Which option is harder to take?



Jun 3, 2010 8:56pm

Personally, I have a lot of respect for someone who will respond to something I've sent them only to tell me they're not interested.  In my mind, doing so doesn't make you a douche, and it shows that you were at least considerate enough to respect the fact that someone took time out to try and get in touch.  Having said this though, I'll admit that I'm guilty of simply ignoring someone out of disinterest only for fear of what message the simple act of my responding will put across.  Not something I'm proud of, but it's a truth.



Jun 3, 2010 9:48pm

This topic has been debated to death...




Jun 4, 2010 8:58am

I've never ignored anyone on this site, unless you count winks. I think winks are completely stupid and childish. But I've responded to every single message I've ever recieved even if I wasn't interested in dating them.

I don't get many replies myself though, and I'd personally prefer it if they could muster up an ounce of common decency to respond. Though, when someone ignores me it proves they're a douche who never deserved my time anyway, so I'm not torn up about it at all. So all in all, it doesn't matter to me. They can respond and make a great friend at least, or burn a bridge and lose out on an awesome person; their choice.


Jun 4, 2010 2:43pm


I don't get many replies myself though



Jun 4, 2010 3:58pm

I think the reason ignored messages are so upsetting is that they are flat out rejections. It's not hidden in a politely worded message about looking for friends or a not being in the right place right now, they're just not interested.

So, in essence, what would a negative response prove that you haven't already gotten from the silence?


Jun 4, 2010 4:19pm



Jun 4, 2010 4:26pm

Being ignored sucks!  But it helps you improve your game, that's for sure!


Jun 4, 2010 6:34pm

You can be straightforward in a message. Had a guy who looked like he had been hit in the face message me asking if I wanted to come over and cuddle, and I flat out told him to piss off and called him a creeper. It doesn't have to be one of those "Oh, I'm actually looking for friends right now", thing.


Jun 4, 2010 9:13pm

lol.... am i the only one who ALWAYS gets a reply? wow

you kids need some game, to be fair, i normally message girls that use the forum, who respond with some dumb shit like, "i dont have a cam", or "youre such a douchebag", which makes me ignore them. even the girls who ive seen just on the site in my area who id like to fuck... always respond to my messages.

you just dont have game. never message something boring like "hi, how are you". i always message pervy shit like... "id love to fuck your tits" you will get a response, most of the time POSITIVE" 100% of the time. swear down.

as for males messaging me, they get ignored. so they message me again and again and still get ignored. ive responded to like... 1 message from dgbdc, but then i ignored the message he sent me after i responded. so all in all... sucks to be you kids.

just a tip, i only answer people i want to fuck, just realise no one wants to fuck you and get over it. what a bunch of wingebags


Jun 5, 2010 4:49am

^truth be told, i've never had one message ignored

however, i know it sucks because recently this local hottie made me wait a day til he replied

i srsly thought he was gonna be the first to ignore

got worried and ran an extra mile lol


Jun 5, 2010 5:02am

I'm tots guilty of not responding most of the time. It's just too tedious and I suppose I get a pretty steady stream of messages. But I don't know what other peeps are getting so I can't exactly compare. I suppose the rule is that I'll respond if A) you're male, somewhat cute, look nature-y, hate capitalism, and are polite B) you're male, hot, and in a very forward way say that you want to fuck around.

"Hot" stands on a pretty flimsy definition though...


Jun 5, 2010 9:48am

^^^ It's not so much that I get ignored, although this has happened once because the guy thought I was pedobait (I actually was at the time :o) and posted something in the forums about me (I got a ton of visitors that way)-- it's that I don't ignore people. I can respond nicely if they seem cool but I'm not interested, or, if they're creepers, I can tell them to leave me the fuck alone and go gouge their eyes out and live under a bridge.


Ooops, did I just feed a troll? derpderp.


Jun 5, 2010 10:19am

I don't respond to people who have nothing to say. I've gotten a few messages in the past week or so that just say "Heyyy i think ur mad sexy" or something similar and honestly, bad spelling/grammar aside, how the fuck do I respond to that? Try starting a conversation. I don't care how hot you are, if your IQ is less than the temperature, in Farenheit, of a summer day in New Hampshire then you can just keep on moving. Ignoring these people is kinder than telling them that not only do I not find them attractive but also stupid.

People who ask me things, or mention something in my profile or a picture, even if they're less attractive, I'm more likely to respond to even if I'm not interested in them.


Jun 5, 2010 10:30am



  Jun. 5, 2010 – 8:28pmur sexy

32% Enemy 56% Friend 49% Match Sent to duncanis4lovers

Jun. 5, 2010 – 8:29pm

and you're crazy!


Jun 5, 2010 10:33am

^ because I didn't figure out that this was your motivation all along? Plus, the randos that usually message me aren't psychotic vaguely pedophilic assholes from the forums. You're an exception, cherie, not the rule.


Jun 5, 2010 10:36am

stop calling me a paedophile

im not attracted to children, they dont have tits and have skidmarks in their underwear

my mums "common law husband" was a paedophile, i had to sleep in front of my little sisters door when i was a child, just so he couldnt touch her, so perhaps you might like to think before you type



Jul 17, 2010 5:12pm

Either way it's a slight hit to the ego.  If they respond and are polite, not such a big deal I suppose.  If they respond rudely, it makes it really easy to take and glad to see what they are really like.


As far as being the one declining or not responding, it depends on their message.  If it's a standard, neanderthal mating call they get ignored.  If they were decent enough to say something beyond that, even if it isn't interesting, I write back and respectfully decline.


Jul 19, 2010 2:33pm

The ones that I straight out ignore are the boring "hi wutz up" type. 

I mean, what the hell? Who wouldn't ignore that?


Jul 19, 2010 2:38pm

I try to respond to every message sent to me even if only to say thank you but not interested.  What's weird to me is the people who become belligerent when you simply say I don't think we're a match.  Since when is it a cardinal sin not to be into someone?  I don't get annoyed if someone says no to me.


Jul 20, 2010 7:03am

I'm guilty of ignoring people most of the time, though honestly it's mostly because I ignore people who if they read my profile and just didn't look at my pic and message me would know it's not going to happen cause we're not a match/they are not my type, like guys, butch women, or people who are like 50% match and 40% enemy, etc.

I also never respond to someone who their message is nothing more than hey gorgeous, you're hot, etc, if a superficial comment on my looks is the only thing someone can come up with when trying to start a conversation with me they aren't my type.

If however someone writes a meaningful message than it was obvious they read my profile I will usually politely reply and let them know they aren't my type, guys are always ignored though regardless of what they say, well unless they are the arrogant you just haven't found the right man type, then sometimes they get told off with many choice "colorful" words.

As to which I think is worse to have done, idk, I almost never message people first cause i'm to shy.

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