acceptable oil and egg substitute in a recipe. Miracle Whip or other salad dressing is basically mayo with some vinegar and sugar added to it. I can report that adding a little baking soda to the Miracle Whip to neutralize the acid from the vinegar will not make it acceptable for a substitute for eggs and oil in a recipe. Trust me. Really.

I like a challenge. I tend not to give up easily. In the midst of the angst and confusion, the mind is working. Often a few more steps leads to a solution.

I'm a decent problem solver. Growing up on a family dairy farm was a great training ground. There's not much money so creative solutions are a must. Extrapolating from what I know and juxtaposing ideas from seemingly unrelated areas can lead to some workable, unique solutions. Sometimes, it totally bombs. And then I did learn something. What not to do next time. See the 'Miracle Whip with baking soda is not a sub for eggs and oil in a recipe' above.

I'd never made shoes before so... I went to a "classic men's" shoe class in August. I adore my shoes.

I assembled my new drill press last night. I do like tools. I kept breaking my heavy metal punch on 23 gauge stainless steel. Now, I can just break a drill bit now and then.

I listen well. Being heard is sometimes what someone needs. I also want to be heard.

In the zombie Apocolypse, you'll want to know me. Really.
The first things people usually notice about me
My laugh spilling out from beneath my hat.

Guy friends say my boobs. Just saying.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy reading books. I follow my interest.

Favorite books include Dan Simmon's Hyperion series, Ender's Game, Heinlein's Stranger in a Strange Land, Preston & Child's Pendergast novels, Fannie Flagg (anything she writes). Richard Feynman is a wonderful writer. Letters from the Earth by Mark Twain. I found interesting - God's Problem: How the Bible Fails to Answer Our Most Important Question - Why We Suffer by Bart Ehrman. Anything by Bart Ehrman. Free Will by Sam Harris. The Magic of Reality by Richard Dawkins. The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell.

Faves in the personal development genre include The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris, True Refuge by Tara Brach, Wherever You Go There You are by Jon Kabat-Zinn, Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life by James Hollis, What Matters Most: Living a Considered Life by James Hollis.

I like a wide range of movie genres. The exception is horror or movies with a lot of killing in it. Not really my thing.

I laughed my ass off at the Hangover, Army of Darkness, Office Space, Idiocracy, So I Married an Axe Murder and Napoleon Dynamite. I also like movies such as Out of Africa, the Joy Luck Club, Smoke Signals, Girl with the Dragon Tattoo.

I "like" really bad movies too. My friends get together to "watch" this "genre" of lovelies like Frankenfish, SharkNado, Rubber, Troll 2. One that was too good to be described as "bad enough" was Dale and Tucker Vs. Evil - damn funny movie, even if it is a bit gory at times. Im not a gore fan, but the gore was "humorous". "Wash" from Firefly was one of the lead actors in it. Often the only redeeming values is the commentary from those present.

I don't watch much cable TV now as I've not had cable for a year or so. I do watch a few shows through Netflix and Hulu Plus. Faves include Top Gear, Supernatural, Star Trek, Firefly. The Sherlock Holmes series from the UK with Benedict Cumberbatch is top notch! I greatly enjoyed The Jewel in the Crown mini-series from A&E featuring Charles Dance and Art Malik. I've been catching Game of Thrones with friends.

Music. My tastes are rather eclectic and broad ranging. I enjoy Passion Pit, Tegan and Sara, The Joy Formiddable, Doc Severinson, Tito Puente, Harry Connick Jr, Chris Botti, Mute Math, Rush, the Temper Trap, Metric, Hanson (post MMM Bop - hey, I'm being authentic here), Sara Gazarek, Templeton Thompson and Sam Gay, El Ten Eleven, Taylor Eigsti, Head and the Heart, Boards of Canada, Kate Bush, Bjork. You get the picture.

I like music which has meaning to me. I like discovering new music- Pandora is awesome for that.

On the classical / orchestral side of the fence, A few composers I like include Holst, Bartok, Shostakovich, Prokofiev, Chopin, Debussy.

I just like music that connects with me. It's not about it being the best. It's about that undeniable connection. One song will grab you and the next leaves you cold. Amazing.

Food. I'm an omnivore. I do tend to eat animal protein more as a condiment than the center of the plate. Occasionally, a steak just tastes right.

I like to cook. I enjoy going out sometimes. I like to try different restaurants that have something that I can't make easily at home. Dining out is partly about the experience of what you can't get at home.

I like restaurants that prepare their food back of the house. I'm just as happy at Central BBQ as I am at McEwens downtown or LeChardonnay (Grateful Nothing's Dead pizza is nom nom) or Kwik Chek (bi bim bop) or ChiWawa! Memphis has a wealth of tasty dine out options.

I like to bake. Move over refrigerated cookie dough. Mine waits in the freezer to be "baked on demand". In fact, I make a killer chocolate chip cookie. A friend asked for me to make my chocolate chip cookies for his groom's cake. Some skipped the wedding cake to eat cookies.

Anatomically "mostly correct" 'parts' cakes have been gifted to friends on their birthdays.

A girl has to have skills.
The six things I could never do without
Well, let's see. I will further expound down the road as time permits. Also subject to change.
1. Being real (the alternative blows)
2. Laughter
3. Books
4. Independence
5. Connection
6. Center
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Got my SCOBY ready to feet with sweetened ice tea. Let the fermentation begin!

Why do some people feel like they deserve for others to punish them for saying "no thanks, I'm not interested"?

Wanting to freshen my sourdough starter to make some fresh country bread.

Digging in the dirt, learning. Peter Gabriel's "Digging in the Dirt" comes to mind. Great tune.

Invisalign. Not really. But crooked teeth have character. Right?

I've been unpacking my life, surprised at times what's been in the luggage. last purple of years habe been filled with intense growth. Really settling into myself. Being comfortable in my own skin.

Why my 17 year old cat suddenly become a great mouser. She has presented two "subjects" in the last few months.

Finding center. What that means to me. How to surf the ebb and flow.

Letting go of resistance. This one's a real bitch. Practice helps.
On a typical Friday night I am
It varies.

My board gaming buds left in August. Sad face. I'm not board gaming every Friday night now. I used to play Pandemic, Hammsterrole, Power Grid, Hive, Lords of Vegas, San Juan with good friends.

Being social in small groups.

Fridays are an open book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
See "Miracle Whip with a little baking soda is not a suitable substitute for eggs and oil in a recipe" above.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 35–52
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Have you read my profile? Reading is fundamental. So is comprehension.

You want to laugh.

You are independent and don't "need" me to fill you up.

You are looking for dating or companionship, short or long term. Life hasn't a guarantee.

You taken time to fill in your profile, answered some questions and uploaded a picture or two. It matters. I do notice. A little effort.... A match of 0-0-0 will get a 0 response.

You like a good conversation.

Young whippersnappers, thanks for realizing I can teach you a thing or two. Others are looking for your all night attention. In other words, send a message to someone else.

I'm not interested in being "the other woman" or being a party to deceit or being in an affair. Problems can be hard to work through alone - get professional help then. A loss of trust is extremely painful.

Yes. We are all here because we want something. A bit of politeness gets you much farther than immediate "hot" pursuit. A conversation works nicely. That said, describing us sharing bodily fluids in the first 8 sentences will have a deleterious effect upon my responding to your inquiry. Just saying.