On top of that, my interests: photography, book stores, movies, hiking, gardening, naturalization.
After many years of trying (really!) to be monogamous, I've come to accept that it's likely that non-monogamy is a state of being that a lot of people share with me - whether they're "serial monogamists", "occasional cheaters" or "temporary singles" .
I've been lucky enough to have developed a happy relationship with someone who feels the same; and has felt the same since we first met as casual lovers. Surprisingly - and although we both resisted - we fell from like, to lust, to love - and to a committed long-term relationship. And all while respecting the fact that we were capable of commitment to others - as well as to each other.
Seeking a "relationship" is not my main focus. A relationship is a long-term accretion based on much trust and much shared experience: it's the prize we get for treating one another well. Similarly, I'm not looking for conquests, recreational sex or a harem. Short form: I'm probably not "Mr. Right"; and not "Mr. Right Now".
I'm looking for someone who enjoys the infinite possibilities presented by the phrase "it's complicated" - and is looking for an emotionally trusting, mutually supportive, honest and committed relationship.
Committing large tranches of time to community and social volunteer work.
Prepping the garden for spring.
Reading people - individually and in crowds
A wicked smile
waiting on Hilary Mantel, with bated breath; Marlon James; Craig Thompson
Burroughs, Walter Rodney, Self (Will, not My)
Authors on the pile
Winsor McCay, Tezuka, Tatsumi, Delisle, Shiceru Mizuki
Movies (never seen a bad one by)
Federico Fellini(!), Sally Potter, Akira Kurosawa, Wim Wenders, Werner Herzog
Portal: "Are you still there?"
Yes. Everything from Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan to George Jones - with a strong streak of Lucinda Williams and Amelia Curran
I love the restaurant experience as well as cooking, baking, buying and growing food. Mushroom hunting is a particular addiction.
A warm duvet
A good frying pan
A habit of pushing limits
Each of us is responsible for the types of relationships we have. Social conventions and pressures do strongly influence which relationship models are easier or yield more social privilege and validation. While some people remain unaware of off-Escalator relationship models, the internet is certainly helping to change that.
But regardless of which type of relationship you choose for yourself, if you also choose to ignore, ridicule, or vilify non-escalator relationship alternatives, the consequences of that choice extend far beyond your own life. How much awareness and respect you accord other relationship choices ultimately affects everyone who might consider, or perhaps truly need, a relationship that’s somehow off the Escalator.
A big part of curbing the tyranny of the Escalator is simply to acknowledge that it exists, that it is a matter of choice, and that there are other valid choices. Ultimately substance, not structure, should be what determines the success or value of any intimate relationship."
"Riding The Relationship Escalator - Or Not" by aggiesez