24 Albuquerque, United States
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My self-summary
This would be my fourth (and a half) full update to my account. I did eventually/accidentally find my life-partner here, and he's very aware and supportive of what I came back for.

Rather recently, I've been exploring the idea of polyamory. What does it mean? Isn't it cheating? Does it seem like something that would benefit the lives of all involved? My spiritual beliefs lead me to feel like love should be shared in a multitude of healthy connections. My societal conditioning says that it could never work because monogamy is the One Twue Way. I'm here to figure out which is me.

This doesn't mean I want to jump into anything. I'm very busy between work, my partner, and our fur-babies. I do want to have more friends in my life, male and female. Anything beyond that will happen as it happens based on the depth of connection we make.

As for my personality, I'm weird (in a beautiful way, apparently), sarcastic, timid (to a point), proud, strong and an introvert/extrovert depending on how comfortable I am with given people in a given situation.

I find that after I listen to songs like this:


It helps to listen to songs like these:


Let's be friends!
What I’m doing with my life
So, it turns out that my career didn't involve teaching English. Well, at least not yet, who knows. I FINALLY FUCKING GRADUATED! Despite feeling like death and stress scrambled into a goo and fried most of the time, I made it! I've passed all of my national and state exams, and I can become a Registered Veterinary Technician as soon as I pay off that pesky overdue library fee. That keeps happening to me.

So, what is an RVT? Ya know, cute, fluffy, seizing, parvo-smelling, anal gland expressing, ADORABLE LOVEY FUZZ BALLS. Yeah, I didn't pick it for the glamour. :D

Fitness is very important to me, so before I die, I want to become either a nutritionist or a personal trainer. Probably the latter, well because, SIDE-EYE @ U COLLEGE. >.> As an addition to this, college helped bring back a lot of my old habits, so anyone interested in working out together should definitely let me know. I really enjoyed lifting weights way back when.

When I grow up, I'd like to have a small homestead with my partner, so that during the day I can be Cinderella, the Strong and Capable Awesome and then turn into Princess Snuggles, the Tea-Drinking Pile of Comfortable Blankets at night.
I’m really good at
Being sarcastic, blunt, cute, helpful, dramatic (in a fun way, not a "You were late, so I slashed your tires while you were in the bathroom" way).

Being anti-funny, awkward funny, and pointing out obvious things.

Singing. I just am. Humming, too. It's super fun.

Talking loudly when I get excited.

Deviating from the point while never quite forgetting where I was going.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile (because cheeks), my eyes, my hair (for better or worse; it has a mind of its own).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Where the Red Fern Grows, the Harry Potter series, the Narnia series, the Troy Games series, The Definitive Book of Body Language, Under the Dome, and many, many more.

Movies: HARJY POOTER (aka Harry Potter 1-8), Paranormal Activity 1-3, ANYTHING Disney, Hostage, Mamma Mia!, Rent, CLOUD ATLAS, HECTOR AND THE SEARCH FOR HA' PINESS ;) and more. Deadpool and Marvel films in general.

Shows: I watch more Netflix than I'd like to admit. I like Modern Family, Dollhouse, Firefly, Wilfred, Shin-Chan, Fairytale, Parks and Recreation, and Misfits. Cartoons from my childhood/teenage years go here, too.

Music: Mumford and Sons, Paramore, (the?) Avett Brothers, Ray LaMontagne, Halestorm, Mamma Mia!, AWOLnation, Great Lake Swimmers, Hozier, Walk the Moon, Ke$ha, Rufus Wainwright, Queen, Steam Powered Giraffe, and a bunch of stuff.

Food: I seem to like things with vinegar in them. ERMAGERD, PERKLES! I don't really like dry things unless it's popcorn. It does horrible things to me, but I forgive and consume it anyway. Dark chocolate is also devilishly good. Tea (sweet, unsweet, hot or cold). Chicken caesar salads with ranch if the dressing is too fishy, and seafood! So, pretty much anything that isn't bland or a cooked vegetable. Except, I've been working on the vegetable thing, and now I like to eat my broccoli, carrots, asparagus, and AVOCADOS MMMMMM.
The six things I could never do without
Meaningful connections
My "voice" in all senses of the word
Warm pajamas in the winter
Exercise (I get grumpy if I don't work out)
The power of choice

Bonus Answers!:
Delicious foodstuffs (noms = party time)
Showers (greasy =/= party time)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time organizing my schedule and trying to come up with things to do within my limited budget. How I can help the people I interact with on a daily basis. When I'm definitely, probably, most likely going to work out next. How many cuddles I can get in the time I'm not working out.

I really don't know what I spend very much time actively thinking about unless I'm worried about something. Life flows more smoothly for me if I simply let things happen (especially since I tend to be analytic and meticulous to a genuine fault). This is something that I thought I had down pat, but turns out old habits die hard. On a crumbling bridge of rock above a fiery crevasse. No matter how many times you tell them they shan't pass. <------reference

Since I've become a moderator for the site, I spend some my time wondering why we live in a world where I have to vote against peoples' cute profile pictures of their pets and champion those who post almost nude pictures of themselves. What a world we live in.
On a typical Friday night I am
TEAM INSTINCT BRUH. (Aka pokemon hunting/gym smashing)

Also, Netflix, relaxing from work, and trying not to think about getting up early for work on Saturdays.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a bisexual who's only had one girlfriend because I'm WAY more shy about expressing myself to girls than guys. Maybe I need practice?

In addition, I'm way too excited about owning a bottle of olive oil with the built in drizzle top. Dreams do come true.

There are 5 people in the United States named Rhett Butler, but I am the only person with my first and last name. Go me.
You should message me if
Ladies and Gentlemen: You aren't a vapid, shallow, twat-waffle. You can keep a conversation going. You like coffee/tea, making friends, and/or working out.
You have a copy of The Definitive Book of Body Language that I can borrow.

Ladies sans Gentlemen: You want to make me blush and stutter and...*sigh* I'm bad at this. FWB or something? :)