Oct 12, 2013 4:57pm

Back when you were straight, you must have dated another straight person. This person caused you to swear off dating someone of the other sex. What was this person like?


Oct 12, 2013 8:14pm

Here's the thing though.  They never had a choice in the matter.  Their thoughts and actions are based off determinist factors due to their genetics that dictate who they are attracted to, and who they have sex with.  Pretty much drones to their own genetics.  They should not be condemned.  Rather they should be pitied. 




Oct 13, 2013 4:02am

Cut the crap, every woman who has become a lesbian has dated a boy who had so many things wrong with him that they gave up on males.


Oct 15, 2013 2:03pm

I would give credit for that to my ex-husband


Oct 16, 2013 8:56am

"back when you were straight"
hahHhahHAHHAhha oh honey...


Oct 18, 2013 9:17am

lol this is a pretty damn clever thread by the OP. reminds me of many that i have made myself. gays refuse to admit they chose to be gay. sorry but when you were a baby you did not want to suck D's from the moment you got out of the womb. you developed that taste over time through poor parenting and perversion.


Oct 18, 2013 9:42am

Ever since you posted this topic, Chaeddd, I've been waiting for you to tell us what turned you gay.

I think it fair, after all, when asking others to share their stories, that you share yours.

So, Chaeddd,

What turned you gay?


Oct 21, 2013 11:44am



if this is what the world has come to, i welcome the apocalypse with open arms.


Oct 22, 2013 6:02am

would you like to have a bf april?


Nov 11, 2013 2:56pm


manipulapril: ditto


Mar 10, 2014 4:27pm

Although there was definitely a coming out process, no one 'turned me gay.' Family members have always sort of known that I was gay based on comments and actions I made.

There was a period in middle school and high school in which I was going through a bisexual transition. At one point, I was dating a girl we'll call Abby. Abby was attractive with a great physique. Straight men would drool over the chest she had. She also had a great personality, and we had a lot in common. Her family was very caring and welcoming to me. Everything seemed great. I remember at one point, her and I were playing Twister. I was in my mid-teens and if I had any interest in women, it should have been apparent during this game. Her chest was nearly falling out of her shirt, and we were constantly touching and flirting. I remember at one point, checking her out and realizing that I was more comfortable thinking of Abby as a good friend, or sister as opposed to someone I wanted to be sexual with.

Because of advice from friends, she broke up with me on a Friday afternoon. Over the weekend, I had an eye-opening and decided to come out to my friends. Monday, I followed through with my plan and toward the end of the day she approached me and told me she had made a mistake. She wanted to date me again, but I explained that I was coming out as gay. I think she was pretty devastated. She ended up stalking me for quite a while. She even pretended to be a gay cousin (male) of hers, to get my interest. It took her a while to move on, but now she's happy in a relationship with a guy who seems to care for her quite a bit. I think it worked out for the both of us. :)

This was after my first sexual experience with a girl, in which it took me asking her to leave the bedroom for me to get it up. When I got it up, she came back and we did it for about 30 seconds. I absolutely did not feel comfortable and wanted to leave. I could not for the life of me think of an excuse to leave, so I just blurted out, "I hear my mom calling." I was a mile and a half from home, haha. This girl still tries to be-friend me on Facebook despite me insisting I'm gay and not at all interested.

Sometimes I wonder if coming out is almost as difficult for those we're leaving behind.


Mar 11, 2014 2:21pm

fake answer for op: your mom.

real answer: god, buddah, allah or whatever you choose to call her.


Mar 14, 2014 5:08am

I did "choose" to be gay but I never dated a guy so no one turned me into a lesbian.  I mean I could have chosen to be a nun or a crazy cat lady and be perfectly content but I wouldn't get laid.  Alternatively, I could've felt obligated toward my family to get an arranged marriage and have children.  The marriage may not even be horrible and I may even convince myself that this is how things are and should be but it most definitely would not make me content/ happy.

The problem I have with people saying that our sexual identity is the work of someone else (God/ ex boyfriend) is that it takes away the power I have on making my own choices on what makes me happy.


Mar 14, 2014 9:16am

sorry but when you were a baby you did not want to suck D's from the moment you got out of the womb. you developed that taste over time through poor parenting and perversion.


This confuses me. because i can quite clearly remember a time in life when I thought boys were horrid and had kooties, so i most certainly also did not come out of the womb wanting to suck a dick, yet now I quite enjoy pretty much anything that drives my guy wild. when, precisely, and though what poor parenting and perversion, was I turned straight?


Mar 14, 2014 10:00am

^ You came out of the womb wanting to suck nipple.


Mar 16, 2014 3:50pm

^^^^^  Did that nerd really spend three long paragraphs internet bragging with some fairy tale about how badly hot straight chics supposedly wanted him (and then close with some patronizing drivel about how their lives were so much worse because of the horror of not being able to have him)? 

There are no words. 



Mar 22, 2014 9:59pm

When you date, you typically are still figuring yourself out.  Sexuality has an intimate connection with personal growth.

Correlation does not automatically mean causation.  

There is such a thing as political lesbianism.  But it has much less to do with sexual orientation and obviously a lot more to do with politics.  For me personally, I don't see the appeal.


Mar 24, 2014 9:53am

I just can't believe comments I'm reading here, I *HOPE* it's a troll or something.

I do think that sexual orientation is something you are born with, but NO BABIES are born wanting to fuck anyone, this comment is just sick.

Sexual attraction is not a choice.
It's what turns you on... you do not decide what you like or don't like.
Nobody "turns others" gay.

Stuff can happen in life that makes someone realize they were gay, make them REALIZE... not TURN gay.


Mar 24, 2014 10:53am

I just can't believe comments I'm reading here, I *HOPE* it's a troll or something.

While it has calmed down a little as the audience fades away, the OKC forums have always been esp trolly, with quite a few posters who I guess are just bored and like getting a rise out of people.  So yeah, there are posters here who really ramp it up.


Mar 31, 2014 11:01pm

LeRwarAndStuff:  In your case, you choose whether to be with a man or a woman.  That's a choice on your part.  So, while you may have a drive or urge for one person or another you choose who to date, who to have sex with, and who to have relationships with.  You choose how many people you interact with whether it be zero or several each year.  These are all life choices and people are going to either praise you or criticize your life choices.  

Using the Kinsey scale it is rare indeed for an individual to be exclusively homosexual, so the main controversy is dealing with those who are straight but experimenting or bisexual individuals who choose to act in homosexual relationships.  Someone who is straight but not perfectly straight can choose to be in a homosexual relationship.  Someone who is bisexual can choose to be in a homosexual relationship.  So, I find your idea that sexual orientation is not a choice to be quite dogmatic belief.  

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