Next time in Paris will be in March and then most of the summer 2016.
Briefly, I've been alone too long and would love to change that. I am a good guy with an interesting life I want to share. I'm an artist, designer, photographer and educator. It would be great to meet a smart, funny, handsome, kind and sexy man who is also a reasonable, reliable adult (that's not about age in years.) Looking for a man who is working hard to be the real deal. If he has made mistakes and learned from them, even better. Art, photography, design and a sense of social responsibility and justice are big parts of my life. No drugs or alcohol. I am very oral; it all starts, keeps going and ends with kissing.
Me? Somewhat unusual, talented, intense, silly, charming, gracious, infuriating, tactless, diplomatic. I can be gregarious, shy, generous, introspective, impatient, willful. Definitely a top, I'm HIV- and on PrEP. I have seen trouble and created my own. I don't drink, have done that enough for a couple of lifetimes. I'm glad to be alive and am grateful for second chances. I can also be extremely funny and perverse. I have old friends I love but I need to be surprised by someone new. I have traveled a good deal and look forward to more. I ended a long-term relationship a while ago and want to practice what I have learned about love to date. I have an interesting and unpredictable professional life that has included art, design, journalism, government, academia, and my own business. I work very hard, become engrossed in ideas, have a flexible mind and love solving problems. I appreciate beauty, popular culture, the performing arts, and technology and what they reflect about our lives. I like to entertain and cook. I value difference, openness, honesty, curiosity, kindness, compassion, courage, a great sense of humor and a greater kisser.
You? Masculine, out, experienced in long term relationships, successful, talented and creative, sensitive sensual and independent. If you are in the process of becoming something new; if you are independent but available for love; if you work hard and seek challenge; if you have a wild and dark sense of humor; if you are an engaged bottom who loves to be kissed, held, touched: if you enjoy giving and are able to receive; if you are a good listener; if you are articulate and understand the art of disagreement; if you are committed to finding some truth in your life and its contradictions; if you are fascinated by the details, if you want to understand the complexity of the big picture; if you are fascinated by popular culture and the new; if the arts are near the center of your life; if you enjoy fashion; if you are creative, intelligent, curious about the world; if you are still shy despite your successes; if you have seen and made your own troubles; if you are handsome, affectionate, sexy; if you go to the gym but it does not rule your life or your thoughts about others; love to kiss; if you are all or some of these and attracted to me, I am likely to be drawn to you.
Dealbreakers: Pictures of you in many groups of people who are just like you; pictures of you with cats (I am very allergic); 50+% of your pictures are with women on what would appear to be "dates" if I didn't know better and you don't indicate that you are new to sex with men; all of your pictures include cocktails; more than 20% of your pictures lack clothing; pictures with dirty, messy interiors in the background; pictures that feature many gyms or bars in the background; other evidence of active addictions....
Movies: lots of documentaries, Shame, Hunger, How To Survive A Plague, The Descendants, No Country for Old Men, The Sea Inside, Casino, The Delta, Weekend, Babel, Munich, Game Change, The Shadow of the Vampire, The Lives of Others, The Dreamers, La Vie En Rose, A Single man, Magnolia, Notes on a Scandal, Sexy Beast, Fight Club, 81/2,The Servant, Last Tango in Paris, Ma Vie en Rose, Long Days Journey In To Night, Doubt, Grey Gardens, Cries and Whispers, Hustler White, Until The End of the World, Suddenly Last Summer, Our Hitler, Year of 13 Moons, American Beauty, Sebastiane, Napoleon Dynamite, Happiness, among many, many others
TV Shows: I am addicted to MSNBC especially The Rachel Maddow Show, will be riveted to disaster coverage. Favorite have been Getting On, Veep, Life is Short, Big Love, Hoarders, Top Chef, The Sopranos, The New Adventures of Old Christine, Medium, Hung, Masters of Sex, Nurse Jackie
Music: Florence & the Machine, Amy Winehouse, The Decembrists, Grace Jones, Abbey Lincoln, Antony&The Johnsons, Beth Gibbons, Vashti Bunyan, Imogen Heap, Feist, Sarah Vaughan, Erykah Badu, John Lee Hooker, John Mayall, Lucinda Williams, Emmie Lou Harris, Martha Wainwright, Rufus Wainwright, Maria Betania, Djavan, Joni Mitchell, Adele, Simone, Angie Stone, Dusty Springfield, Coldplay, Cesaria Evora, Leonard Cohen, Bob Dylan, Cheb Mami, Laura Nyro, Tom Waits, Keith Jarrett, Stephane Grappelli, Wyclef Jean.