If you were going to have a daughter, which sexual orientation would you hope she would have?



Feb 24, 2009 4:35pm

This is a hot button topic for sure. But I feel prone to answer that I would hope for my daughter's sake that she would be straight for the simple reason that it would simplify her own life. I would, after a hard look at my own life and a few years of accepting myself even when I thought I myself was bisexual, accept my own daughter whatever she found or chose for herself, but so far life is easier for straight people, considering societal attitudes, and the simple sheer majority of potential partners are straight. The problem is...the question seems designed to winnow out intolerance in potential matches, while it's catching me up in that net and I don't consider myself intolerant.

Feb 24, 2009 4:36pm

My daughter would be straight or I would quickly disown her.

Feb 24, 2009 4:58pm


Feb 24, 2009 5:50pm

whatever orientation she wanted

Feb 24, 2009 5:58pm

I would love and accept her no matter what. Although, for purely shallow reasons, I'd prefer raising a feminine or slightly tomboyish lesbian over an extremely butch one. I want a daughter I can buy pretty clothes for, dammit!

Feb 24, 2009 9:08pm

I'd prefer a bisexual daughter. Being able to emphasize with my children, if I were to have them, is an important concept to me. It'd be nice to be able to agree with them when they say people are attractive/point out attractive people to them.

Feb 24, 2009 9:10pm

Incestuous I'll dig out a secret basement for her and our dozens of illegitimate love children to live in.

Feb 25, 2009 12:28am

I hope she'd love sheep. It'd make much less trouble that guys or girls. plus, if they break up, we could BBQ that cheating bustard!

Feb 25, 2009 2:39am

...... Well I wouldn't be having sex with her so I wouldn't care

Feb 25, 2009 5:08pm

A lesbian, obviously, just for the anecdotes.

Feb 25, 2009 5:54pm

Whichever she'd be happiest with.

Feb 25, 2009 9:21pm


I'd never suggest incest to her however hot she got.


Nov 12, 2009 11:17pm

This is a stupid question. I know there is the option of "it wouldn't matter to me at all", but even having a question like this encourages people to think about what they would hope for in a kid, which can potentially perpetuate destructive parental attitudes toward children.


Nov 13, 2009 7:49am

Whatever makes her happy, and I won't love her any less for whichever one she is.


Nov 13, 2009 7:53am

i actually really hope i have a gay son


Nov 13, 2009 7:57am

I don't understand why this would matter at all.  Why can't we all just live and let live? 


Nov 13, 2009 8:14am

My knee-jerk reaction is "bi" cause that's what I am, and supposedly a lot of women would be if it was more socially acceptable.

But honestly whatever she's happy with in the end. I thought I was straight and being anything else was "wrong", and I struggled with being depressed and withdrawn because of it. It affected my work. I don't want anyone to be told that their sexuality is wrong and that they're unnatural.

Heh, the husband hopes she'd be gay, but is grossed out if we had a hypothetical boy and he was bi or gay. So long as the kid knows that I'll accept them whatever sexuality they are... And they should do the same for others.


Nov 20, 2009 1:50am

My first thought was lesbian/bi, just because I usually get along better with other queers.

It's really more of a leaning, though. I really don't care.


Nov 23, 2009 5:13am

I'd rather have a son than a daughter. That way I'd only have one prick to worry about, instead of thousands of others...



Nov 23, 2009 6:16am

Actually everybody would choose straight if it were up to them to choose the sexual orientation of their child. The gays will tell you it doesn't matter but that is because they want to perpetuate the myth that there is no difference between straights and gays. In reality they would choose straight because life is less difficult if you are like everyone else. Everybody else would choose straight because then they would get some grandchildren.

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