Dec 2, 2012 1:21pm

Well, here's my story.  I recently had a date with a very lovely woman.  We went for coffee and had great conversation that lasted for hours, she laughed at all my jokes and we had a good time.  Later in the evening we went back to my apartment to cuddle and watch some movies.  We still talked and laughed and joked, even kissed quite a bit.  Her exact words when she left at 6am the next morning were, "I think that was a successful first date."  Elated, I went to sleep, only to never hear from her again.  This isn't the first type of bs to happen while using this site, and I'm sure it won't be the last.  As a result of this and previous experiences, I'm hesitant to even attempt to talk to anyone on here.  Any suggestions/advice?


Dec 2, 2012 1:38pm

Women are weird, whether met on here or IRL, anwyay. None of them know how to tell the truth.

Dec 2, 2012 2:09pm

Women are not weird.


Dec 2, 2012 2:49pm

Elated, I went to sleep, only to never hear from her again

Did you attempt to contact her, and were rebuffed? Or, did she simply not initiate contact with you post-date?


Dec 2, 2012 3:15pm

Women aren't weird, they are just fickle as hell. That sort of thing happened to me all the time long before I ever used OKCupid. One minute they are all over you, the next they can't even remember your name.

Men are like dogs, women are like cats.



Dec 2, 2012 3:24pm

You forgot to close the deal/have sex. Did you even try? Next time, don't be so shy. He who hesitates, masturbates.





Dec 2, 2012 3:42pm

Thanks for the replies.  As for "closing the deal", it was made clear that sex wasn't going to happen...she mentioned that she didn't want to rush things physically.  No worries there.  As for post-date contact, I tried texting her the day after, and in days after, as that had been our primary mode of communication.  Never got a response back.


Dec 2, 2012 3:51pm

Some people date multiple people. She probably went on a date with someone else the next day, had a better connection with him, and decided to let you down the easiest way (for her) she knew how -- by falling off the face of the earth.


Dec 2, 2012 3:56pm

That sounds like the most logical.


Dec 2, 2012 4:11pm

It happens. Men and women do that. Better to just shrug it off and move on.


Dec 2, 2012 7:28pm

fickle IS weird. Plus leading someone to believe a date was great then just disappearing is more nuts than fickle.

Dec 2, 2012 9:39pm

She stayed the night and not action?  Weird story it's not weird that she's not responding to your text.   Some just wanna get laid.  Some weirdos measure your manhood for how aggressive you are for sex.  Move on.


Dec 3, 2012 7:13am

I tried texting her the day after


You mean, you let her wait a whole day? You should have text her the minute she left. 2 minutes after is 2 minutes too late.



Dec 3, 2012 11:10am

Yawn. That's not funny because some women DO want to talk again the next day. Seriously if you spend a night at someone's house you're supposed to feel connected enough to not be a big deal talking a day later.

Dec 3, 2012 1:23pm

“Supposed” is a male word  :)


Dec 3, 2012 1:24pm

Actually totally opposite. Women are the ones who think everything is supposed to be a certainw ay, thus why they're always the ones complaining.

Dec 3, 2012 1:43pm

You are so right. Would you allow me to quote you?


Dec 3, 2012 1:57pm

Whether or not she's actually interested, texting is pretty passive after a face to face meeting.


Dec 3, 2012 2:11pm

Texting is wussy, like sneaking in the back door, especially after taking her home on the first date. They're also really easy to not get somehow, whereas a voicemail is harder to claim lost baggage.

Hmm, I kind of agree with mayo, which makes me think I'm probably wrong. This will require further rumination.


Dec 3, 2012 2:48pm

wtf. lol Most women do nothing BUT text people.

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