May 14, 2008 2:50pm

Can someone please explain what OKC means by short-term dating? 



May 14, 2008 2:51pm

I'm guessing it means that you are not necessarily looking for a long term relationhip.


May 14, 2008 2:54pm

It means you wanna date but for the short term and are not necessarily interested in the relationship lasting long term. 


May 14, 2008 2:54pm

Well does one define short-term dating?  What is considered short-term dating?  IMO, why even have the difference between short-term and long-term dating?  How does one even perceive such a head of time? 


May 14, 2008 2:55pm

Some people don't want serious relationships.


May 14, 2008 2:58pm

Silvermoonbells...good analogy. 

May 14, 2008 3:25pm

I think short term dating is something like, you want someone to hang out and be with and sleep with. But you're not in the mood to have it last forever or you're reconsidering your life plans and may be moving. Or you're still figuring things out and have no idea what you're looking for for the long haul, or you're the kind of person that sees dating as a life experience and want to move from one person to the next.


May 14, 2008 6:46pm

 Short-term dating can also just be a warning that there's no guarantee of it lasting for a long time; I'm going overseas at the end of the summer and wouldn't mind finding someone I could go stargazing with 'till then, but it would be unfair of me to say that I'm looking for a multi-year relationship at this point, since I won't be able to do that.


May 14, 2008 8:15pm

I checked everything but short term dating because I don't like the idea of something intended not to last.


May 14, 2008 9:43pm


I checked everything but short term dating because I don't like the idea of something intended not to last.

Uh, so you are up for casual encounters but not short term dating?


Jul 16, 2009 9:42am

Short-term dating means you need you need to kill some boredom with a good shot of temporary romance, i.e. 'you can't get laid lately so find someone who will that you feel won't last that long'.


Dec 26, 2009 7:07pm

I'm leaving for grad school in 8 months, so I think short-term dating fits my situation.  I like noctilux's description that "you want someone to hang out and be with and sleep with" but that it works around your life plans rather than it being the center of your plans.  I don't like the idea that it's just a euphemism used by men to get laid--that seems disrespectful.



Dec 31, 2009 3:05pm

I'm with In2Wishen. I think its causing confusion. Proof is the existence of this thread.







Jan 1, 2010 12:25am

I sincerely doubt OkCupid cares to make detailed rules and laws about what every term means.

Clearly many things are interpreted quite differently by different people. I think the terms used are obvious enough to use for sorting profiles, and then the rest is up to communicating with individuals to see what their personal interpretation is.  (Or just read their profile.)



Jan 1, 2010 2:15am

I interperet it as short-term dating is something a bit more serious/involved than a casual encounter, but that it's not going to lead to anything permanent.


Jan 1, 2010 5:37pm

I never got this. How do you "plan" this to happen? You never know if you're going to date for a while or want to stay with this person as much as it may last.

When I hear (or read) "I'm ONLY looking for something casual" I hear "I'm incapable of falling in love" and/or "I'm a player".


Jan 1, 2010 6:11pm

I saw "casual encounters" as open-ended,but "short-term dating" as specifically time-limited.When they changed "casual encounters" to "casual sex",I unchecked it.(I'm open to what is intended to last or what has potential to last,but not to what is intended not to last).


Mar 2, 2010 4:33am

Casual encounters is just a another term for casual sex. At least too me it is.

No matter which one you use, it doesn't have to be a one-night-stand. which is a kind of casual encounter.

I think FWB also falls under casual encounters. Some people do work out a deal where they have a booty call system. That doesn't mean its not without rules. For example never more then once a month.

Short-term dating seems like its something more then casual encounters but the person is not looking for anything that is "rest of their life" short of thing.


Mar 2, 2010 4:57am


sorry but while we are on this what is "activity partners?" Is that a sex buddy or someone you go do things like camping with?


Mar 2, 2010 5:50am

^Maybe both. Who says you can't have sex while you're on the camping trip?

To me "short term dating" is kind of like casual encounters in slow motion.

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