Jan 28, 2009 8:57am

I don’t know about all of you, but I don’t particularly like OkCupid’s New Color-Coded Reply Frequency Feature that now shows up when you View Matches.

I get a lot of extremely short emails from OkCupidians just telling me how much they laughed at my profile and then end the email with “Good Luck!”

Typically, I don’t respond to all of these emails because the only response is “Thank you! Good Luck to you to!” which I’ve always felt was implied and understood. I mean, who doesn’t want complimentary emails? I’ll always welcome and appreciate such emails so keep ‘em coming if that’s how you feel! ;)

But now, with this new feature, I feel I need to reply just for the sake of replying to change the percentages in my favor so I no longer show up as “Replies: Very Selectively” which may make me come across as some standoffish, unapproachable, holier-than-thou, arrogant snob. I can assure you, that’s not the case at all! ;)

Anyway. What do all of you think?


Jan 28, 2009 9:03am

I agree. I think that it will be okay, though, as long as people realize that, like many other things on this site, this feature can't be taken at face value. It's like the personality awards that say something like "more desiring of sex." That statement doesn't necessarily mean that that person is a sex addict. To all: please remember that you should put more stock into what the profile itself says, instead of what the personality awards and reply status says.

Jan 28, 2009 9:05am

OKC adds shitty new features while leaving old shitty things broken and crappy, like the forums. Seriously, stop beating off on new tripe and get some real forum software.

Jan 28, 2009 9:14am

I think you're probably reading too much into your potential reply status. I would rather be labeled "selective" than feel compelled to reply to every "do you give head?" or equally eloquent message that sporadically floats into my inbox. If someone is interested in you and wants to get acquainted, they'll probably go ahead and message you regardless of your status. Who cares if someone doesn't answer you? I'd rather be ignored than temporarily humored. (Incidentally, those short, complimentary emailers probably had the same problem thinking of something to say as you do when trying to think of a reply. The difference lies in the fact that they tried.)

Jan 28, 2009 9:23am

The "red light" or "green light" status won't affect who I message or how I Message them. I'm not going to let some stupid traffic light dictate how I interact with people. Beside, now that people know about this feature, everybody is going to send short one-word replies to everybody just to keep their response rate up.

Jan 28, 2009 9:30am

I just found out about this from someone who messaged me. Where can I see this? I'm curious about MY rating.

Jan 28, 2009 9:30am

Where do you find this "Reply Frequency Feature"?

Jan 28, 2009 9:35am

They appear when you search for matches. Trish, you're very selective apparently. Congratulations! :)

Jan 28, 2009 9:37am

Really? Strange. I don't see it on any of the guys. There's the odd bubble that says "This guy hasn't been messaged in a week! Do everyone a favour and message him!"
EDIT: WHOA, Nelly! Do the girls not have the option to see how often a fellow responds? That's not fair...

Jan 28, 2009 9:41am

^^Really? Jeez! I most always answer messages!

Jan 28, 2009 9:45am

nope, did a match search and still don't see it, either. unless i'm just completely blind (which is entirely possible after staring at notes/books for hours on end).

Jan 28, 2009 9:49am

It's a bad execution of a good idea.

A quick glance at the matches show you that most of all straight women are red, gay women are selective, straight men are green and gay men are selective.

The next think to happen is that guys who usually make an effort to get to know a girl, will be stopped by the red lights and girls would only get those ctrl+V type of messeges by those who just fire away to all directions.

Seem to me like shooting OKC's own legs.


Jan 28, 2009 9:49am

My first thoguht when seeing the new feature; What if they get a lot of messages from people they have no interest in talking to? Or some people have reported getting the "do you put out?" and "can we exchange pictures?" emails. I personally don't get a lot of messages, but I don't send that many either. So, I'd imagine, I reply often. I think the reason it is coming up on the gals and not the guys is because the guys generally send the first message, therefore it would make more sense to say "Hey, this chick probably isn't going to respond. Save yourself some time and message this other gal."

Jan 28, 2009 9:51am

Both those new features are poop. A bit intrusive if you ask me.

Jan 28, 2009 9:53am

Well, I don't send alot either but I get alot and I bet I answer back to 95% of them, even if it's just a 'Thank you' to the very short messages.

Jan 28, 2009 9:54am

I think this feature is worth a try. At least I won't be wasting much time writing well thought out emails to people who are "very selective." Looking throught my matches now, I see several that I've emailed. 6 of them reply "very selectively" and only one of them has sent me a short response. One who replies "selectively" and another who "replies often" did respond to me. And no I do not ask about cup sizes or request head in my opening emails. I try to say something thoughtful but brief and usually ask an innocuous question for my opener.

Jan 28, 2009 9:57am

Actually, it's got me thinking. I wonder how selective I show up as.

I'm going to answer LESS emails now so that I can appear more selective! :P

Jan 28, 2009 9:57am

Well, there have been a ton of journal entries lately about how women don't reply. Perhaps this will help the guys feel better? Who knows.

Jan 28, 2009 10:00am

I show up as "replies very selectively". Really, OKC? I reply to 90% of the messages I receive (even if it's just a courtesy "thank you" email). This is bullshit. :[

Jan 28, 2009 10:06am

makexup: How did you check your own selectivity?

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