What does short-term dating mean to you?



Feb 25, 2009 10:40pm

It doesn't mean any of these things to me.It conjures up a few dates with the intention of things never leading anywhere in the long term.No promise of sex or anything else.That's why it's the only thing I didn't check (or didn't leave checked,if the default is all on).

What did OKCupid mean when they created the category?


Mar 18, 2009 5:54pm

I'm more concerned with what a girl means when she checks this off. Does this mean she's open to friends with benefits? 'Dating', as it is nowadays, usually means seeing someone and probably having sex with them. 'Short term' usually means there are no plans for anything that will last a while. When you put these together, it just seems like it means finding friends with benefits, and when junctioned with long-term dating, means the person is open to finding something more, but realizes that it is highly unlikely and is willing to just have fun until then. Some might argue that 'casual encounters' is friends with benefits, but I see that more as a one-night-stand kind of thing or something that is strickly a sexual relationship (and if I thought that was what everyone else thought, I would uncheck it).

Mar 18, 2009 6:07pm

A prelude, where maybe it will work out, maybe it won't, and both parties are willing to gracefully move on if necessary. People should have fun in the process and there should be no bad feelings either way.

Mar 18, 2009 8:02pm

A free meal.

Mar 18, 2009 10:17pm

The for Fs of dating. Find them, fun em, f*ck em, flee em. May also mean FWB but mine are long term.

Mar 19, 2009 3:56am

Since I'd consider Long term dating anything over a year, I guess short term dating would be anything that didn't last a year.

Almost like a Trial period, before deciding on a committed relationship

Mar 19, 2009 4:16am


Mar 19, 2009 4:20am

sort of like a trial period in a way. you go out and just have no fun, no worries, no strings attached or anything, but if you really like them it can work toward something a little more serious.

Mar 19, 2009 4:29am

seems to me like...having fun with someone you attracted to but not really wanting commitment. i think i checked it, but never really thought of what it meant.

Mar 19, 2009 4:29am

I think it means dating with no expectations, just focusing on the date itself instead of just staring across the table and wondering if this person is "The One." Either that or dating where something might disrupt it later, like you are living in the area for only a short time.

Mar 19, 2009 4:33am

I actually think it implies that you're not super serious from the get-go. You'll go out on a few dates with a person, but you're not frantically searching for your soulmate or anything. You recognize that not all dating has to be about ending it in marriage, and sometimes you can just have some fun!

Mar 19, 2009 5:13am

I dont know how this works, but I'm trying to reply to fieldofdaffodil. What's that supposed to mean? You just put one word, without explaining yourself. If you don't have anything productive to say, then why would you even bother involving yourself in the thread?

Mar 19, 2009 6:10am

^ Apparently to let people know that she doesn't believe in getting to know someone before marriage.

Mar 19, 2009 8:04am

To me it means dating for a week or two and then going on to the next person.

Mar 19, 2009 8:10am

i think you can never look for any kind of relationship - you look for a person to have a relationship with. when i clicked short-term dating, i assumed it meant that you weren't going into it with any expectations.. as in, let's go out and have some fun and possibly, possibly see where it goes. i've seen several profiles on here who are like 'i'm only here for 6 months more' and short-term dating clicked. i think it just means exactly what new_tool_sn said. no soulmate needed. =)

Mar 19, 2009 8:52am

Short term is going on dates for a small period of time (couple weeks to maybe couple months) without it being a monogamous relationship or type of commited relationship, and no sex. Meaning you think the person is cool but you aren't quite sure/not feeling them

Mar 19, 2009 9:35am

Or maybe the person has plans to move away soon (in town for a defined period of time) and only wants an interim relationship.

Jun 8, 2009 1:38pm

Short term dating for the American status quo, means dating someone in hopes of having casual sex with them for a while, and then usually breaking it off. It's what girlfriends and boyfriends do all of the time until they find someone they want to take as a hostage! Friends with benefits answers "yes" to the question; Can't we still be friends?

Jun 9, 2009 1:43am

I suppose the second answer is closest to what I think of. Three dates, then one of you moves in with the other. Which isn't to say you're having sex with each other yet.

Sep 10, 2009 10:41am

I think short-term dating is a joke.  I think that it's a nice way of people saying that they just want to have sex, and that's it.

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