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31 M Denton, TX

My Details

Last Online
Aug 24
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Random thought of the day: misogyny is the new racism, and reproductive rights is the new Southern Strategy.

Big Five personality traits:
Openness to experience - high
Conscientiousness - medium-high
Extraversion - medium
Agreeableness - medium-high
Neuroticism - low

Other random adjectives:
Progressive - Socially and fiscally very liberal, but completely non-dogmatic. I think the GOP is irredeemably corrupt, but I'd love to seesome kind of reasonable opposition to the Democrats (which I generally see as the lesser of two evils).

Socialist - I think the Scandinavian countries do government right. Note that they're mixed economies like everyone else - elements of capitalism and socialism. They just seem to have a better mix, judging by all available data I can find.

Atheist - I believe in no form of the supernatural and I think organized religion has been a net negative for humanity, but I don't judge any individual person for being religious unless their personal beliefs are harmful. On the other hand, recent reading of Jonathan Haidt has made me think human psychology includes a sense of divinity or spirituality... and without any supernatural or metaphysical attachments, I feel it too. Being in nature makes me feel alive and happy and awake beyond any reasonable standard. So does learning. So do good discussion and good friends. Hate to say it, but I think the new atheist movement is missing something here.

Secular humanist - I think the highest possible good is in elevating the human condition. Sound schmaltzy? It is. But it's also a really good idea. And before you think I sound like a hippie, I'm generally pro-nuclear power and anti-alternative medicine (although, as with anything else, show me the data and I'll change my mind).

Colossal flaming nerd - in case it wasn't already obvious. I'm also sapiosexual (brains are hot, and brains attached to honest, happy, self-actualized people are even hotter), academically-minded (hoping to start working on a Masters in political science next year), and puntastic. Ye have been warned. :p

I love the open-minded exchange of ideas in academic communities. I got my degrees in philosophy (epistemology and ethics) and English, but still audit classes whenever I have the time. I'm happiest when I'm knee-deep in half a dozen different fields.

I'm of the opinion that a lot of our current political mess is due to the debate becoming ideological rather than pragmatic, and that it's much harder to compromise or reason with ideology than it is with differing interpretations of data. It's an interesting problem, and one I'm already planning research on.

SocialLiz and 1fineDove are my good friends, and they're both beautiful people. If you like women, or friends, you should talk to them.

NOTE: I've talked to a lot of women on OKC who are apparently perceived as too forward or slutty if they send the first message. I've also talked to some really nice transgender/transsexual people who pretty much expected me to stop talking to them after they mentioned being trans. That crap always makes me sad.

Women who send the first message, you're fighting a really shitty form of sexism that has no place in this century. Props!

Trans people who send really nice messages even when you're expecting the response to be some kind of bigoted outrage, you're awesome too. And for the record, one of the great things about being bi is that I can date people based on their character instead of their plumbing. Trans people, if we get along well and I like you, I'll like your body too.
What I’m doing with my life
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Professionally, I'm the media and technology manager for a local business. In my spare time, I'm a small business technical consultant, writer, editor, tutor, and Oxford comma evangelist.

I also teach and study martial arts. I have a black sash in kung fu, working on a black belt in Kenpo, semi-competent in Brazilian jiu-jitsu, and practiced half a dozen other styles up to mid-level ranking. I teach a much-condensed mix of everything I've learned - martial arts is stuck in some really bad teaching methods, and I think it benefits heavily from a more modern scientific approach. Shoot me a message if you're interested - now that I'm making plenty of money, I teach for free... and I'd love a sparring/training partner too. (hint hint) ;)

Academically, I'm excited about grad school and make an effort to stay up to date on as many fields as possible. Everything from physics to social science to positive psychology has good ideas, and I absorb as much as I can make time for.

Socially, I'm looking to expand my circle of friends. Always enjoy meeting new people... if you turn out to be more than a friend, that's even better!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Nerdy shit. Logical fallacies (what's in Aristotle's pants? A logical phallus), teaching, learning, data analysis, punning, literature (do you bite your thumb at me sir?), writing (beware: punny), Dungeons and Dragons (disclaimer: I'm not an obsessive gamer; it's just a fun excuse to sit around and roll dice and have a beer every so often), chess... well, really everything on this page is pretty damn nerdy, as is having a dating profile long enough to merit a hard cover publication. I own my nerdity and try to make it look good. ;)

Wordy shit. I've been an independent writer and editor for almost a decade now. I wield my Oxford comma and my Manuals of Style like a Paladin wields his... well, actually I'm a linguistic descriptivist and not horribly interested in preserving archaic, pointlessly counterintuitive elements of language. Science has repeatedly shown that dialects and pidgins from Ebonics to the Southern drawl to the Pleasing Midwest Baritone are all fine methods of communication for anyone proficient in their use. The Queen's English may be traditional, but it turns out the Queen was kind of a mediocre linguist. The Oxford comma is legit though.

Random shit. I'm a good cook and a better back rubber. I can fix pretty much anything that can break on a computer (not much good on a car yet, but I'm learning). I generally have zero artistic talent, but I've made some pretty intricate wood sculptures and my living room is well-organized and comfy. I'd probably make a kickass hobbit. Or maybe I'm more of a Gandalf, considering my height and capacity for discord. I don't mind conjuring a cheap trick once in a while.

Is it just me, or are the Nazgul really just emo? They dress in black and spend their lives chasing a shiny bauble and leave misery in their wake. :p

And worse? They were emo before it was cool. Hipster emo! No wonder everyone's terrified.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I talk incredibly quickly sometimes, and occasionally my old Minnesotan accent shows itself as well, eh hoser? If you have trouble understanding me at first, feel free to tell me to hit the brakes. I'm not sensitive about it...

...Or really anything else. I have friends from across the religious and political spectra and we all get along fine. A few friends tease me for being an atheist, one thinks I'm crazy for not buying his conspiracy theories, and I regularly find myself in the middle of an ongoing debate between sociologists who are all about huge surveys with a million data points vs behavior analysts who are all about single subject design. My best friend regularly teases me for my silly philosophy degree, and I tease her right back for her applied arithmetic degree (sociology). Life is so much more fun when you've got a reasonably thick skin. :D

Or maybe just that I'm tall and have a fuzzy head. And my profile is OMFGHUGE! What can I say? I'm wordy.

Also, I'm vaguely aware of something called a dating game. It has weird rules like that you're supposed to wait some number of days before contacting someone for a second date. Err, to put it mildly, fuck that shit. If we go on a date and I like you, I'll probably ask about another date within 24 hours. Life is too short for silly games. The dating game is kinda like global thermonuclear war in that way: the only way to win is not to play.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Fair warning: I read lots plus more.

-Favorite literary authors: James Joyce, Herman Melville, Robert Heinlein, Frank Herbert, Isaac Asimov, Mark Twain, Marvin Harris.
-Favorite philosophers: Aristotle, Marx, Hume, Locke, Mill, G.E. Moore, GEM Anscombe, John Rawls, Simon Blackburn, Sam Harris.
-Recent reads: Bonk (Mary Roach), The Happiness Hypothesis (Jonathan Haidt), The Righteous Mind (Haidt), God No! (Penn Jillette), The Moral Landscape (Sam Harris).
-Up next: Flourish (Martin Seligman), Wealth of Nations (Adam Smith). Yeah, Smith is way more conservative than I am, but it's one of those important books anyone interested in economics or poly sci should know... and Smith isn't nearly as conservative as his crazy followers make him out to be. ;)

Movies: Monty Python, Army of Darkness, Shaun of the Dead, A Boy and His Dog, Zombieland, Land of the Dead, The Thing, Dune, Delicatessen, Tremors, Equilibrium, LOTR, Young Frankenstein, Orgazmo.

Shows: Man vs Wild, Good Eats, Star Trek, South Park, Daily Show, Colbert Report, Rachel Maddow, Planet Earth/Human Planet, Shark Week, UFC, random science and nature documentaries. All very irregularly. I'm pretty sure I watch less than an hour a week on average. I've never had or wanted a TV - I download or Netflix things I like and watch on my laptop.

Music: Metallica, The Doors, Weird Al, Tim Minchin, Tom Lehrer, Man Man, They Might Be Giants, Trans-Siberian Orchestra, Tom Waits, Miles Davis. Just discovered Flobots and I'm in love with them. Also, crap tons of classical. Holst, Berlioz, Mussorgsky, Orff, Mozart (who doesn't like Mozart??)... ooh, the Red Army Choir is amazing. Some of the best in-the-zone work music ever.

Food: I'm an adventurous eater and a decent cook. I avoid fast food and highly processed food in general, and try to eat relatively little meat for environmental and ethical reasons. Aside from that, I'll eat pretty much anything. Spicy, bland, ethnic, whatever - love it all. Most of my meals are home-cooked, and my salmon is particularly awesome. :)

Favorite local restaurants: Gerhard's, Andaman, Fuzzy Taco, Beth Marie's, Yogurt Fusion, Chipotle, Matador, El Guapo, Taco Lady, Sukhothai II, and I Love Sushi.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Regular mental, physical, and social stimulation. I need things to think about, activities that make me feel exhausted and happy, and good friends. I really like meeting new people who have some common interests and a capacity for interesting conversation. (hint hint) :)

-A drama-free, baggage-free, junk-free lifestyle. I own a computer, clothes, books, a car, kitchen stuff, a tent, a bed, and a stereo. That's all I need, and all I want.

-Continual personal growth and self-improvement. If I feel stagnant, I start making radical changes until the feeling goes away.

-Decent income. Annoying, but it facilitates all the fun stuff I like doing.

-Basking in the afterglow of really good sex. Few things make me happier.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-I'm a hard determinist, but I still think we have free will. The fact that a determinist universe allows us to potentially predict future actions doesn't mean those actions aren't a choice. Else master chess players predicting the moves of rookies would be all we need to disprove free will.

-Politically, I'm a pragmatist first and an idealist... not at all. I generally think governments should be small enough to run efficiently, but big enough to make sure everyone gets a fair shot at living well and big enough to keep capitalism from running amok. I think education, healthcare, maternity and paternity leave, access to good schools, and legal representation should be free and universal. I think there should be zero tax on our first $40k of income, but much larger percentages charged on income above that level... and that taxes and responsible fiscal policy should completely prevent people from becoming ultra-rich - say, 99% tax rate on income above $1M/yr. The ultra-rich are inherently bad for the economy and have far too much power to unbalance our political system (see Prop 8 and Citizens United). We really need to reinstate the corporate charter. I'm also a big supporter of open government, and the lack of accountability and openness in the Obama administration is my single biggest criticism of him. Too bad third parties still aren't viable.

-I like the idea of organic food, but in practice it has a lot of problems. It's very expensive to get organic certification, which locks out smaller and less profitable farmers. And GMO crops should qualify - they're actually closer to nature than a lot of non-GMO crops. Difference: traditional selective breeding is a long and haphazard process. GMO accomplishes the same thing with far less risk of accidentally selecting for unwanted secondary traits. And I've yet to see any good medical evidence that GMOs pose a health hazard. If you have evidence to the contrary, I'd like to see it. ...And just so we're on the same page, I enjoy debate but I'm in it to learn, not to win. If you end up being right I'll be more than happy to eat some crow and buy you a beer. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Teaching, practicing, learning, reading, socializing, cooking in preparation for socializing, freelancing, or planning my next outdoors adventure. I succeed in making trips a bit less often than I succeed in planning them. Need more friends who have the time and inclination to come along (hint hint).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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For most of my life, I didn't think relationships were worth the effort and only pursued casual sex and friends with benefits. I'm happy to say that I've learned better.

Note that polyamory means that I sometimes maintain multiple relationships, not that I sleep with strangers. I'm friends with everyone, but selective with my partners.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 22–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re open-minded, intellectual, educated and passionate about something or many things, excited about life, and looking for someone to share it with. Other traits are certainly appealing, but that's really the core of what I'm looking for.

Note: As stated above, I'm polyamorous. That's not the same as being a swinger - I'm pretty selective with my partners, but I do sometimes have more than one. I'd be happy to talk about it if you're curious; it's an interesting subject and I think one that doesn't always get fair treatment.