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My self-summary
Intensely creative guy, looking to date. I have usually been in a long-term relationship and I will again. Till then, I am happy with all kinds of entertainments, from romance to casual sex. I am tender, funny, and romantic. I think getting Japanese noodles and then seeing a film at the Kabuki is one form of heaven. There are others.

I'm a nurturing kind of guy. I am always cooking for my friends, and generally interested in food, from l'Arpege in Paris to a Uighur--Muslim Chinese--restaurant I discovered out in the avenues here in San Francisco. I am a writer, and that takes me on a lot of wonderful trips.

I am 5'10" and 200, so stocky, with big chest and shoulders, white hair on chest, some on shoulders and back.. Sort of your classic daddy/bear, though not so heavy. HIV-, sane and relaxed. Kissing is important, and I have insanely sensitive nipples.

I was a carpenter and house painter for some years. A potter too. Then I became an arts administrator and then a teacher. Meanwhile, I was writing.

I'm looking for a slim to average build, muscles are fine, or none, say 25 to 50 with a lot of wiggle room, and a head with something in it. Someone with cultural interests would be great.

One thing about this site is that there is no place, it seems, for age preferences, so I hope my demographic can find me!

I am creative, kind, and funny
What I’m doing with my life
I am a writer and a professor at a local university. I write fiction, poetry and some art criticism. For example, I wrote a catalogue essay for the Havana Biennale that took me to Cuba this year. I am interested in visual art, and decorative arts, film, and most things cultural especially if they have some edge. I like Warren McArthur and Paul Frankl (furniture), California Faience and Jalan (obscure ceramics). Once I had a garden column called Mr. Plantier. I like early opera. I read the NY Times in the morning in bed with a cup of tea.
I’m really good at
I help people brainstorm, problem solve, or just talk about problems. I am an excellent cook, a good traveler, and I love domesticity. I put a lot into sex, and into relationships, and expect the same. What else?--I am good at parallel parking (though when it comes to sex, I often prefer to be the parking space).
The first things people usually notice about me
Oh, my eyes I guess. And a nice smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like all film, from summer blockbusters to silent movies to the experimental and obscure to the truly stupid--I like the horror genre, and movies from the 30's. I am probably the only person on this site, or maybe in the world, to have seen Curucu, Beast of the Amazon--twice! A movie that couldn't afford a monster--it was invisible--or even gore. I suppose the French philosopher Georges Bataille was important to me, and lots of other writers, Frank O'Hara's poetry, Henry James. I have been reading Roberto Bolano with great pleasure. Juan Goytisolo, Phillip K Dick, Jim Thompson, Jane Austen, Kathy Acker. Too many poets to name.
Six things I could never do without
Friends, sex, interesting food, romance, Turner Classic Movies, books.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Friends, sex, interesting food, romance, books, my home, travel, politics, and how to write the third section of the novel I am working on.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friends, sex, interesting food, romance, books, my home, travel, working on that third section.....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a mild addiction to the NY Times Home Section--it comes out on Thursday.
You should message me if
you see me as a new hat that you want to try on. You are serious. You are not serious. You are looking for a labor saving device. An obsession. A house painter.
The two of us