Feb 24, 2009 12:04pm

How much older does a guy have to be before being considered "creepy" by a younger woman?

Feb 24, 2009 12:07pm

I think that varies a lot from woman to woman. It's not a set thing.

Feb 24, 2009 1:23pm

That's usually determined by how much money the guy has :) I'd like to hear some viewpoints from the women though.

Feb 24, 2009 1:29pm

It really depends on both of you. My ex-g/f is 16 years younger and it wasn't a problem for her. At first I thought it was a little different. She was the one to approach me and made everything great.

Feb 24, 2009 1:41pm

I honestly have trouble dating guys over 28 and under 21.... we just don't have much in common and are looking for different things usually.

Feb 24, 2009 1:43pm

It changes as you get older. A 4 year difference in HS (18 - 14) is creepy. Plus illegal. When I was 20 - 24, 30+ hit creep range. Now, at 27/28 I don't think I'm interested in anyone over 35 but I don't think they're creepy until 40+. For me, creep is a combination of attractiveness and age. OP, from the thumbnail you look attractive enough that if you were 42 it would be ok. You probably shouldn't go for anyone under 25 though.

Feb 24, 2009 1:48pm

I don't message anyone over about 35, but I think my window is a lot wider than most women. I also have trouble with anyone under about 21 or so. But I've always dated older guys.

Feb 24, 2009 2:01pm

good question!... ... ...i agree w/MyLittleG re: being in HS & age differences. obviously the age difference factor is more of an issue when dealing w/people who are much younger because there is a 'maturity' gap which cannot be rationalized away... ... you get older, the age gap can be expanded. personally, 10 years is my usual cut-off, (i don't think i say that in my profile because i always get men e-mailing who are 13-15 yrs older thinking that the 3+ years isn't so much of a difference - when it IS, haha!!)... ... ...additionally, i do take into acct what the person looks like. ever know someone who is 25 but looks like they're pushing 45??? THAT won't do for me either!! then there are people who may be 10 years older but still YOUNG in spirit... ... ...basically, when you don't 'FEEL/SEE' any age differential, it's all good.

Feb 24, 2009 2:08pm

Women my age creep me I've always got along better with younger women. Overall, women my age seem to be less approachable, less affable. I made a long study of this by sitting for hours @ Starbucks. And younger women it seems have their eyes open to the possibilities and the world around them. They will look, smile, and acknowledge at least that I am there. Older women have what I call " the working like a mule here " condition that keeps them focused on self. I have to look at myself around them to be sure I am not invisible. It really is about the spirit in the person instead of the social stigmas and norms that have been instilled in our modern western civilization for hundreds of years.

Feb 24, 2009 2:12pm

When I was in HS my BF was 4 years older then I we dated for 7 years. I have always dated older people and just about all of my friends are older. I have never dated anyone younger not that I am opposed to it that is just how it works out for me.

Feb 24, 2009 2:13pm

There is a general rule of thumb apparently. 1/2 your age plus seven.

Feb 24, 2009 2:15pm

Ugh. I'm not too sure. I don't usually date anyone 18 OR 19. As for older than me? I tend to go up to 26. I did date guy that was 10 years older than me though.

Feb 24, 2009 2:20pm

I think it depends on the age of the person. I'll be 22 in May...I refuse to date anyone younger than me (unless it was 2 months difference or less). Generally I date guys in the 24-27 age range because they're more mature and know what they're doing with their life. 30 is probably the oldest I would consider--and I'm not really sure if I would really date someone that old...If a guy was born during the 1970s that is when it starts to get creepy for me, ha ha.

Feb 24, 2009 2:32pm

I have to add to this because I was just going thru my matches and was amazed that 90% of them were to women in the 28 to 36 age range! I am 48! It's not that I mind at all, I have always got along with younger women better than with women my age. I just thought it was odd and maybe just how the match system works here. I have several female friends in their 30's and I get along with them great. Is 10 years younger creepy? I don't think so at my age.

Feb 24, 2009 2:34pm

I've been creepy no matter what, so for me this is nothing new. It's just like the lines Lester Bangs said in the movie Almost Famous: "... See, friendship is the booze they feed you. They want you to get drunk on feeling like you belong.

William Miller: Well, it was fun.

Lester Bangs: They make you feel cool. And hey. I met you. You are not cool.

William Miller: I know. Even when I thought I was, I knew I wasn't.

Lester Bangs: That's because we're uncool. And while women will always be a problem for us, most of the great art in the world is about that very same problem. Good-looking people don't have any spine. Their art never lasts. They get the girls, but we're smarter.

William Miller: I can really see that now.

Lester Bangs: Yeah, great art is about conflict and pain and guilt and longing and love disguised as sex, and sex disguised as love... and let's face it, you got a big head start.

William Miller: I'm glad you were home.

Lester Bangs: I'm always home. I'm uncool.

William Miller: Me too!

Lester Bangs: The only true currency in this bankrupt world if what we share with someone else when we're uncool.

What is dissapointing though is to see girls involved in BDSM turning away because of my age. Before this lifestyle became trendy for most of today, we were all a much closer-knit community. Now I get girls like 'Zelda who wont even talk just to make chatter! Right?


Feb 24, 2009 2:38pm

for me A couple of years at most.

Feb 24, 2009 2:41pm

Fortunately (or unfortunately) I feel (and have been told, look) ten years younger than I am...what then?

Feb 24, 2009 2:49pm

as i stated preveiously, this would mean you have more lee-way than the average joe. =) ...but 10 years is the MAX i'll ever go, ha!

Feb 24, 2009 2:52pm

I'll be 21 in March. My boyfriend is 42. To an outsider it would seem creepy, but it completely depends on the couple. We have a connection like something very indescribable. He's intelligent wise and 42 but very young at heart. I'm 21 but very mature for my age. It all depends.

Feb 24, 2009 2:57pm

Shibari...where can I find another like you? :-)

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