Let's start with a little synopsis of where I'm at right now: I've
been married to
polygestalt, for over 14 years, the past
eight or so we've been open, and
polyamorous for the last four. We've
just gone through a pretty significant relationship re-ordering,
and are happy to share that we find that together is better than
not. He tells me that, for a woman, I am "eerily stable". I take
that as a compliment! I am also seriously poly-involved with a
long-term friend of ours
_s1m0n_for the past couple of years.
Also dating a bit locally, which is a fun scheduling challenge. As
a matter of fact, we bought a house and moved in together the end
of last summer! Polygestalt and I have one kiddo, who's eight now,
and _s1m0n_ has an 11 year old. Our social calendar is pretty full
and hoppin' with fun!
As a household, we're very community oriented, and often host get
togethers for those in our circle and those they vouch for. If
you'd like to find some local to Portland and Vancouver Poly folk,
we can hook you up!
Our household
blog is
http://polytripod.blogspot.com, if you want to keep up on
happenings within our V-style triad, and ruminations about
polyamory.
I'm
self-employed, which translates
out into busy, but a little flexible with my time,
kinky in many flavors,
bi/pan/whatever-you-want-to-call-it-sexual, an avid reader,
physically active but not likely to ever be "skinny", really into
keeping a balanced life, and very happy and devoted to my family.
That said, I enjoy a sense of
community and dating every so often,
and am lacking a bit in the feminine energy quotient in my
life.
I have four tattoos, all meaningful to me on a personal level, so a
little ink must be acceptable!
While I identify as bi, I find that I do best with men
domestically, so prospective partners of the lusciously feminine
variety should know that while I am into having seriously connected
relationships, I probably wouldn't want to live together. Of
course, stranger things have happened...
Dogs are great, cats
make me sneeze and feel miserable, although I like them from afar.
I think I'm funny, and if you agree with me, it's likely to raise
my estimation of your intelligence!
My life is filled with geeks and nerds, and I fit in there well. We
can all pass for normal when we need to though. ;)
Communication is hugely important
to me, so if you can't speak in full sentences and articulate your
feelings in an adult manner, I'm not for you. I am most drawn to
people that have others in their lives already, since I don't have
space for another full-time relationship.
Those who enjoy their life, love(s) and selves make me hot!
Editors
I've been self-employed for the past 15 years, so I'd make a lousy
employee at this point... Kid(s) suck time away at an alarming
rate, but I still try to do something that is self-nurturing every
day. Communication is a huge focus for me, and I am working on
self-reflection as a tool in that arsenal. You can check out our
blog, if you're interested in getting more into my/our head at
http://polytripod.blogspot.com and see what the daily happenings
are in our household.
Massage,
kink, reading voraciously,
keeping a lot of factors balanced in life, reading non-verbal cues,
relationships!
My smile or my eyes! Ok, actually it's usually that I'm pretty
tall, for a chick. Napoleon complex need not apply!
Eclectic across the board, although I tend towards a high level of
fiction and sci-fi with my reading material. I don't spend too much
time at movies, although I enjoy it as a social activity. Food
preferences lean towards ethnic, so if you know a great restaurant
that I really should try, tell me where! I like to cook as a social
activity as well, so that would be a fun date for me. Music is a
mood-oriented artform for me, so I try to not get into a rut, as it
solidifies my mental/emotional state too much. ;)
My family of choice, physical activity of many types ;), learning
from experience, my work (more of a calling really), waterproof
mattress pads, books!
Logistics surrounding my family of choice, and how I can squeeze
more time out to wallow in pleasure! Avoiding paperwork.
I'm a serious exhibitionist and more people have seen me naked than
I can comfortably count.
You are poly, not flakey, like tall women who are both physically
and mentally imposing, have a well-developed vocabulary and sense
of humor, and don't take yourself too seriously.
You are poly and are curious about, or want to participate in, a
directed poly discussion group, which I host the 2nd Wednesday of
each month.
Topics on Wednesday, the 10th of February are: "Religions and
polyamory" and, "Expectations: How to identify, communicate, and
manage expectations within relationships."
If you aren't relatively stable within your current
relationship(s), please don't bother, as I am only interested in
new partners who are already generally thrilled with their life and
interested in enhancing an already good thing.
I find I do best with dating partners that also have
responsibilities of a serious nature in their life. It's a maturity
thing. ;)
If you want to go dancing, that's something I enjoy and don't find
time to do as much as I'd like. (non-smoking venues only though)
Bubble tea and ethnic foods are also high on my list of beginning
activities!