If you are polyamorous, poly friendly, or poly curious AND you live near Los Angeles, or are willing to drive here, please join the Southern California Polyamory Meetup Group (click here) I am the Organizer of this Meetup, so let me know you found it on OKCupid :-). Events are generally held in the San Fernando Valley. Also, if you want to learn more about Polyamory, please click here and check out the books listed. I also have several articles about Polyamory on the About Us (click here) page from the Meetup.com site mentioned above. If you have questions about Polyamory, please do not hesitate to send me a message. :-)

Prologue:
Since so many seem to not read profiles all the way to the end, I am going to start off by saying I am in a relationship, several actually, and yes, they all know about one another. I am not looking for replacements!!! I am not looking for new relationships at this time nor am I looking for casual sex partners!!! I am on OKCupid to meet new people, make new friends and take the tests and compare scores with my other friends who are also on the site.

If you feel my profile is too long, feel free to leave, and don't bother messaging me. If you cannot take the time to read my profile, we will not have enough in common to even establish a friendship. (Yes, I recently asked someone to read my profile, they actually told me it was too long and that I should summarize it for them.) I have spent much time in writing it, and I find it a mark of respect if someone actually takes the time to read what I have written. I enjoy making new friends as I feel that one can never have too many. If, after reading the profile, you have more questions than you started with, or you are intrigued by something I said, please do send me a message. If you are looking for an easy lay, there are plenty of other sex oriented dating sites out there.

Taking a breath....ok, on to me :-)

I am Collared and owned, so any "new" love interests need to be run by my Master for His inspection and approval, remember that I am not looking for any new relationships or sex partners at this time. (If you do not know what this means, please message me and ask.). In addition to my Master, I am also soul-bonded to TeufelWolf. Fair warning, if you are not poly, or poly curious, we can only be friends. If you are looking for an easy lay, you are on the wrong profile. Please DO NOT message me asking if you can kiss my feet, ask for my telephone number, cyber, etc. I will either ignore you or post our resulting conversation to my journal for the amusement of everyone on OKCupid. All messages sent to me are forwarded, to my Master and to my partner(s) for our viewing pleasure. (This is to hopefully scare off the Horny Net Geeks "HNG's) If this does not scare you off, then by all means, keep reading :-)

I believe the Match function on OKC is very accurate once you have answered over 1000 questions. I highly recommend that everyone answer at least that many. All of my long term relationships match me at 80% and above. I love making new friends, so please do not hesitate to message me if you are looking for a friend. One can't have too many friends :-)

I am not your typical run of the mill American female, at least not according to society's norms. It is not that I try to go against them, I just don't fit the mold. I love to wear dresses, corsets and high heel boots with a leather miniskirt, but I am just as likely to be found wearing blue jeans and a t-shirt or a business suit. I am very dominant in my day to day living, but submissive in a relationship (once enough trust is built up). It is easy for me to switch roles in either situation when necessary (even though I may not like to switch). I fall somewhere in the middle of what society expects, and what it doesn't. Many find me an enigma when they first meet me, yet once they get to know me, I am easy to understand. I enjoy surprising people. I also enjoy being surprised. I walk the middle ground in most areas of my life. I seem to attract the extremes to me, pleasure and pain, light and dark, etc. I aspire to find the fulcrum between extremes and allow them to co-exist in harmony. More often than not, I am successful.

I am a 3rd degree Priestess. I practice eclectic Left Hand Path Paganism, always walking the line between the light and dark sides. Want to know more, just ask. I follow my own religious path, which I describe as being an eclectic left hand path (LHP) pagan practitioner who does not believe in actual deities, but does believe in the Quantum Physics theory of Observer Created Reality. I use the conceptual idea of Archetypes as a grouping of characteristics linked to a man made name representative of a specific deity or group of deities to focus my thought patterns to effect change in my life through the use of ritual. I am a full believer in The Secret, and in the theories proposed in The Celestine Prophecy. These in turn go right along with "The Law of Attraction."

I have 2 children, both boys who are the loves of my life. I have a BA in Child Development. I am an INFP - Healer (click here) on the Meyers Briggs personality rating scale. I am polyamorous, meaning I practice polyamory, (polyamoury). I am not interested in traditional single husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend relationships or polyfidelity. The model (click here) I base my relationships on is Multiple Primary Open relationship. Other words related to that topic include polyfidelity, fluid relationships (click here) and non-monogamy. I am bisexual, with a preference for men. I am currently involved in a multi-partner poly relationship, and have no desire to leave any of my partners, so please don't try to turn me monogamous. I have been monogamous in the past, and it just does not work for me, I have too much to give. I am Collared and Owned. - I prefer the term R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) to S.S.C (Safe, Sane, Consensual)I am very picky about my partners, and adhere to a strict fluid bond protocol within my relationships, and require my partners to do the same. Trust is the basis of a relationship, and the health of all members is of utmost importance.

I am currently the organizer for the Southern California Polyamory Meetup Group. (click here) Please feel free to join.

I am also raising my kids to the best of my ability. Although my partners do help me out with the kids, I am essentially a single mom. One of my children has been diagnosed with High Functioning Autistic Disorder which is similar to Asperger's Syndrome. Both disorders are on the Autism spectrum, for ease of reference usually shortened to the acronym ASD. Much of my time is currently spent getting his needs met. My other son has been diagnosed with ADHD-I, (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder - Inattentive subtype) and Dysthymic Disorder. My eldest will be starting online high school this year, so he is quite excited to be starting that. Both of my boys have been identified as highly gifted. Much of my time is currently spent addressing the special needs of my children.

I enjoy trying new things, and pushing my own limitations. My explorations have resulted in many changes over the past two years. I have come to the realization that I m not happy in monogamous relationships. My heart is way to big to be able to love only one person. I also do not like the baggage that goes along with most monogamous relationships. I also do not like the idea of needing a partner to change who they are to suit my needs, nor do I want to have to change who I am to suit them. I would much rather be able to accept what they bring to the relationship, and find another partner to fill in any gaps. (i.e. a male partner cannot fill the need I have of being with a woman)

I am really good at moderating discussions, getting people to see each others points of view. I am very good at knowing my own limitations, and am not afraid to speak up when need be. I am really good at reading other people's emotions, and have a knack for being able to see all sides of a situation.

I am good at offering advice, giving moral support, etc..... or so I have been told. I enjoy helping people as much as possible. I find it easier to keep my cool, than to lose it, and many people seem to respect the fact it is difficult to rile me.

I am tall, have long red hair, and green eyes. I am brutally honest. Many people make the assumption I am a fluffy bunny, and are surprised to find out I do have a very sharp set of fangs when I am crossed. My family and friends are my life, so don't even think ill of them.

Favorite Books are by the authors Christine Feehan, Mercedes Lackey, Andre Norton, Anne Bishop, Kate Forsyth, Anne Rice, Heinlein esp.Stranger in a Strange Land, and Kahlil Gibran. I also enjoy philosophy, mythology, psychology, and religion. Generally if it is dark romance, religion, philosophy, or child development related, I will read it.

Movies...good sci-fi. I will watch just about anything. I like horror, drama, action, dark humor, and docu-dramas. My favorite movie of all time is the original Dune. I also own a copy of Threads, an amazing realistic docu-drama of the aftermath of a nuclear attack.

Music...hmmm....Generally, I like goth, ambient, industrial, ethereal, and steam punk music. Here are a few of my favorite groups. Lesiem, QNTAL, Die Form, Lacrimosa, Pussance, Helium Vola, Midnight Syndicate, L'Ame Immortelle, Delerium, Enya, Dargaard, VNV Nation, Ah Cama Sotz, Hayden, Alexandre Desplat, Beethoven, Collection D'Arnell Andrea, Arcana, Dead Can Dance, Tchaikovsky, Clan of Xymox, Mussorgsky, Era, Evanescence, Holst, Fields of the Nephilim, The Retrosic, Silke Bischoff, Nick Cave, Viavaldi, Tangerine Dream, Weltenbrand, Gary Stadler, Sardonyx, Berloiz, Black Sabbath, Mozart, Nox Arcana, Inkubus Sukkubus, OLD Rush, OLD Depeche Mode, and various Hard Rock, Heavy Metal, and Alternative Artists. I haven't met a Classical composer I do not like, and if I have, I don't remember their name.

Favorite foods...steak and strawberries. Besides that, I enjoy Thai, Italian, Mexican, Chinese, Japanese, Mediterranean, Persian, and am willing to try new foods.

I don't like shellfish, shrimp, mushrooms, green bell peppers, or star melons. Unfortunately, raw meats don't agree with me either, but I love sushi when it has cooked fish, or veggies.

1. My Kids / My Family

2. Polyamory/ My TeufelWolf / My Master / Partners / My sisters in Collar / My Friends

3. Blood / Oxygen to the cells is a good thing!!

4. The Law of Attraction / The Secret / Observer Created Reality

5. Sex / Kink / R.A.C.K.

6. Sleep

Helping others, learning about myself, learning about others, new things I want to try, my children, my partners and my friends.

I also think a lot about, energy balancing, tantra, magick, sexual experimentation ( I like to be kinky on occasion), and life in general.

I enjoy philosophical discussions pertaining to the evolution of the human species. Ruminating about the origin of religion and how everyone can be 100% correct in their own beliefs. Ancient civilizations beliefs are also an interest as are the ways we can integrate the traditions from those civilizations into modern life. Taking this a step further, thinking of what the future will bring and how to actively bring about change in the perceptions we have as a species as well as individually. In other words, I like thinking outside the box, and enjoy when others do the same. :-)

I love to experience new things, and I love to push my own limits. I like to think about what makes "me" tick. I also like to observe others and figure out what makes them tick as well.

I enjoy cuddling, giving and receiving massage (I used to do it professionally), holding hands, falling asleep in my lover's arms, looking into people's eyes, making friends, helping others, learning, sleeping during the day, and staying up all night.

I have issues with the sun, so I tend to avoid it. The bright light and UV rays tend to give me migraines.

Either taking care of my kids, or hanging out with friends.

Along with running the Southern California Polyamory Meetup Group (click here) I also attend events held at Live the Dream (click here), a Polyamory Support Group in the San Fernando Valley. Some of the events for the meetup group I organize are held at Live the Dream (click here) For more information on events being held, please visit theSouthern California Polyamory Meetup Group (click here) website to find out more about these events.

Private? Hmm, I think you would have to ask my Master this question....

You have an interest in Paganism, Friendship, Polyamory, the Occult, etc.

You also have kids with special needs.

My having other partners does not scare you off.

You need someone to talk to.

You should NOT message me if you are ONLY interested in sex. Not only will I ignore you, but I will forward the messages to my Master and other partners for their viewing pleasure, and I also may post the conversation to my blog.

I am picky about my partners, and need a spiritual bond in order to enjoy a physical one. Also do not message me if you think you can change my relationship preference. I was in a monogamous relationship for 13.5 years and will never do it again.