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My self-summary
Tall, dark, handsome, arrogant, brilliant, and amusing. I smell very good, it is one of my many talents. (Like *very* good, I have been mobbed because of it)

I am a geek that is good looking and has social skills, no shit. I throw parties and encourage our society to move to a less puritanical state. I am married, love my wife and chase women all the time. Well, not so much chase as catch.

I have children that eat a lot of my time.

Kink is not the central focus of my life, no matter how much I am involved in it.

I read a lot and love hiking in the mountains of our fair NC.

Organized religion is one of the only things that scares me.

I prejudge stupid people as being worthless, perhaps it is wrong of me.

I love getting Blowjobs. I may mention this again, no worries, it is not all I think about.

I am polyamorous (...as in *yes* my wife knows... geez)

I think all of you who are saying things like, "Message me if you are the one I have been waiting for.." or "I am the one you have been waiting for..." are missing the a basic point of life. Stop waiting.
What I’m doing with my life
Saving the world one person at a time. Really, this is my major goal in life. (I just realized this makes me sound all bible-thumpy, which is not the case)
I’m really good at
Most anything I put my mind to, except singing... it's never stopped me, though. Fear my Rockband skills!
The first things people usually notice about me
I am tall and loud and sleep with their girlfriends.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anything by Gene Wolfe is worth reading more than once. He shames other authors. Neil Gaiman and Neal Stephenson are cool. Robert Heinlein was my favorite before Gene. Though Ender's Game still comes out near the top of my list, OSC is an ass. (not as bad as Harlan Ellison, who can write a great short story) The Story of O is a good read, but maybe just because sitting around drinking single malt and spanking hot women is an appealing pastime. Alastair Reynolds is the best living hard SciFi writer. Ursula K. LeGuin has a great handle on melding Tao with fantasy.... Find me on Goodreads for more.

I agree with John Waters that we need to make reading cool again... if you take someone home, and they don't have books, do not fuck them.

...also, some blogs are fine art.. like Hyperbole and a Half

Real Genius, Fight Club, Blazing Saddles, Ronin, PotC

Firefly, The Wire, Mad Men, POI, House of Cards, Hemlock Grove, Castle, Stranger Things!!!!

Juno Reactor, Tom Petty, Pink Floyd, Lady GaGa anything except country... Found Tech N9ne .... loving him.

Sushi, Pho, Greek, most things spicy... Sawsadee has great Thai. Have you been to Buku? The Stanbury?

Apparently, it is odd that I cook.

I roast my own coffee and typically use a french press to brew it. I could use a vaccuum brewer...
Six things I could never do without
an open relationship


... not sure beyond that.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Most everything... especially pigtails
On a typical Friday night I am
Drinking single malt scotch and perhaps pursuing young ladies. Maybe snuggling with my wife.

On a typical Monday night I am out with a bunch of friends I hit LVG for $3 pint night, they have good food too.... Still not the perfect place (now closed) that had a full bar, good espresso drinks, a patio, good food, and was not too crowded/loud. I spend too much time trying to find another one like that....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am an open book. I love to tell stories about my life, even if I was on the losing end (how could that ever happen?!).

You may have seen me on Tinder, or FL, or some such crazy place as well....
You should message me if
You want to have intelligent conversation

You want to talk about intersectional feminism.

You are a hot red-head :)

You have beer suggestions. Or venue suggestions.

You think the Fat P is the best joint in CB.

(...and why do they need to be 'single' guys if you are looking for 'new friends'? Yeah, that's what I thought...)
The two of us