• Being gay or bi is not the same thing as being queer. I mean, do you really think there's ANYTHING queer about "Queer Eye For the Straight Guy"? Or "The L Word"? Or (worse than any of them) "Will and Grace"? Come on! Queer isn't about who you fuck. Queer is about how you think ... about sex, gender, love, identity, self, other, race, class, and more. You say you're queer, but, really, how queer are you?