How many unsolicited messages do you receive in an average week?



Aug 17, 2009 5:27pm

In the vein of "Women: How many men get in touch with you?"

This one's for the fellas. I added a poll that all (or at least most - sorry, sheep-fuckers, I didn't include an option for you) can participate in.

So, guys, how often do you receive messages and / or replies from women on this site.

(If you fit into one of the other categories above, you can share too, I guess)



Aug 17, 2009 5:32pm

I think the poll needs even lower ranges, for us "play elitist assholes on the 'net" types.


Aug 17, 2009 5:35pm

@hellsop: "lower ranges" ? you mean, like narrower?


Aug 17, 2009 5:37pm

Women? Contacting men? I think you've got the wrong OkCupid.


Aug 17, 2009 5:45pm

@Decadent: Possibly, but might as well collect the data. ;-)


Aug 17, 2009 5:46pm

99.9999% of men don't receive 20 messages a week lol.  That was a bad one to have.


Aug 17, 2009 5:51pm

I am a woman and I get less messages from men than you'd think

That. :)


Aug 17, 2009 5:55pm

Defy, would you like a blank message from me to make you feel better? I'll even write a [This message intentionally left blank] in there for you so you don't get confused =]


Aug 17, 2009 5:57pm

lol i agree with xyz2345 , i think most women on here wouldnt need  straight men all together if they would just go out and buy a high priced dildo and find a nice gay man friend. wow... okcupid brings down mankind. who would have thought.


Aug 17, 2009 5:58pm

I picked that one as well defysys.

Here's the thing. Of the guys I've contacted - most don't use these forums and will never see the thread and will never vote.

Ugh TexanJay. The connotation being that women on these boards are looking for a sex toy and companionship that they don't get from any of their other friends but whould somehow magically find in a gay man? That is just so sad and wrong on so many levels.


Aug 17, 2009 5:59pm

@ xyz: well, the 20+ option is mostly there for humor, but who knows, some superstud on this site might get that many..


Aug 17, 2009 6:00pm

Now that you mention it I clicked the wrong one... Can I have a do over?


Aug 17, 2009 6:01pm

As far as unsolicited emails, it depends on how active I am on the site. The last several weeks I've been pretty active in the forums, and I've been getting a lot of emails. (A lot in relation to what I get when I am not that active.) Around 10 or so per week.

When I'm not that active, usually around 3 per week.

As far as replies, it depends on how many messages I'm sending out, but I seem to have pretty good intuition about which women will be interested in talking to me, so about 8 out of every 10 that I send messages to respond, even if just to chat a bit.



Aug 17, 2009 6:01pm

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Aug 17, 2009 6:01pm

I am a woman and I get less messages from men than you'd think.

Yea, I clicked that one. I'd say one to two a week? Although I don't live in a densely populated area, so that could be part of it.


Aug 17, 2009 6:02pm

Probably one of the most retarded polls made by a fucking retard anyway.  Any man who thinks women hold all the cards in dating is a retard.


Aug 17, 2009 6:03pm

I've gotten one unsolicited message on this account. I think that brings the total up to three across five accounts. Frankly, I can't handle the volume, so only one of those people even got a response.


Aug 17, 2009 6:04pm

^^ Taking notes kids?


Aug 17, 2009 6:04pm

i rest my case



Aug 17, 2009 6:18pm

Are y'all counting just message messages, or IMs, too? 'Cause a lot of guys seem to click on the quote bubble directly from their homepage, just to see if anyone will respond. Fascinating exchanges, those. Especially the underaged crowd.

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