What does the screen name 'Lady_Zebra' suggest to you about its owner?



Feb 12, 2010 9:34am

Ok, I am the friend who knows Lady_Zebra from real-life and the guy who encouraged her to sign up for okc, and made these suggestions on screenname.

Her particular question is more specifically directed at her own context: she is looking to meet sporty, active 40/50something guys. Based on her experience (plays ice-hockey regularly), she is suited to guys slightly younger than her own age and preferably active or sports fans ("old farts need not apply" to quote her).

Since in my personal opinion many people form an initial impression purely based on screenname + thumbnail, I have been suggesting she pick a screenname that's more obviously relevant and less cryptic than the current one (e.g. 'sj_sharks_fan_nn').

She originally heard the "think horses not zebras" quote on 'House' two years ago and liked it so made it her handle. (It's a medical saying about diagnoses but that's not why she uses it.)

Please vote here and there is also a prior discussion thread here:




Feb 12, 2010 9:38am

you wonder why you're single, homie? because you assume really stupid and trival shit.


Feb 12, 2010 10:07am

^ Barbie

1) I 'assume' nothing. If you even read (you didn't) you would see I never assumed anything (got that?). I merely polled OTHER PEOPLE to see if/whether THEY infer anything at all from the handle - and they may not. Individual responses will vary. defysys made some much more intelligent comments over in the discussion thread. A screenname can either generate no connotation, a positive connotation (rare) or a negative connotation. But if you miss a once-off free opportunity to make that connection with your target audience, that doesn't make any sense to me.

2) Lady_Zebra signed up recently (at my suggestion) but says she isn't currently getting many views from her preferred type of person. This is very definitely not 'trivial' as you tried to suggest. It's about helping her find the right guy. I've been telling her that okc is about constantly tweaking and refining things based on visitors and match results a person tends to get - and that approach differs greatly for men and for women. I was advising her to prominently advertise that she is sporty (which she is) - mad about ice-hockey - which is quite rare for women. So I suggest if she simply said 'sj_sharks_fan_nn', guys from San Diego to Vancouver to Halifax to Miami to Munich would find it more appealing than (in my opinion) a cryptic handle. Remember we're talking SPECIFICALLY about active sporty males in their 40s/50s - not you. Other people may disagree - and hence the poll.

3) If we had to rephrase the poll in simplified terms, it would ask:

Based on her specific profile (read it!) and context of who she's looking for, are either of the following screennames likely to attract her of her preferred type of viewer?

  • Lady_Zebra
  • sj_sharks_fan_nn
  • roughly the same (in her context)
  • profile name doesn't matter

We'll put you down for the fourth option already (but it's never necessary to be abrasively rude as you were. It's also good to read and understand the question before replying to it.)

I'd prefer to hear constructive comments from other people now. They are free to disagree.


Feb 12, 2010 10:27am

Bitter_Barbie: bladerunner_2 is a very good friend of mine. He is helping me with OKC and thought this poll would be useful. 

Your comment is not only rude but unnecessary. If you have any constructive suggestions you're free to submit them. Otherwise personal attacks are unwelcome.

To everyone else: Please vote on the poll, it only takes a second. And constructive comments are absolutely welcome.


Lady_Zebra (for now, anyway)


Feb 12, 2010 12:13pm


Elegant yet wild and free, with a touch of childs play.  That's what it sugests to me. Why did you pick it/



Feb 23, 2010 5:02pm

^ Thank you, leninewt.

If you look at my photos, the last one illustrates a "Lady Zebra".

The secondary inspiration comes from this quote:


Since I am not common, I resemble a zebra more than a horse. :`)



Feb 23, 2010 6:22pm

"Lady" sounds like an undeserved title or a redundant descriptor.


Feb 23, 2010 6:26pm

^Thanks for bringing that up. I actually never thought of it that way. Kinda like the self-proclaimed "Queen" Latifa, or "Prince." hmmmm...

It's actually a sports thing. In HS/College sports, if the men's team is named the "Zebras," the women's team is named the "Lady Zebras."


Feb 23, 2010 6:30pm

Either way it's sexist. Joking, of course.


Either way Prince rocks your socks off. Not joking, of course.


Either way, username doesn't matter unless you're one of millions of people that has "taco" in your name. Stay away from the obscene and aim for mediocrity. I look at pictures, not names.


Yet again, either way, I'm much younger than you so my opinion means little.


Feb 23, 2010 7:35pm

I thought maybe I should mention, just in case you don't already know,

the only way to change a screen name is to delete your profile and begin again.



Feb 23, 2010 7:57pm

"Lady Zebra" sounds like the name for a "gentleman's club"--basically a titty bar with delusions of grandeur. Picture a billboard with jungle themed letters and the zebra-striped silhouette of an exotic dancer writhing against a pole listing a location just off the next exit.


Feb 23, 2010 8:16pm

When looking at this name, I thought about the defining characteristic of the Zebra.  Its stripes.  The lion is color blind, so the vertical stripes help the zebra camouflage with tall grass... but also, when a lot of zebras are standing together, the stripes make it more difficult to make out the individual animals.

I thought you were trying to imply something about conformity... maybe suggesting that for all your unique qualities that you still might fade into the background.  A sort of sad name, really, but one that asks someone to try to look deeper.

I barely read the names on profiles though, and don't give them much thought.  Only thought about yours since you asked.



Feb 23, 2010 11:15pm

squishyme: Yeah, I figured out pretty quickly that to change screen names I'd have to re-do the entire profile. I don't think I'll be doing that anytime soon.

zzlyxz: that's the best one yet! bladerunner_2, you must read that for a good chuckle. (for the rest of you folks, titty bar dancer is not at all my persona. at least not my everyday persona, lol)

It_its_Shane: that's an interesting description. reminds me of Harold & Maude, when she says that individually, a daisy is unique, but collectively, a field of daisies looks all the same. btw, I never thought of myself as conformist, but I suppose everyone has to conform at some level in order to function within society. and yes, it is kinda sad.



Feb 24, 2010 9:32am

Yes, I had read both of them in all their glory, wasn't sure which wasn't tongue-in-cheek.

"When you hear hoofbeats, think strippers not ungulates..."

'conformist_zebra'  might also be a good one.


Feb 24, 2010 9:35am

When I think of "Lady_Zebra," I think "not_a_boy_Zebra."


Feb 24, 2010 10:15am

-There's nothing wrong with Lady Zebra. Just keep it.


Feb 24, 2010 10:23am

I think its awesome.  And honestly I don't think anyone should judge based on just thuumbnail and profile pic.  If they do then they aren't the one that you want anyways; superficial people shouldn't apply is what I'm ready to put on my profile.  Its ridiculous to have people judge based upon the way you look and your sceenname.  They need to take the time to get to know you.

Zebras are very curious creatures that are also quite intelligent.  They are picky about who they will befriend and a stead fast friend no matter what.  I think you picked a good screenname and I hope that you choose to keep it.


Feb 24, 2010 11:27am

@ Bookworm and HernandezK, the question is not whether people SHOULD make snap decisions like that, but GIVEN that some of them do, how best to name the profile (+ primary thumbnail) to identify and connect clearly with the target audience.


Feb 24, 2010 11:44am

@ [[bladerunner_2]] I know that there are those who do, but as I wrote, I think that if people are willing to judge based upon that, then they arent' worth taking the time to get to know.  They are more concerned about how you look, and your screen name, then what is in your profile and who you are as a person.  I guess ones screenname can reflect who they are, but I think its better to communicate with a person who took the time to read your profile and is interested in getting to know you for who you are, not what you look like (on or off the site).  Your profile says a lot more about you then your screen name. 

Personally I think the screen name is wonderful. 


Feb 24, 2010 3:30pm

Thanks Bookworm 1981 & HernandezK!

And BTW, I'm learning a lot about the animal zebras! Makes me like my screen name even more.


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