OkCupid | Take The Fidelity Test

The goal of this test is to determine how likely you are to cheat. If you have a secret crush on someone else, do you have the willpower keep the temptation in check? And when these urges come up, are you likely to talk about them or try to hide them?

Using their score as a guide, people disposed towards cheating can link up with each other and those not can link up, and members of each side sigh in exasperation at the other without actually hurting anyone. In theory.

The test has about 40 questions. Questions will essentially break it down into 3 categories.

Practical Fidelity: How much you've actually cheated or are likely to cheat.
Theoretical Fidelity: Whether you have the habits typically associated with a cheater, even if you don't actually cheat.
Communication: How honest you are with your partner about your activities and/or desires.

For the purposes of these questions, "cheating" counts as any situation where your partner would have considered it cheating. So for instance if you're a masseuse and you give back rubs every day and your partner knows this, it's not cheating. But if say there is this one coworker with whom you feel you have to steal away into the shadows to do your rubbings in secret, that's cheating.

WARNING: Make sure you read the questions carefully and don't miss any, or you might not get the score you expected, and it will show up on your profile. If this happens, you will need to re-take the test to get a better score.

1

Let's cut to the chase. How many times have you cheated? (Count the number of affairs).

0

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3+

2

OK, regardless of your answer to the first question, if you ever were to cheat, how truthful would you be about it?

I would keep it a secret and deny any accusations.

I would only admit to it if my partner found out.

I would probably admit to it out of guilt, eventually, but I'd wait for the right moment.

I'd give full disclosure immediately.

3

How many times have you been in a situation where you wished it were OK to cheat, but held yourself in check? (If you weren't able to hold yourself in check, make sure you included this in your answer to Question #1).

I've never wished it were OK to cheat.

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2

3+

4

How many people have you cheated on? (Note this is not the same as question #1, since it is possible to cheat on many people with the same person).

0

1

2

3+

5

How many times have you been "the other man/woman?"

0

1

2

3+

6

For those using OkCupid to find a romantic/sexual partner, are you already in a relationship/affair with someone else?

No/I'm not here to find a romantic or sexual partner.

I'm in a monogamous relationship with someone else and am looking for something on the side.

I'm in an open relationship with someone else, and have disclosed this in my profile.

I'm in an open relationship with someone else, and have not disclosed this in my profile.

7

For those using OkCupid to find a romantic/sexual partner, are you already in love with someone who is unavailable to you, and using the service to help get your mind off of them?

This situation doesn't apply to me.

Yes, but I disclose this to everyone I talk to.

Yes, but I'm trying to keep it on the down-low.

8

Let's say you have found your True Love. He/She wants a relationship with you, but is married. However, he/she wants to have a relationship with you on the side. What is your response?

He/she is not my True Love if they ask this of me. I attempt to inform the spouse that he/she was trying to cheat on them.

I tell my True Love to show me the signed divorce papers before starting the relationship.

I get together with my True Love but give them a time frame after which I expect the divorce to be finalized.

I'll do whatever necessary to be with my True Love.

9

Say that you've found your True Love, but they are not available. Luckily you've met someone else, fallen in love, and now you're married. But then your True Love becomes available, and wants to get back together with you. What do you do?

Wish my True Love the best in finding someone else; I'm taken.

Apologize to my spouse and file for divorce.

I'm not going to waste one second of my life without my True Love. We shack up first and figure out what to do later.

I try to keep my 2 for 1 deal going on as long as possible.

10

Pick the celebrity you are the most attracted to. Now say the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity arises for you to go on a date (likley leading to sex) with them in complete secrecy, unbeknownst to your committed partner. What do you do?

Turn down the opportunity, no regrets.

I turn down the opportunity, but will probably kick myself later!

I go on the date, but feel bad for doing so. How was I supposed to know I'd be in this predicament?

I go on the date, no regrets.

11

What do you think about "open" relationships?

Not for me.

Sometimes they are ok.

All relationships should be open.

Everyone relationship I have is open, I just don't fill in my partner about it.

12

What's your attitude towards fantasizing about others when in a relationship?

I don't fantasize outside my relationship.

I occasionally fantasize about being with celebrities/models/etc.

I fantasize about being with people I know personally.

I try to contact the people I fantasize about and see if I can make the fantasy real.

13

Does it count if you cheated on someone while you were extremely drunk?

Yes.

It counts about half as much.

No. Sometimes this happens but it is simply an accident.

No.

14

If you are married or engaged, do you remove your wedding/engagement ring for social events where you may encounter the gender(s) you are attracted to (other than situations where the ring could otherwise be damaged or lost)?

No.

Yes.

I am not committed this way or don't wear jewelry symbolizing my commitment.

15

Is it okay for gays, lesbians, or bisexuals to cheat?

It's never OK.

It's OK for some of the above.

It's OK for all of the above.

16

Are you generally an honest person when it comes to other things besides relationships?

I don't lie.

I will lie to keep from hurting people's feelings.

I lie when I'm afraid of getting into trouble otherwise.

I lie whenever it will give me the advantage.

17

In the opening of this test, it was stated that for these questions, "cheating" counts as any situation where your partner would have considered it cheating. What do you think is cheating?

Emotional infidelity or anything more intimate.

Kissing or anything more intimate.

Sex or anything more intimate.

All's fair in love and war.

18

In a monogamous relationship, is it OK to cheat if you have proof that your partner is already cheating or has cheated on you?

No.

Yes.

19

Suppose that life is a science fiction movie where you have been placed in suspended animation. You wake up in a future where monogamy is all but forgotten, and people form romantic relationships with as many others as they want. What's the closest to your reaction?

I can't live like this. I keep searching for people who still share my monogamous values.

It's not my original choice, but I'm not going to make myself a pariah by clinging to an old culture. I do my best to give up my monogamous habits.

Sounds like it could be good. I go with the flow.

I wish it would be this way for real.

20

Do you keep pictures, momentos, etc. from past relationships even when involved in a new, serious relationship?

Never.

Due to laziness.

Sometimes, due to affection.

Always, due to affection.

21

Do you tend to stay sexually interested in your partners?

Yes.

It usually starts out stong and then becomes a little less over time.

I seem to get a bit bored of my partners over the long term.

I can only keep up my sexual interest for a couple of months, if that.

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