Jan 14, 2010 9:02am

I read the OKtrends a while ago & call me naive, but I was really surprised at the trends within races. Apparently, black women (though they respond the most) get the least amount of messages. Even when i saw this though, I sort of disregarded it because I live in Los Angeles & I thought we were all liberal & don't care about things like that. At least I know that I don't & neither do the people I hang out with. Anyways, I don't get a lot of responses from messages I send & although it could be that they don't like my face, profile or whatever, I can't help, but wonder how much of it is because they are just not attracted to black women? (Which isn't necessarily a problem, everyone's entitled to a preference, I just had no idea that race still played such a huge part in preferences.) 

Anyways, my question is, is this true for you all as well? How much, if at all, does a person's race affect whether or not you're interested? 


Jan 14, 2010 9:08am

Hey if they're a hottie they're a hottie!


Jan 14, 2010 9:19am

i would like to know an answer to this as well. as far as for me, race does factor in to a certain degree but mostly because of my preference in someone's physical appearance only. if the profile is good, the msg was not lame, i still would carry on a convo to see where it leads whether he's green or blue.


Jan 14, 2010 9:26am

I hope that people won't be too embarrassed (ashamed?) to actually state their honest opinion, which is what happens most of the time with racial talk. I don't think I worded it in a way to where anyone (or at least I know I wouldn't) would take offense. I should have created a poll. 

As far as myself, I literally have no preference. I will admit that I used to, but within the past couple of years, I'm pretty much equal opportunity. If a person is attractive, intelligent, etc then they'll have a fair chance, regardless of race. 


Jan 14, 2010 9:30am

I think most people are naturally biased towards people that are similar to themselves. I don't think that it is a conscious decision in most cases. Im naturally more inclined to date a white person.


Jan 14, 2010 9:34am

i like classy girls, no matter what race they are. i think that a lot of black girls get rejected becuase of a "ghetto" stereotype, i could understand this. who wants to date a girl that's always cussing, fighting, and being rude? i dont need that in a girlfriend, thats what my guy friends are for.


Jan 14, 2010 9:34am



Jan 14, 2010 9:44am

My answer to the question: Not at all.

I don't judge by race, I judge by a particular music subculture. Contrary to what the masses say, this particular subculture has no race-specific boundaries, and if I read a profile where someone is involved in said subculture, then it's an automatic turn-off regardless of whether I find her attractive, or if we share something (unrelated to music) in common.


Jan 14, 2010 9:45am


so if a black woman messaged you & stated on her profile that she was educated, had a well-written profile & had similar interests to you, would you reject her because of the possibility that she might be 'ghetto'? I had no idea that that specific stereotype played a part in it. 


I think that you have a point, except for I see this less with minorities. I know black men who ONLY date white girls or only date asian girls & likewise with other minority races. I'm not sure why that is. 


Jan 14, 2010 9:50am

@neo_aeon i actually do the same thing as you & i think that makes a lot of sense. If I meet a guy and all he is interested in is rap, hiphop & r&b, it's a turn off for me, but likewise if i meet a guy & all he's into is metal. I think that sometimes we take it a little too far with our musical preferences, as I know that my own shift often, but it's a good way to judge whether you have things in common. 


Jan 14, 2010 9:51am

i am not physically attracted to asian men so their profile would have to be at a higher standard for me to maintain contact... hey you asked for honest


Jan 14, 2010 10:16am

race doesn't make much of a difference, tho i do find white, hispanic, and asian girls to be most attractive. as long as i have something in common with the girl and i find her cute, it doesn't matter at all. <-- currently happily dating a beautiful Hispanic girl from this site :)


Jan 14, 2010 10:21am

Race dosnt matter to me. Looks, personality, and intelligence does. 


Jan 14, 2010 12:30pm

I prefer to date white men, all of my boyfriends have been white.  Don't get me wrong, I have dated other ethnic groups (asian, latino, black) but I find white men (who have muscles) most attractive.  Like 95% of the guys who message me are white, they seem to like me too.  In person its the same way, almost all the guys who approach me are white (that probably has a lot to do with the fact that I live in the O.C).  With that said, I've also had many minorities try to date me, they think I look like Haile Berry lol.


Jan 14, 2010 12:37pm

Race isn't really a problem for me.  I would like them for the same reason I would like anyone else.  Although possibly people of other races have had a problem with me.  There was this girl whom I've known for a couple of years now who liked me but anytime I tried to get close to her she would act oblivious to my interest.  To be honest it was probably more a religion thing than race, though they may go hand in hand to an extent.

Of course all the above could be bogus and I'm just terrible at reading signs from girls.  Anyway, I digress...


Jan 14, 2010 12:38pm

I am an Asian myself...Indian to be precise...same goes for me...i dont care what race or color she may have...looks,kindness and open mindedness matter to me the most...


Jan 14, 2010 12:53pm

To be completely honest, I want a white guy.  It's what I'm attracted to.  I have a little bit of Asian in my background, but you can't tell.  My dad is half Japanese/half white and my mom is all white.  That being said, I am attracted to white guys and I also like guys with long hair.  lol I am extremely picky and I plan on staying that way.  I know EXACTLY what I'm looking for and I'm not going to compromise that at all, for anyone, whether you think I am racist or not, I'm just attracted to white guys.  Not ALL white guys, but I have never thought anyone of a different race is cute. 


Jan 14, 2010 1:04pm

Physical/geographic heritage preferences are just whimsy. But cultural/subcultural influences lend towards manner, outlook and interests in most cases.

Look at European sociology. Traditional views of cultural/geographic heritage were actually a statement about instutional religious culture and therefore specific political views. Italy is mostly Catholic, France is socialist and northern Europe is Protestant. Poles are Catholic, the Balkans and Baltic are Orthodox. Put them all in a room and you've got 2000 years of constant warring over anything from a salt shaker to property rights and slavery, with occasional bouts of ethnic cleansing.

It's not about skin colour and it never was, for a start all these peoples are caucasian. It's about politics and how the law tells you that you have to live, who gets to decide those laws, what those people believe as far as political outlook goes because that will change the way laws are written and interpreted.

Keeping an administrative assistant out of the workers lunchroom might seem to him to be about bigotry, but it isn't. It's about the fact he's going to go running to the boss when he finds out you're all having a quiet beer over lunch. Just because he's such a wuss he can't handle 0.5grams of alcohol without going silly, doesn't mean that holds true for the entire universe. That's the thing about politics, everybody seems to think their personal measure is good for everyone.

Genuine racism is where you disadvantage individuals or organisations based upon skin colour rather than any examination of their standards and sentiments. But telling someone to get fucked because of their politics, when they also happen to have a different skin colour is called unfortunate coincidence, it hasn't the slightest thing to do with their physical heritage. This is also the big argument over reverse-racism, where complete morons with very bad ideas expect people to listen to them, and promote them just because they have a different skin colour, just to avoid accusations of racism.



Jan 14, 2010 1:08pm

@vanaheim: Wow...i am bloody impressed with ur knowledge...thats really awesome i say.....OKC needs more open minded guys like u....


Jan 14, 2010 2:22pm

@vanaheim i don't believe anywhere in my original question did i hint towards racism or even prejudice. i was just curious about preference. in fact, i even stated that perhaps it was just my face, my profile or the way i present myself that is offputting, hence why i asked the question, to see where most people stand on the issue. 

@evilpantsofdoom now when i go out, it's a different story. i'm approached by men of many ethnicities. i am starting to believe what one person said about some people might have the assumption that a lot of black women are ghetto or uneducated. i would hope that my profile would disprove that stereotype, but perhaps not. 

although this thread is hardly a representative sample, it would appear, based on these comments alone that women are more likely to have a racial preference whereas men tend to be more openminded. interesting. 

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