Feb 3, 2010 4:34pm

I am wondering, if I give someone 4 or 5 stars in their profile, not during Quickmatch, will the person be notified that I have given them a high rating?  Or will they receive the same message as a Quickmatch? Or neither, they won't know at all?


Feb 4, 2010 2:52am

They'll only be notified if they also rated you with 4 or 5 stars, so don't hold your breath.


Feb 4, 2010 4:05am

I wouldn't hold yours either--breath, that is, or anything else for that matter!


Feb 4, 2010 4:49am

u can't touch this


Feb 4, 2010 7:49am

Geez, can`t get any good help around here either.The lady just asked a simple question~


Feb 4, 2010 7:56am

What's your problem?  I gave her an answer and she got hostile.  Now you're riding my jock.  What the hell do you people want from me?


Feb 4, 2010 8:29am

The Answer is 42. Wait... the correct answer to THIS question is YES, someone will most likely be notified if you rate them 4 or 5, even outside of QuickMatch.  Click on "Settings" over on the left.  The default setting for "Notifications" shows you'll get an email notification "When someone rates me a 4 or 5 stars on my profile, OR on QuickMatch."  Someone would have to unclick it, to prevent themselves from getting notified.  

I just looked at these Settings for the first time recently. 


Feb 4, 2010 1:09pm

Thanks marathonman for your supportive words, and IndependThinker for your perfect answer to my question.  I wasn't sure I was being clear but you hit the nail on the head.


Feb 4, 2010 6:06pm

I see. An innocent comment. She took it personally, got defensive and fired back. It didn't have to be interpreted so narrowly. Odd exchange. Things in writing...often filtered for the worst without the other senses, especially the body language and eye contact. I try to lighten up and seek clarification before assuming the worst. I couldn't have foreseen her taking offense but she did and I see how she could but not why.


Question: On my page, on the left, "star ratings."  The line reads 9 star ratings. If I go to the link and open it I get the bot saying "You haven't rated anyone yet."  If Icanhelp has it right, and I think he does, I would have to get very lucky to discover through trial and error who has rated me. This is a silly game. Anyone relying on getting attention from me using the star ratings is in for a long wait.


Feb 5, 2010 3:04am

Hmmm.  I didn't think this would turn into a discussion on interpreting online communications.  I'm good with owning up to my part in things, and I have been known to take things too seriously and get defensive.  However, I'm fairly certain I did not misinterpret his response.  "Innocent comment"?  He was saying I shouldn't hold my breath waiting for someone to rate me highly.  It was a blatatnly rude response to an innocent question, and if I misinterpreted than he would not have responded back how he did.   

Also, his answer was wrong, as pointed out by IndepenThinker.  According to him, people will be notified outside of quickmatch if I rate their profile 4 or 5 stars, regardless of if they've ever rated me.  The star rating link on the left shows who you have rated, so that has nothing to do with what I asked.  There's no trial and error, if they rate you 4 or 5 you are notified, unless you have unchecked it in your notification settings.


Feb 5, 2010 7:48am

I will try one last reads 9 star ratings


I click on link and go to star ratings

cupidbot says "YOU HAVEN"T RATED ANYONE!"

True. I have not rated anyone.

WHY does link say 9 star ratings?


To smartncute, your second post was very much interpreting online communication and caused hard feelings. You CHOSE to read his comment as negative and personally about you. You assumed he meant you and made it even more personal. His response to your weird rude comment was short and succinct. It doesn't prove you were correct to take the low road.






Feb 5, 2010 11:47am

You owe me an apology, smartncute_11.


Feb 6, 2010 12:29am

don't hold your breath..icanhelp


Feb 6, 2010 12:51am


Feb 6, 2010 7:12am

It also depends on whether the other user has 4 or 5-star notifications turned on.  They can easily turn that option off and never hear about star ratings from others.


Feb 6, 2010 8:50am

I think we are getting somewhere here with the questions about the stars. Has anyone ever seen a HELP button around here?....I can't find one anywhere.Thanks cotton333, I am going to try and find the notification switch.

I have found a couple of pals here and we have been playing with each others stars seeing what happens when we give them to each other, This is not about Quickmatch,  This is about cookie dripping wide open face cruising. Nothing happened on either side until and not until we had each given each other 4 stars. Then an email was sent from OKC with bells and whistles woooo-hooo! If anyone would like to play this and see for themselves I am game. be warned though, it appears you can't go back to NO Rating for that person. You can't get out of a star rating once you start or is there a way? It can be one or five or in between but it appears to be permanent. Anyone know about this?

My question still stands about the total beside the link. I have posted my question on other threads as well and it just goes unresolved.

The only update is now I have rated two guys with permission for my study of course! The link had a number before I ever started this "field research". I will be happy to play. I think it would be cool for someone to give some one one star and check back here with the results. We could set up an experiment and nail this sucker down. It is a big source of frustration for many. Disclaimer-this is FOR RESEARCH PURPOSES ONLY and does not imply any thing at all. If you want to get my "special" attention you need to "hold your breath!"


Feb 7, 2010 2:27pm

tglenn993nn is engaging in harassment.


Feb 8, 2010 6:33pm

For sure if you give someone three stars outside quick match nothing happens. I found someone to play stars with me and I am going to go and give him four and see if he is notified. back soon...


Feb 9, 2010 10:42am

I did go give my friend 4 stars and then emailed him to let him know I had done it and the time.  He wrote back that he heard nothing for a whole day and then got the multiple face choice below. Here is the answer to the original question on this thread. If you give someone 4 or 5 stars they will get an email with multiple pictures one of which will be yours. To quote


"One of these 9 people just gave you high marks (4 or 5 stars) on QuickMatch. Congratulations!

If you give high marks to the same girl who chose you, we'll let you both know you match. If not, no biggie. Click anyone below to start playing or click

here to login instantly. Somewhere in the first few people you rate will be your potential match."

end quote


The notification was not instant. That is how it works if you give someone 4 or 5 stars.


Now if I can talk him into giving me 4 stars-for research! We will know the next cupid move. I have already done this actually, played stars with another friend and posted the results above.  Big woo-woo and emails from the bot.


Feb 9, 2010 10:49am

You get notified if they rated you 4 or 5 stars whether you rated them or not.  The email link takes you to the quickmatch screen and the person usually pops up in the first several profiles.  It's usually pretty easy to figure out who it is if you pay attention to the email.

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