NOTE: One word introductory messages, or messages of the "How's it going?" variety will not be answered. SAY something if you want a reply. Intro message of "Hi" combined with no profile info guarantees you silence from me.
This is a work in progress. Aren't we all?
I am in the slow process of healing from heavy losses and attempting to jettison some emotional baggage. I have no tolerance for bullshit.
I am polyamorous and kinky. If you are exclusive and vanilla, you should probably move along. I have a fetlife profile as well, should that be your thing. I also have a stable primary partner. I am looking to enhance and supplement, not replace. Group play is an option in the right circumstance.
I am not looking for one night stands. Casual, maybe, but there must be some genuine connection, concern, friendship? I'm definitely looking for something ongoing. I am looking to meet, not to exchange fantasies, spank fodder, or other kinds of endless emailing. A handful of emails to establish interest, followed by a no expectation meeting in a public setting is how I prefer to proceed.
I am overweight, but active. (My job and hobbies are quite physical). Even at my fittest, I had a belly. If you can't handle curves and extra flesh, don't waste my time. For the first time in my life I've developed some negative body image and insecurity, despite the weight not being recent. I'm not happy about this mental change and don't need any outside help feeding the negative...I'm working to get back to loving myself unconditionally because I deserve it. I don't know who let this negative self talk voice into my head but I'd like it evicted. Yesterday.
I am self employed which means I work pretty much constantly. I burnt myself out quite badly two years ago and mostly failed at lightening the load last year. This year i'm launching a new service which means more work to establish what should get me less stress more money. Should. Turns out working smarter is really hard.
I travel fairly frequently for work, mostly in BC.
-sadly, I'm also really good at being hard on myself. I'm trying to learn otherwise.
-Several xxx-rated things...wouldn't you like to know