If you were going to have a daughter, which sexual orientation would you hope she would have?



Nov 23, 2009 6:27am

This is a rather dumb question.  It's really asking " Would you prefer that your female child be born with genitalia congruent with her sexual orientation, or would it be better if she had to struggle with the realization that her body didn't match her sexual preference?"


Nov 23, 2009 11:57am

Well I would love my child no matter their decision. I put my mom through alot so I would try to be as awsome as she was. I would want my daughter too love who her heart told her to no matter what.


Nov 24, 2009 12:46am


The people who actually answered gay/bi, as opposed to don't care...yeah, they don't count, right?



I don't think you really understand what homosexuality is...


Nov 24, 2009 1:22am

Actually everybody would choose straight if it were up to them to choose the sexual orientation of their child. The gays will tell you it doesn't matter but that is because they want to perpetuate the myth that there is no difference between straights and gays. In reality they would choose straight because life is less difficult if you are like everyone else. Everybody else would choose straight because then they would get some grandchildren.

This is probably true.

Life is considerably less annoying as a straight person.  It is, of course, much less difficult as a straight person, but the impact of being gay has been mitigated somewhat as social progress advances.

I can think in abstract terms, but I must temper it with humanity.  As a gay person, if I were to have a child, I would not wish additional hardship upon my child.  However, strife does build character, and since I do not make preferential judgments upon people based on sexual orientation, except in the sex and romance area, I would not mind it at all if my daughter were to be gay.

GATTACA: The hero is a hero because he had to overcome obstacles, not because he was born with a wealth of genes.

But, as my parents have shown me, they would give everything they have to make my life easier.  I'm not sure I would cling to my dreams of social progress and liberal ideals if it meant endangering or exacerbating the difficulties of life for my child.





But, the good news is, you can't choose for your child.

Thus, the decision... does not fall on you.  This leaves but your person preference.  As a purely preferential idiosyncracy, with no executive powers whatsoever, I would prefer my child to be gay.

Our house would be fabulous.




P.S. Thank you for making me stop trolling and start thinking a bit.


Nov 29, 2009 3:09am

Bump for more inputs.


Dec 18, 2009 9:16am

I wouldn't judge them so much but I would find it slightly strange to imagine my "future" daughter as a lesbian for some reason. I don't think it would say much about me.


Dec 18, 2009 11:39am

When it comes down to it all this would be my daughter. The main goal as a parent is to give your child a better life right? To let them enjoy their life. That is just orientation. If thats the way she'd want to live then who am I to stop her. It's not like being gay or bisexual will ruin your life. Never the less, it wouldn't matter to me.


Dec 19, 2009 7:12am

i totally agree with swelfel! - it kinda ticked me off a bit that they even had this question on here at all. but then again, this is the internet. and there are alllll sorts of people.


Dec 20, 2009 8:31am

whta ever she wanted really although I would strongly perfer bisexual just like her mom. just to keep her options open.



Dec 20, 2009 11:36am

Having children to fulfill any need of your own would be very selfish.  Get a dog if you need something to love or emulate you.


Dec 20, 2009 12:50pm

The only answer:

The one that makes her happy.


Dec 20, 2009 12:59pm

Straight, but only for the sake of it being easier on her socially. I think if she was a lesbian she may have shit in school for it. Then I think it's also more difficult to meet someone who's also a lesbian for various reasons: lots of people don't come out, or at least not for a long time, when in clubs and all of your friends are looking for guys to flirt with I think it's a lot more difficult for a girl to look for another girl to flirt with. Most girls would be creeped out by it, and if they were actually turned on by it, they would be unlikely to just go with it in front of their friends.

However, I wouldn't think any less of them for being gay, straight, bi etc.


Dec 20, 2009 1:55pm

If I had a daughter or even a son for that matter I don't want to choose their orientation for them. My offspring will be an entity all their own. As long as they are happy with whatever orientation they are it is all good to me. In all honesty I believe it is their business who they are sleeping with and the only thing I can do is just support that child(ren) from the bottom of my heart. I am being completely honest about this too. I guess it also helps that my own parents are very open-minded...


Dec 20, 2009 7:17pm

I honestly would not care just as long as she would feel comfortable talking to me about her decisons.  My mom and are very good friends and I tell her about the men in my life and she tells me when she is upset or hurt etc.  so i hope that when I have a daughter that our relationship will be just as close.  no matter what her sexual orientation. 


Jan 3, 2010 8:55pm

Why is this even a question? You may want whatever you want, but it's not like your wish has anything to do with her orientation. Sorry parents, you don't have a choice and neither does the child!


Jan 3, 2010 10:17pm

If my daughter isn't straight, she's no longer my daughter. =D That was easy.


Jan 4, 2010 5:08am

Whether or not orientation is chosen,sexual relationships are chosen.I'd hope that if she were lesbian she'd accept my advice that this required her to be celibate.


Jan 4, 2010 6:51am

This IS an important question. It's asking if you yourself have queer/sexual attitudes and if you're tolerant of them, and also whether you'd raise your child mainstream or more out of the box. Sure it's easier to be straight, but who hasn't chosen something hard because any other decision would go against their values? She has to be who she is.


Jan 4, 2010 9:12am

As long as she'd be happy and law abiding, I wouldn't care.


Jan 22, 2010 12:41pm

It wouldn't matter to me as long as she doesn't turn out to be a heterophobic feminist man hater.

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