I’m a big old geek. I’m tall, tattooed, and fat, and I’m as okay with one as I am the others. I’ve been happily married to lady_bug69 for 10 years now. We have an open marriage, sort of halfway between polyamory and swinging. (We don’t date, we just have some good friends we sometimes sleep with.)

I adore books and reading. I’m especially fond of science fiction, fantasy, horror and other weird fiction. I’m also really in to crime writing and historical fiction. My geekiness for books is also evident in my love of movies and TV, where my tastes are about the same.

I'm a roleplayer as well, I've been playing tabletop RPGs since I was 12, and though I don't have a group to play with now, that's the only thing stopping me from rolling some dice regularly at 33.

I’m also a nerd about cocktails and photography. We host monthly cocktail parties where I get to ply my mixology skills for my friends and we can all get a little tipsy and talk nerdy to each other. I’ve really slacked off on the photography but when I do shoot, I love urban scenes, portraits, and nudes.

Politically I’m pretty liberal, especially socially. I’m really passionate about feminism and LGBT rights. I’m a proud member of secular America, oppose capital punishment, and am in favor of decriminalizing every drug you ever heard of. (Despite the fact that I really only enjoy tobacco and alcohol.)

We just moved to Oakland from Sacramento, and really love the Bay Area. I’ve got a 9-5 job, but I’m looking for something I can be more excited about (and with a better salary and benefits). After I get the job thing tackled It’ll be back to school to finish a Bachelor’s in History, then to Grad school to be a librarian.

We’re also getting back into the swing of things with our monthly cocktail parties. Those and a night out for cocktails are the main social events we’re up for right about now. That may change for the right friends, though.

I think I'm a pretty good photographer, I'm a good friend, and I'm good at recommending books, movies, TV shows, and drinks for people to try.

I'm tall, I'm fat, I wear glasses, and I have tattoos on my arms and hands below my elbows.

Instead of huge, dense blocks of titles, artists, and cuisines, I'm going to give you the first 5 of each that come to mind.

Books

• God Is Not Great - Christopher Hitchens
• American Tabloid - James Ellroy
• Last Call - Tim Powers
• A Song of Ice & Fire - George R. R. Martin
• Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell - Susanna Clarke

Movies (and TV)

• Mad Men
• The Thin Man
• The Apartment
• Firefly
• The Devil's Backbone

Music

• Lucinda Williams
• Jay-Z
• The Who
• Nick Cave
• Ice Cube

Food (and Drink)

• Carnitas
• Rye Old Fashioned
• Peppers
• Bacon
• French 75

Are we allowed to assume I have food, shelter, and my wife? In that case it's: books, my DVR, my iPod, gin, smart friends, and reasonable discourse.

Drink recipes, my friends, how much better the world would be without irrational faith, and like everyone else on the planet, sex.

On Friday nights I'm almost always home with my wife. If you want to know what I like to do for fun on weekends, it's usually on Saturdays. I love my monthly cocktail parties, and I also aim to get out from drinks and comraderie more often.

It would either be that my wife and I are total slobs at home, or that I've never had a driver's license. You get two for one here.

I want to hear from you if you read my profile and think I'd make a cool friend. I'm even okay if part of that reason is a chance to get free booze at my parties.

Bonus points are awarded for fellow atheists, skeptics, and geeks.