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49 Memphis, TN Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–52
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Aug 26, 2014
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Norwegian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Quirky. Authentic. Centered. Kind. Goofy. Sapiosexual. Upbeat. Witty. "Likes" bad movies. Interesting. Curious.

Yes, my lips are naturally that color. I despise lipstick. As a trumpet player, I never took to it. I'm not gonna wipe off my lips before playing. In fact, I don't like Chapstick. I prefer SoftLips by Mentholatum.

Travel both on and off the beaten path is fun sometimes! I like to explore and read a lot about where I'm going. I'm planning less these days and just trying things. I want to see the funky things. Visiting the Mustard Museum in Madison, Wisconsin to see thousands of jars of mustard from all over the world was incredible. Where else can you get a shirt that says "Poupon U"? Have you been to Spook Caves in Iowa? Or the IUFOMRC in Roswell, NM? The last one is laugh out loud funny.

I'm recently divorced. I'm not looking to dive in too fast. I like to get to know someone. Friends, companionship, fun.

Sold my house. Still moving into my place in Midtown.

If marriage is on your mind in the near future, please move on. It's just not where I'm at right now.

"YOU have body art?" Geez. I guess I don't look like "that" kind of girl. Whatever "that" kind of girl is. It can't be seen unless I wear a tank top.

Makeup. I own it. I wear it now and then. A hat graces my head every day.

Don't judge a book by its cover. Nice girls have shadows too. I'm just not a raging "bad girl" on the outside.

I feel there's a time and place for some things. Being real is very important. I'm authentic, genuinely kind. I don't care much for phony people.

I'm terrible at fast recall trivia games despite having a large handle on lots of seemingly useless info. Where can you get a great deal on tires consistently? If you guessed Tire Rack, you would be going my way.

I'm not very dogmatic on politics or religion. While I identify as an agnostic atheist, I find some of the Buddhist ideas interesting from a perspective on how to live a better life with less suffering.

If being religious is important in someone you date, that's good to know. I'm not that person. I respect your choice to be a believer. Also, I expect you'll respect mine to not be a non-believer. I don't need another toaster, so no worries about me attempting to convert you to being non-religious.

I pulled a few teats in my youth. Of the bovine variety. I grew up on a family dairy farm in Wisconsin.

I am wonderfully imperfect. I frustrate myself at times. I'm finding that giving myself space to 'just be' matters a lot these days. I don't do well with being rushed.

A proper car has three pedals: accelerator, brake and a clutch AKA (wo)man pedal. For non-gear heads: manual transmission vehicle or "stick". I like The Stig. Did you know that only 15% of drivers in the US know how to drive a manual transmission vehicle? Hopefully that will help you when you play fast recall trivia.

I am a "damn Yankee" living in the South. I'm really a Cheesehead melted in the South. If Salavador Dali had only melted cheese wedges and wheels rather than clocks in that painting.....

A few lines from some fave movies:
Have you seen my stapler?
Welcome to Costco. I love you.
Are you the Keymaster?
First you wanna kill me. Now you wanna kiss me. Blow.
So, what do you say you do here?
It's got electrolytes. It's what plants crave.
Okay you primitive screw heads.
This is my brother Ruprecht.
I'm on the Garth Brooks Juice Diet.

And as that old sage Weird Al says "Dare to be Stupid".
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a chemist by training with a music background. I design flavors. I rather like math.

I completed making my first shoes in 2013. They are imperfect just like the maker. For my first experience, I'm thrilled with the result.

Hanging out with friends. Pursuing my interests. Living centered. Attempting to.

Got my 28 year old Cannondale SR-500 back from a major overhaul after many years hanging in the garage. I like being out on my bike. Feels good to ride. Getting my sit bones in shape for longer rides! Riding has one awesome aspect - a breeze!

The mind really is a neat place. I'm looking at it from a different angles these days. I'm fascinated.

Running is back on track. I'm starting to take yoga to counterbalance the effects running. I just want to try new things! Soccer? Kayaking? KravMaga?

Connecting and opening up to others.

I am exploring the authentic me - an internal "Indiana Jones" experience. Dig, baby. Dig.

I'm building new skills. Better communication. Daring more. Kinda scary. And doing it anyway.

Being authentic. Being real.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Not being pushy.

I'm stopping just to observe more than ever. I can be verbose, in case it isn't obvious. Or spare like when I write poetry. I don't wrote flowery stuff. I'm not a typical girl. I'm just this one.

I'm fairly adept at writing fiction and poetry, creating jewelry, sewing, knitting, landscaping, gardening and what not. I really like to bake.

Note: mayonnaise can make an acceptable oil and egg substitute in a recipe. Miracle Whip or other salad dressing is basically mayo with some vinegar and sugar added to it. I can report that adding a little baking soda to the Miracle Whip to neutralize the acid from the vinegar will not make it acceptable for a substitute for eggs and oil in a recipe. Trust me. Really.

I like a challenge. I tend not to give up easily.

I'd never made shoes before so... I went to a "classic men's" shoe class in August 2013. I adore my shoes.

I like tools. I kept breaking my heavy metal punch on 23 gauge stainless steel. Now, I can just break a drill bit now and then with my drill press. Shimmed my rental property front door hinge so the deadbolt would engage. Practical describes me well.

In the zombie Apocolypse, you'll want to know me. Really.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My laugh spilling out from beneath my hat.

Guy friends say my boobs, like Joan on Mad Men.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I enjoy reading books. I follow my interest.

I've read more non-fiction the last few years. In fiction, I enjoy a good story.

Favorite books include Dan Simmon's Hyperion series, Neil Gaiman's Ocean at the End of the Lane, Heinlein's Stranger in a Strange Land, Preston & Child's Pendergast novels. Richard Feynman is a wonderful writer. Letters from the Earth by Mark Twain. I found interesting - God's Problem: How the Bible Fails to Answer Our Most Important Question - Why We Suffer by Bart Ehrman.

I like a wide range of movie genres. The exception is horror or movies with a lot of killing in it. Not really my thing. I'm watching more indies lately. I am catching up via my netflix queue.

I was bowled over by Breaking the Waves with Emma Watson and Stellan Skarsgård in Lars Vin Trier's film. Monsieur Lazhar from Music Box films is quiet, intense, amazing.

I laughed my ass off at the Hangover, Army of Darkness, Office Space, Idiocracy, So I Married an Axe Murder and Napoleon Dynamite. I also like movies such as Out of Africa, the Joy Luck Club, Smoke Signals, Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. Recently, I discovered Wes Anderson.

Ok. Two words. Fight Club.

I "like" really bad movies too. It's more about the group commentary with friends - mst3k style. My friends get together to "watch" this "genre" of lovelies like Frankenfish, SharkNado, Rubber, Troll 2. One that was too good to be described as "bad enough" was Dale and Tucker Vs. Evil - damn funny movie, even if it is a bit gory at times. I've seen some real horrid turkeys like Blubberella.

Vikings on the History Channel. Excellent. Faves include Mad Men, Breaking Bad, Top Gear, Supernatural, Star Trek, Firefly. The Sherlock Holmes series from the UK with Benedict Cumberbatch is top notch! I greatly enjoyed The Jewel in the Crown mini-series.

Music. My tastes are rather eclectic. From Passion Pit to Tito Puente to Bartok, I like what I like. ;-) Nick Drake? Divine. Too bad that he's gone now. Arturo Sandoval is in my play list.

I like music which has meaning to me. I like discovering new music- Pandora is awesome for that.

Food. I'm an omnivore. I do tend to eat animal protein more as a condiment than the center of the plate. Occasionally, a steak just tastes right.

I like to cook. I enjoy going out sometimes. I like to try different restaurants that have something that I can't make easily at home. Dining out is partly about the experience of what you can't get at home.

I like restaurants that prepare their food back of the house. I'm just as happy at Central BBQ as I am at McEwens downtown or LeChardonnay (Grateful Nothing's Dead pizza is nom nom) or Kwik Chek (bi bim bop) or Noodle Star in Bartlett! Memphis has a wealth of tasty dine out options. I'm just exploring the gamut.

I like to bake. I've been focusing on bread lately. I make a mean rye. My rum-soaked cherry and pecan bread is fabulous. A dear friend said brandy butter was tasty on it. I've made my own cookie cutters, like Darwin fish and the FSM.

A girl has to have skills.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Well, let's see.
1. My step-daughter even though she's not a thing. I raised her. She's my kid.
2. Books
3. Being real (the alternative blows)
4. Laughter
4. Independence
5. Connection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Digging in the dirt, learning. Peter Gabriel's "Digging in the Dirt" comes to mind. Great tune.

Invisalign. Not really. But crooked teeth have character. Right? Plus, there are better ways to use what I earn. Like travel.

I've been unpacking my life, surprised at times what's been in the luggage. Last couple of years have been filled with intense growth. Really settling into myself. Being comfortable in my own skin.

Finding center. What that means to me. How to surf the ebb and flow.

Letting go of resistance. This one's a real bitch. Practice helps.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It varies.

My board gaming buds left in August. Sad face. I'm not board gaming every Friday night now. I used to play Pandemic, Hammsterrole, Power Grid, Hive, Lords of Vegas, San Juan with friends.

Taking it one Friday at a time.

I might be at the Levitt Shell with my lil dog, TJ.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
See "Miracle Whip with a little baking soda is not a suitable substitute for eggs and oil in a recipe" above.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Have you read my profile? Reading is fundamental. So is comprehension.

All zeroes in your profile (0% match-0% friend-0% enemy) gets zero response.

You like laughing.

You like doing stuff.

You like kindness. You are kind.

You are independent and don't "need" me to fill you up.

You're not into pressure or dying to get married.

You like a good conversation.

Young whippersnappers, I'm not looking for notches in my bedpost. Translation: find a cougar. I'm not one.

I'm not interested in being "the other woman" or being a party to deceit or being in an affair. If this is you, don't message me.

Yes. We are all here because we want something. A bit of politeness gets you much farther than immediate "hot" pursuit. A conversation works nicely. That said, describing us sharing bodily fluids in the first 8 sentences will have a deleterious effect upon my responding to your inquiry.

Just because you want to.