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My self-summary
I am a pretty laid back person, I've been told that I'm the sweetest person ever, I'm known to be a great listener and in some circles, the best catch anyone could stumble across. I am generally a fun person to be around-- when spending time together and at times I could be your best friend. I, at a party, ended up connecting with only 3 people but they ended up in my life to this day...and in general, once I forge a connection with someone and its mutual, you are in my life from then on. I am very dedicated to my friends and anyone I've ever been in love with knows that they can always count me as a friend. I look for the imperfections in the women I'm attracted to, because they are usually the details I love most about her. I'm pretty affectionate, I am a Unicorn.

The Apollonian edict 'everything in moderation' pretty much has been a consistent motif throughout my life. everything has had a counterbalance that keeps me on my toes. i live consistently in the moment and sometimes this is an attractive quality,...people tend to need a plan or feel that they need a plan in place to live...i kind of follow what seems to make the most directional sense. i have majored in quite a few disciplines, as an consequence. However English seemed to suit the thing that most motivates me: connection. I am a writer by nature, a student at heart and I work full-time for a non-profit.... as you can probably tell, i do alot of thinking: self-reflection...i also do alot of observation..... i'd rather be known than be judged. I generally rely on my empathy and intuition to guide me closer to people I care about. I often wear my heart on my sleeve and i'd like to find someone to help me get out of my head more and into the greater unknown of my reflections.
What I’m doing with my life
i am witnessing the detail & surviving the financial valley that is post graduate living.
I’m really good at
painting visual pictures with words. listening intently to people and their various quirks (which i love). i also am pretty decent at wasting time with people...at least that's what i've been told. ( i.e. hanging out) I am also great at listening and actually being present. I've been known to incite laughter and happiness in the people around me.
The first things people usually notice about me
lips, hair, eyes, and once in a while, my shyness (i.e. awkward attempts at making an impression, as is evident with this meandering profile rant)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: hmmm thats kind of hard for an english major...most of my favorites are collections of poetry...i havent read too much fiction believe it or not. sooo authors: john ashbery, mei-mei bersenbrugge, leslie scalapino (r.i.p.) kari edwards, anne carson, ben lerner, lisa robertson, rob fitterman, richard brautigan, mathea harvey charles bernstein, bataille, benjamin, deleuze sylvia plath (i know) william carlos williams, marie calloway, pablo neruda, franz kafka, miranda july, arthur rimbaud, walter benjamin, george bataille, wittgenstein, robert smithson, the romantics...etc, etc, etc...

movies: hmm, i was a film major at one time..... directors: kurasawa, kubrick, lynch, gallo, korine, anderson (wes & paul thomas) schaefer, polish brothers, clark, van zant, besson, hughes, spielberg, trouffau, cox, arakki, tarrentino,kar-wei, fincher, rodriguez, taymor, crowe, linklater, smith, aronovski etc, etc, etc...
genres: all , but i always have a secret spot for films that evoke an emotional response (and b-movie cheese).

music: another major... recent favorites.....radiohead, IAMX, portishead, gainsbourg (serge and charlotte), david bowie, black keys, white rose movement, manicure, twin shadow, (we are) performers, roy orbison, lady lamb, mo, ghost society,sage francis, buck 65, deltron 3030, beastie boys, iron & wine, sigur ros, she wants revenge, jon brion, eliott smith, cruel black dove, phantogram, father john misty, foreign cinema, we are trees, foals, first-aid kit, hooray for earth, tesla boy, glass candy, the chromatics, desire, austra, the civil wars, stereolab, zambri, the knife, britta personn, chelsea wolfe, sister ray, soap&skin, moderat, neil young, the smiths, okkervil river, shearwater, aimee mann, asobi seksu, blonde redhead, sonic youth, jim o'rourke...etc, etc, etc...

Food: mostly anything...(unless it is oceanic....for whatever reason, seafood has never been a good taste for me.)
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the things that seem to make people think they are not connected to everything and everyone. i also tend to think about identity alot. Sex of course, (as most do). Ways and means to inspire a smile from someone who needs it. What I'd like to experience next. Recently, why so many women are identifying with the poly lifestyle.
On a typical Friday night I am
usually recovering from a week of laborious work, thus i am usually strolling casually home, smelling and watching the things i generally dont get to appreciate on the days i do work, i usually enjoy a quiet dinner and relax with either a book, a film, friends and/or a writing project.(Needless to say, I am a pretty low keyed individual. I'd rather create intimate spaces rather than seek out oceans of voices and/or movement.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i am a misinterpretation of time incarnate & i am a serial monogamist
You should message me if
you have read through the minutiae and still feel that there is something youd like to know about me that hasnt been stated explicitly. OR you would just like to hold something of a conversation through this site. If I've visited your profile, its because i saw something intriguing and attractive in it. I am holding back from messaging because I figure if you see me in your browsed history, you either want to know something about me or you don't, once you've arrived. please send me a message if you see something here worth exploring further...even a message with empty space, so I at least know you'd like to converse and get to know me.
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