Would you date somebody who was a virgin at the age of 25?



Aug 30, 2008 6:47pm

What if they are waiting for marriage? That's an interesting point, kxrm. Does not wanting to have premarital sex make a person "crazy"? Would that be an "issue" which would make him/her undesirable? I totally think that should be a choice. The "willing to give it up" choice indicates that they may be completely asexual -- which is possible, but not very likely.

Aug 30, 2008 7:00pm

Is she still a virgin if she does anal?


Aug 30, 2008 7:02pm


i use to crave about this

but now dat im truly good at performing sex i rather be with a girl who knows how to truly get it on



Aug 30, 2008 7:15pm

i personally think the concept of a virgin is rather abstract.  Someone can be very sexually experienced and not actually been or done any penitrating of the reproductive regions.  It has a great ability to mislead because the assumption is that you are inactive sexually.


Aug 30, 2008 7:15pm

I have and would. I "devirginized" one of my ex-girlfriends when she was 27.


Sep 23, 2008 9:38pm

I declined to answer this question. I didn't like any of the answers and can't imagine an answer that I would agree with. I like sex way too much to positively say yes, but I like interesting people way too much to positively say no. There are just too many variables. - Is it a religious choice? Then we probably have more issues than whether or not we're going to have sex. - Has the opportunity (in the form a good, caring person who is more interested in your brain than your organs) simply not materialized yet? I might be that person or I might not. - Is it shyness? Extroverts really do have a few things easier in life than introverts. - Have you been hurt? - Did you go from sexually-active to chaste? Everyone loves sex. I would imagine virgins like is as much as (or maybe more than) people who are sexually active (in the full sense). There's absolutely nothing wrong with waiting until you're comfortable. There should be no expectation that it will happen by a certain point in your life. I shudder at the thought of having a kid one day who will have to decide whether to lose it at 14 or 44. Virginity is a special thing. Almost sacred, but not quite. It is almost sacred because sex is so sacred. Virginity wouldn't be such a big deal if sex wasn't so powerful, so addictive and so life-altering. It's a door, like taking the red pill, with no way back. Leave people the hell alone to decide that for themselves and don't make them feel like there's something wrong with them because they made a different decision than you would have. The fact is that questions like this simply cannot be asked out of context. Each person is going to have a rap sheet of why they had no partners, one partner, five partners or one hundred and ninety-eight partners (fyi, I have not had 198 partners; it was just a literary device). All you can do is get to know the person, try to understand how they became the person that you're talking to and then try to figure out where you fit into their lives.

Sep 23, 2008 9:43pm

Never for any reason would I date a virgin.

Sep 23, 2008 11:26pm

Eh, if they were REALLY hot

Sep 23, 2008 11:37pm

Can't say that I've ever dated a virgin...so I don't know how awkward it would be... but wouldn't completely rule it out. Meh. She would have to give awesome head, though, for it (the virginity) to last...

Sep 24, 2008 12:05am

Sure, seeing as how I'm ALSO apparently a freak of nature. ;P

Sep 24, 2008 12:23am

I wouldn't date a woman of 25 virgin or slut.

Sep 24, 2008 4:12am

if it was kate beckensale then yes. otherwise, no.

Sep 24, 2008 5:27am

"virgin at 25 does strongly tend to imply some issues."

I'd say that a 25 y/o virgin only implies an issue for women. Men really DO take longer to mature, and really do have a harder time finding someone (unless they're gay, in which case they still take as long to mature as other men, but don't have nearly as hard of a time finding a partner!)
I'd say, given that, you guys have 'til 29 before I say YOU have issues. (Maybe 30 ... and yes, after that there's a strong chance of issues there too).

I dated a 27 year old virgin. It was awesome. And she did have issues.
Just remaining a virgin doesn't guarantee issues, but it's a strong indication that something is likely there.

Nov 15, 2008 5:48pm

Seeing as I AM A 25 year old virgin, WHY WOULDN'T I DATE SOMEONE ELSE WHO IS??? Yup, I'm a guy, and Yup I'm a 25 Year old virgin.

Nov 15, 2008 6:13pm

I wouldn't date a virgin, but if he was a virgin until 25 and subsequently lost it before meeting me I wouldn't mind.

Nov 15, 2008 6:23pm

I also de-virginized a 27 year old once.

Nov 15, 2008 6:28pm

Oh yeah? Well I re-virginzed a 27 year old once.

Nov 15, 2008 6:58pm

Why not? --I know this does not add a lot to the thread, but hey! it's my answer.

Nov 15, 2008 7:26pm

This question is stupid. Whatever, if you think sex should be casual that's your problem. Let me know when you end up w/ an std. As for me, I'm waiting until marriage.

Nov 15, 2008 7:29pm

^I have bad news for you. Most questions are.

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