Jan 14, 2010 8:52pm

@scarlet - The reason you didn't feel those pressures of society would be because you grew up in an area that isn't racially diverse.


@Lissa - its interesting to me that your attraction to Hispanics is genuinely ignored when picking a dating partner.  I understand the cultural differences but in my opinion the physical attraction is part of a whole package that you have to take into account.  Two people can be a great match emotionally but if the physical attraction is not there then the relationship won't be as strong as one that contains both the physical and the emotional.


Jan 14, 2010 8:57pm's interesting how many do actually stick to their own race.  My situation is the complete opposite, I kind of feel like a racist because I'm only attracted to one race.  I wonder whether it has anything to do with colonialism...( I don't think I'm joking)...I'm mostly attracted to white guys.  I find all races attractive but somehow I'm only interested in pursuing something with a white guy...ehh I'm not sure I wanted to admit this but oh well...I think I'm turned off by people of my race because in nyc they tend to suck, and probably the white race is the most foreign (even though I went to tiny LAC with majority white) to me because I only had two white kids in my high school of 4000.




Jan 14, 2010 9:01pm

I'm white and I generally prefer darker exotic women - latina, black, crazy island mixes.  Most latinas seem to be Jesus freaks though.  The only race I'm really biased against are asian women.  I'm just not into them for some reason - maybe they are too submisive or pure for me or something.  The one exception is girls from Singapore, but you rarely see them off the island.

FWIW most of my friends are latino and asian.


Jan 14, 2010 9:03pm

^fair enough. It's definitely something I know nothing about.


Jan 14, 2010 9:03pm

Dude, check out this hot chick I just found! Who says race matters? Not me!


Jan 14, 2010 9:07pm

^^LMFAO - Movies: No, Books: No!  chef boyardeeeeeeeeee!


Jan 14, 2010 9:14pm

I always find it a little offensive when people tend to prefer races because they assume that they have certain characteristics. For example, I've heard men say that they like asian women because they'll "let you do anything to them", & that they won't date black women because they're "loud & bossy". I prefer to judge people on a case by case basis instead of as a whole. People have asked me the differences between dating black men versus white or filipino as though people just fall into these neat little packages. My answer is always that none of the men I've dated were the same outside of the obvious traits that are a requirement for anyone I'm seeing. I don't know, just seems bizarre to me to judge people in that way. 

@pizazznaz - I can understand where you're coming from. I was in the opposite situation as a kid. I went to schools that were predominately white until high school. The high school I went to was fairly mixed & I dated mostly black kids throughout high school because it was such a novelty to me. 


Jan 14, 2010 9:16pm

race never plays a factor ever, it never should, one's personality should be the only negating factors in being attracted to another, i mean physical attractiveness is different for everyone but race should not be considered.


Jan 14, 2010 9:19pm

@forrestn - I never said I'm not attracted to white guys too lol!  I appreciate a good looking man of any race!  :)


Jan 14, 2010 9:26pm

hmm, I definitely don't like people who have a "thing" for a certain race because it's creepy.  I definitely wouldn't want to be with a guy who has a thing for desi girls.  In the end, it does come down to looks and personality (not the actual race, I agree USM) but I find myself usually checking out white guys.  That's not totally true though.  I'm confusing myself:\...


desi=south east asian...


Jan 14, 2010 9:29pm

^desi?  I just what I like when I see it.  Most Asian girls and to a lesser extent white girls aren't it.  Of course you have to factor in personality, but if you're not attracted it's not going to matter much.


Jan 14, 2010 9:47pm

@pizazznaz you're gorgeous!


Jan 14, 2010 9:59pm, thank made my day:)


btw, you're very pretty and I especially like the pic with the bottle of blue moon I believe...



Jan 15, 2010 1:11am

I will admit, I have ventured outside of my race.  My ex fiance was of Costa Rican origin (latin), but even now I still know nothing of what Costa Rican's are.  It does tend to come down to the individual.  This is an interesting thread.  Before reading this thread, I didn't know desi's existed.  It's really interesting to fathom, to say the least.

Onto the question at hand, yes.  Race does affect me as far as interests go.  You are attractive elle, make no doubt, but it seems every time I meet someone of your descent, they go out of their way to be mean to me, or at extremes, be rather violent with me.  I am not foolish enough to believe you would do so, not at all.  But I honestly just wouldn't feel safe.  I imagine I am not the only one that thinks so.

You may be the sweetest girl in the world, but unless your entire family and your family friends are nice people, I don't think I would be happy.

Well, i've spoken my mind, hate mail is immenant. So i'll go hide in a corner.


Jan 15, 2010 1:11am

^Oh I get it Desi = South Asian.  I didn't see that in the small pic.  I don't have a thing for any one kind of girl.  I am just more attracted in general to certain features as opposed to others.  The personality has to be there though.  I cannot stand most of the girls in LA.

Also guns don't kill people... Lazers do.


Jan 15, 2010 1:26am

LMAO @ Stevian!  Black girls are mean and violent towards you?!  I've been to Atlanta before but are things really that bad in Georgia?  They've never been anything other than indifferent or nice towards me. Don't hate on Elle, she seems pretty cool actually and I wouldn't be suprised if she gives you a reason to be scared of her!

Related story actually I was in Hollywood last Saturday night and a pretty good looking random black girl gets right in my face and asks if I had a big di*k REALLY loudly.  Shit was hilarious.  Come to think of it she looked alot like Elle, lol.

FWIW I had never heard the term DESI before either.  DESU maybe but not DESI.


Jan 15, 2010 1:30am

@ elle_fiasca

No i would wait until we met in person to decide whether or not i wanted her to stick around. but in my experience (with a few exceptions) i haven't had much luck finding a black girl that could meet my standards. It seems like a lot of them can come off too strong and that scares me away because i'm a man and i like the chase, i dont want a girl to throw herself at me or i feel like i didnt do my part and the whole relationship is worthless. not too long ago i met this girl that i thought was cute, but almost immediately before we started really getting to know each other she told everyone in the room that i was off-limits, i was like "wtf i dont belong to you, i barely even know you!" and i havent talked to her since.


Jan 15, 2010 1:30am

They're meeeeean.  Older ones out of my dating age?  Sweet as can be.  My age?  *shivers*


Jan 15, 2010 1:42am

Cultural similarities are a bigger factor for dating than race is. I find the more culturally different a gal is to me the harder time I have relating to them which then affects my interest. The ability to relate trumps the colour of a gals skin or the shape of her eyes (and the like).


Jan 15, 2010 1:47am

They're meeeeean.  Older ones out of my dating age?  Sweet as can be.  My age?  *shivers*

I need specific examples to provide me with lulz!

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