For the lesbians out there: would you date a transsexual woman?



Jun 15, 2009 8:41pm

Dating sucks for transsexuals.  Too many people consider me a man but people who are attracted to men realize that we wouldn't work.  So, how about you?  would you date a trans girl?  Why or why not?


Jun 15, 2009 9:13pm

I've never dated a trans woman, but I think if I met a trans girl I really liked I would go on a date with her.  I'm attracted to girly girls, so if I met a girly girl with a fun personality who I enjoyed being around and made me feel good, then the fact that she was trans probably wouldn't matter.  At least I'd like to think so.  haha  Hard to say when I've never been presented with the situation.  Good luck to you!  This is different, but all the lesbians I meet are butch and aren't attracted to me cause I'm girly.  All my lesbian friends are butch and constantly get hit on.  The only times I seem to get hit on is when straight girls want to experiment.


Jun 16, 2009 3:21am

I think I agree with Emway totally.


Jun 16, 2009 4:44am

Oh my god, why just me?  I mean...  you know...  gimmie some sugar, baby, but at the same time, have you seen the rest of the trans women around here?  Bitches be so hot that I feel like it must be an elaborate practical joke when everyone claims to be crushing on me.  :'P


Jun 16, 2009 5:01am

Yup.  Havn't we done this thread already?


Jun 16, 2009 6:55am

If we did this thread, I wasn't here for it.

BTW- Emway, I've found that most trans women tend to act more feminine than cisgendered women.  That's what happened with me; I'm kinda a girly girl :)


Jun 16, 2009 7:00am

i personally had more luck dating girls who are either "straight" or at least bi-curious, if not bi/pan.

then again, i consider myself genderqueer, so i don't exactly fall into the transwoman category anyway. =X


Jun 16, 2009 7:05am

Yeah.  I identitify as bisexual but I get a little nervous about dating bisexual girls myself.... which sounds totally hypocritical, I know!  No, I get nervous because I don't want to wind up with a girl who mostly likes guys and she's only bisexual between boyfriends or to get a guy excited or something like that.  I want something more long lasting than that.


Jun 16, 2009 8:07am

^ dear, you acknowledge it yourself, so i'm not gonna beat you up about it...much. sexual orientation is no indicator of commitment, and you know it. if you get over your nervousness, i'm sure that you'd be able to weed out the not-so-committed bi girls. ^^


Jun 16, 2009 11:24am

I too agree with emway, and have to add that there are times when I meet trans women who make me question my own femininity.


Jun 16, 2009 11:43am

Technically, the other thread was just about transguys, but it became an issue on dating all trans.

As I stated there, I'd consider dating a MtF if the emotional chemistry happened to mix with the sexual chemistry. How that would work, whether pre or post-op, I have no idea because I have yet to come across a situation like it.

I like women. To correct my statement in the other thread, I would NEVER date a FtM. I'm not into the male attitude at all, which is why all of my guy friends are either effeminate straights or adorable gays - and I'm not attracted to their male bodies in the least.

I like soft skin, curves, and the female-female powerplay in bed.

P.S. Your poll sucks due to its lack of positive wording and lack of options.


Jun 16, 2009 11:52am

I couldn't date a trans woman. I've hooked up with 2 trans boys... But that's because they still had the female parts.

I love my trans women though. I like them better as my friends.


Jun 16, 2009 12:00pm

"Too many people consider me a man"

But biologically speaking, you are a male, correct?


Jun 16, 2009 12:33pm

Cisgender lesbians can be great friends but like the others, not able to date me in the past,he,he!. I guess in theory sounds good for them but the practice fails, oh well; Cest la Vie! :p



Jun 16, 2009 12:42pm

For myself as a straight identified transman I would probably have some trouble dating somebody that identifies as trans. I'm a bit selfish but I feel that I have enough problems with my own gender identity that I probably wouldn't be able to deal with somebody else's transition.


Jun 16, 2009 12:57pm

ZeroFailure , thanks for showing the # 1 reason most people specially cisgenders do not date trans, funny;sad, but true indeed. I guess I am from another school of thinking and not human,he,he!.  I do not see it as dealing with others gender but, supporting each other while gender transition or any other major life adjustment. So in reality is true after all, is about making life easier with Ms right now than with Ms right,roflol!.


Jun 16, 2009 1:05pm

Sooo other (cis) people have problems with their own gender identity? Doesn't really make sense to me. If I was attracted to a woman and we really clicked then yes, I would date her but I can see myself having some issues. Plus it seems that all of the transwomen are rediculously taller than I am. I don't want to have to stand on my tippy toes to kiss her.


Jun 16, 2009 5:31pm

Veryyyyy interesting.


Jun 17, 2009 12:17am

I've dated transwomen both as a transwoman and now as a (trans?)man, I won't rule it out in the future but I find it difficult to date pre-ops since I'm not a big fan of cock or people who are full of insecurities and facades.  As a woman dating trans women I had other transwomen literally copying me like a shadow when we went dancing or just out walking somewhere, it was weird.


Met a few post-op MTFs who were rather appealing though, too bad the circumstances precluded dating.


I also found that when I didn't make a big issue out of my being trans that women didn't mind.  If you make a big deal out of it instead of trying to establish rapport with a love interest then she's gonna be thinking more about the stigma of dating a transwoman than how charming you are :)


Jun 17, 2009 4:52am

^ Be too charming for her to miss it.  :'P

I'm kinda surprsed that "Yes, a girl is a girl" is getting so many votes...  Did Lisa on Season 1 of The L Word blaze a trail, or something?  Or is this just the bi-brigade?

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