Their result for The Intimacy Attitude Scale--R Test ...

196 intimacy

Intimacy: the capacity of being comfortable in a relationship that involves an stable feeling of closeness, familiarity, trust, and usually affection and love with another person.

Dr. Thomas Treadwell and his colleagues, who constructed the "Intimacy Attitude Scale-Revised", presented evidence to suggest that high scores on their scale are related to a variety of desirable qualities. They reported that people with high scores on their scale tended to engage in more intimate behaviors, they tended to self-disclose more to others, they tended to feel in control of their fate, they tended to be more active, and they tended to experience less alienation from friends, family and self. This would seem to be good advice for what the authors of countless self-help books have been saying for years -- that if we are to have happy, satisfying lives, we must develop the ability to have intimate relationships with others.

I would agree that those who are invariably leery of others, who beliave that sharing feelings with anyone is a sign of weakness, are destined to be lonely, unhappy people.

The statistics of this test were based on a group of average people, and no attempt was made to include those who were having problems related to their attitudes towards intimacy. If you did receive an extreme score, however, it may mean that you could profit from taking a close look at yourself. If your score was 140 or lower, you might ask yourself if you close yourself off from others more than necessary. If you feel lonely or isolated, your low score might provide an explaination of why you feel this way. If your score was 210 or higher, you may want to examine whether you might be overwhelming the people in your life with your intensity. Perhaps if you backed off just a little bit, people could enjoy your company more.

Perhaps the most important thing to look at is whether you and your partner (or the person in who you are interested) have similar scores. I beliave that two reserved people can have just as happy and satisfying a relationship as two people who share every last thought, but you can experience a great deal of frustration if your partner's score is considerably different from your own (40 points or more).

So, if you got a good score congratulations but remember there is always room for improvement, and one thing is being intimate and the other is being co-dependant and clingy, try to not cross the fine line.

And for those of you who got low scores, dont despair and try to work out your issues one step at the time, either by yourself, with the help of people you trust, self-help books, and/or by starting a therapeutic process, dont beat yourself about it, if you want to improve, you can do it, plus have your very own therapist is chic and sophisticated, if you dont beliave me ask to woody allen ;)

p.s: for those gentle souls who bothered in ask my score, (specially those who are dark, tall and handsome :P ) i got 195

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    They scored 196% on intimacy, higher than 79% of your peers.

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