Let's start with a little synopsis of where I'm at right now: I've been married to polygestalt, for over 14 years, the past eight or so we've been open, and polyamorous for the last four. We've just gone through a pretty significant relationship re-ordering, and are happy to share that we find that together is better than not. He tells me that, for a woman, I am "eerily stable". I take that as a compliment! I am also seriously poly-involved with a long-term friend of ours _s1m0n_for the past couple of years. Also dating a bit locally, which is a fun scheduling challenge. As a matter of fact, we bought a house and moved in together the end of last summer! Polygestalt and I have one kiddo, who's eight now, and _s1m0n_ has an 11 year old. Our social calendar is pretty full and hoppin' with fun!

As a household, we're very community oriented, and often host get togethers for those in our circle and those they vouch for. If you'd like to find some local to Portland and Vancouver Poly folk, we can hook you up!

Our household blog is http://polytripod.blogspot.com, if you want to keep up on happenings within our V-style triad, and ruminations about polyamory.

I'm self-employed, which translates out into busy, but a little flexible with my time, kinky in many flavors, bi/pan/whatever-you-want-to-call-it-sexual, an avid reader, physically active but not likely to ever be "skinny", really into keeping a balanced life, and very happy and devoted to my family. That said, I enjoy a sense of community and dating every so often, and am lacking a bit in the feminine energy quotient in my life.

I have four tattoos, all meaningful to me on a personal level, so a little ink must be acceptable!

While I identify as bi, I find that I do best with men domestically, so prospective partners of the lusciously feminine variety should know that while I am into having seriously connected relationships, I probably wouldn't want to live together. Of course, stranger things have happened...

Dogs are great, cats make me sneeze and feel miserable, although I like them from afar. I think I'm funny, and if you agree with me, it's likely to raise my estimation of your intelligence!

My life is filled with geeks and nerds, and I fit in there well. We can all pass for normal when we need to though. ;)

Communication is hugely important to me, so if you can't speak in full sentences and articulate your feelings in an adult manner, I'm not for you. I am most drawn to people that have others in their lives already, since I don't have space for another full-time relationship.

Those who enjoy their life, love(s) and selves make me hot!

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• blueasinsky

I've been self-employed for the past 15 years, so I'd make a lousy employee at this point... Kid(s) suck time away at an alarming rate, but I still try to do something that is self-nurturing every day. Communication is a huge focus for me, and I am working on self-reflection as a tool in that arsenal. You can check out our blog, if you're interested in getting more into my/our head at http://polytripod.blogspot.com and see what the daily happenings are in our household.

Massage, kink, reading voraciously, keeping a lot of factors balanced in life, reading non-verbal cues, relationships!

My smile or my eyes! Ok, actually it's usually that I'm pretty tall, for a chick. Napoleon complex need not apply!

Eclectic across the board, although I tend towards a high level of fiction and sci-fi with my reading material. I don't spend too much time at movies, although I enjoy it as a social activity. Food preferences lean towards ethnic, so if you know a great restaurant that I really should try, tell me where! I like to cook as a social activity as well, so that would be a fun date for me. Music is a mood-oriented artform for me, so I try to not get into a rut, as it solidifies my mental/emotional state too much. ;)

My family of choice, physical activity of many types ;), learning from experience, my work (more of a calling really), waterproof mattress pads, books!

Logistics surrounding my family of choice, and how I can squeeze more time out to wallow in pleasure! Avoiding paperwork.

Wiped from the week, but looking towards some social fun on Saturday night!

I'm a serious exhibitionist and more people have seen me naked than I can comfortably count.

You are poly, not flakey, like tall women who are both physically and mentally imposing, have a well-developed vocabulary and sense of humor, and don't take yourself too seriously.

You are poly and are curious about, or want to participate in, a directed poly discussion group, which I host the 2nd Wednesday of each month.

Topics on Wednesday, the 10th of February are: "Religions and polyamory" and, "Expectations: How to identify, communicate, and manage expectations within relationships."

If you aren't relatively stable within your current relationship(s), please don't bother, as I am only interested in new partners who are already generally thrilled with their life and interested in enhancing an already good thing.

I find I do best with dating partners that also have responsibilities of a serious nature in their life. It's a maturity thing. ;)

If you want to go dancing, that's something I enjoy and don't find time to do as much as I'd like. (non-smoking venues only though) Bubble tea and ethnic foods are also high on my list of beginning activities!