The gal that is "IT" / "THE ONE"...whatever term works for you will be the person who sees beyond the fact that I'm chunky in a Kevin James way rather than thin in a Brad Pitt way. She'll see my heart, my want and love for family and see past my flaws as I'll see past your flaws to focus on your kindness. I'm not at all looking for a model or size 5.......a size 16 with a heart twice that works for me! Someone I can make laugh till it hurts and makes me smile even on a bad day! The one that will smile lovingly while we and friends and family sit around a firepit on a cold night, hold my hand or just love listening to me play my acoustic guitar while we all mess up the words to whatever songs we are attempting!!
I am a creative, warm, affectionate man who doesn't take myself or life too seriously. I'm an intellectual (but NOT a snob) who is open minded and non-judgmental yet loves to think outside the box, laugh and seeks to enjoy life. I don't just ask "why?" but also "why not?" or "why not this way?" I believe when two people find each other that click they should seek solutions to issues that arise other than "it's over I'm gone". While I'm more than capable on my own I want to share the good as well as the trials and tribulations of life with another as one. To that end I'm seeking my life partner, best friend, lover and soul mate that is the first person I wish to share with when something wonderful happens and the only one I turn to when life throws a curve ball...and I can be the same for them.
I'm aware many women (and men) just scope out the pictures and never bothers to READ these summaries. I tried the long version of "I'm this and that and seek this and that" in great detail with little success so now I'm trying the short, emotional 1040EZ route! LOL!!! YEAH, I KNOW TRYING BUT SEEMS LIKE IT STILL IS LONG!! You want to know about me get off your ass and ASK! One of my virtues (though often viewed as a negative) is I'm extremely direct hence I don't play games. Hell, read the 2000 or so questions I've answered....which gives a pretty accurate idea of who I am. Again, anything else simply ask. While I stand by what I say here I also believe when two people come together compromises on both sides have to happen. There are some things that just "are" with me and others where wiggle room exist as long as this hypothetical unknown as of yet person is also willing to bend and be flexible.
INFP Personality: http://www.16personalities.com/test-results
According to this test I am one of the Diplomats - an empathic and idealistic individual who enjoys exploring interesting ideas and prizes morality. You are known for your poetic nature, intuitive skills and pure, childlike enthusiasm.
Over the last XX??? months I've met, spoke with on the phone, had dinners with every version of game playing, lying, batshit crazy women in the greater St. Louis and So. Illinois area (as well as a few who just weren't emotionally ready for anyone or just weren't at my level of intellect/compassion/passion). Surprise me......BE A LITTLE NORMAL! You don't need to be thin (I prefer chunky women)..I'm not even asking for someone who doesn't have some baggage and shit in their past (at our ages who doesn't have baggage?)......I almost prefer it as you will better understand me as I'll better understand you.
Soooo...I'm hoping that the right lady who compliments my warped humor, sex drive and intellect will respond!!! I'm not looking for a corporate executive that works 80 hours a week and has no time for a relationship (why would a woman put a profile up if they haven't the time for a guy in their life?) nor someone who lives in their car. I want someone I can laugh with, talk with and enjoy discovering each other. Someone I can enjoy out of bed as much as in bed! Is that direct enough?
If money, status, a big house and someone to save you from abstract poverty is what you seek in a man best to pass on me because, while I manage and pay my own way, I struggle just like 90% of America.
I'm a firm believer that managing adversity in life is less when there's two just as accomplishments are so much sweeter when there's someone to share them with!
I'm your rock in a crisis, great with computers, laugh at your inability to program your cellphone and take joy in doing it for you while making your favorite songs ringtones for you. The little things...ya know? Besides being a computer geek, musician and writer I'm really good at being your best friend....someone always there to turn to when it seems like life is dumping on you in spades....I have a big heart and big shoulders, standard equipment with the big belly!! So are YOU a woman who can see a bear hug from a big hearted guy more relevant than their size 40 waist? If you are we should talk. I'm not looking for some size 5 Barbie......I like something to squeeze and meat on your bones as well!
On the flip-side a recent "first date/last date" who lacked the manners to WAIT till I arrived at the eatery SHE INSISTED ON and was already stuffing her face when I showed up then proceeded to take off her shoes and stretch out her not so attractive barefoot in the booth moving on to tell me she couldn't see having sex with me (NO I DIDN'T ASK!) closed the night with a therapy assessment OF MY FLAWS!! I was looking for the hidden camera thinking this was meant for a bad reality show! Why did I share this? To show you even us guys come across foul, bad dating experiences and if we meet and you don't feel sparks you also won't have to worry about feeling my hand on your ass because as much as I would like to avoid another rude, bad dating experience I don't want to be one!
I love reading authorized and unauthorized biographies (usually famous and infamous people) from rock stars to innovators like Howard Hughes and Preston Tucker to politicians and political history to serial killers.....is there much of a leap between today's political leaders and serial killers? Make for an interesting topic over dinner on a first date..LOL!! Also various books such as George Orwell's 1984, A Clockwork Orange by Anthony Burgess, The Giver by Lois Lowry and of course ANIMAL FARM!!!!
I love TV shows like Ringer, Body Of Proof, Two And A Half Men, King Of The Hill, Arrow, Rockford Files, Veronica Mars, Knight Rider (original and later version).
As my belly demonstrates I enjoy food! Italian, Seafood, Mexican....everything from Applebee's / O'Charlies simple to those oddball hole-in-the-wall places you just happen across while out for a nice drive....anything BUT fancy as I don't do the suit and tie thang!
1) You enjoy long talks and affection (not necessarily at the same time).
2) You aren't so old that the things that used to be dry are wet and the things that are supposed to be wet are dry!
3) You love to laugh, are chubby, wear your heart on your sleeve and are HONEST. I'd rather be disappointed by the truth than betrayed by a lie and liars.
4) You are seeking a man long-term.
5) You are unquestionably straight! Nothing against alternative lifestyles and open marriages....just not for me. I'm too selfish and don't share!
6) You are seeking a 50/50 equal partnership No control freaks!.
7) You are not dating anyone at present. (this includes talking to other guys with intention of dating and fucking old friends, ex's....and family members! YUK! Some of what I've met!!!)
8) You are NOT a CONTROL FREAK! Yes I'm aware this is a repetition but yet needs to be stated twice.
9) You value happiness over money.