47 Downers Grove, United States
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My self-summary
I grew up in Cleveland, OH and came to Chicago (via Lithuania [and, no, I'm not Lithuanian]) for graduate school and never left. First as a resident of Hyde Park, which I miss greatly, and then Rogers Park, I grew to love Chicago. While I now live in Downers Grove to be closer to my children, I'm a city person at heart and hope to move back when my children get older.

By trade I'm a community organizer and advocate for the underserved in the fields of workforce development and housing. While the current political climate has me questioning my career choice to some extent, I still feel strongly about the populations I work for.

I really enjoy engaging conversations about everything from music, movies novels and politics, to name but a few. To be sure, there is little more enjoyable to me than those sorts of conversations that last forever covering a wide verity of topics both philosophical and nonsensical.

I can be somewhat shy and reserved at first, but after I'm more comfortable, there are times I wish I had an app that would periodically call me and tell myself to be quiet. I am more comfortable one-on-one or in small groups. Ultimately, I don't take myself too seriously and have a rather dry sense of humor.

Music is very important to me; both as a listener and a (rather poor but heartfelt) musician. In an ideal world I'd like to get to more shows at clubs like the Empty Bottle, but lately I haven't managed to get to very many. Finding someone who enjoys this as much as I do would be lovely, but it isn't vital.
What I’m doing with my life
Contemplating a late career change, enjoying my children while they're at an age where they still love me unconditionally.
I’m really good at
I'm really good at communicating in one-on-one situations. I listen well and love to learn about other people and what makes them tick. Parties and larger groups? Well, that's another story altogether!
The first things people usually notice about me
My black attire or perhaps that I'm somewhat reserved when I first meet people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: my favorite music is post-punk, punk and rock 'n roll, but also like accounting jazz from the 50s and 60s. Miles Davis, Art Blakey and the Jazz Messengers, Cloud Norhings, American Misic Club, Palace Music, Joy Division, The Chameleons, Nick Drake, Elliott Smith, Alexi Murdock, Television, The Stooges, Love, Can, OFF! and pre '81 Bowie.

Lit.: CHARLES BUKOWSKI, Nelson Algren, Henry Miller, Tenessee Williams, Roberto Bolano, Iris Murdock, BAUDELAIRE, nick Hornby, Jonathan Frazen.

TV: I don't have cable, so I rely on my wonderful library and Netflix; twins peaks, 30 rock, Seinfeld, The Walking Dead, Arrested Development, LOUIE, Curb Your Enthusiasm, the wire and FRONTLINE.

Radio: Public Radio and AM 820. I miss the college radio I grew up with in Cleveland: four choices at any given time in practically any part or the county! Cleveland State WCSB, Oberlin WOBC, Case Western Reserve, Baldwin Wallace and John Carol U! It fed my musical curiosity in amazing ways.

Movies: Blue Velvet, Royal Tenenbaums, Coen Brothers, Woody Allen, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, Deer Hunter, Submarine, Ghost World, Drugstore Cowboy, Meloncholia, All That Jazz and documentaries of all sorts.
The six things I could never do without
My children;

My dog, Charley;

My records and turntable;


Fine Bourbon; and,

A cold pillow.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The juxtaposition between the beauty and absurdity of life. Or at least alternating between the two perspectives.
On a typical Friday night I am
If I'm not hanging out with my children, I'm often spinning vinyl at home, letting my emotions dictate where my playlist goes. I would, however, love to find someone to do this with or to explore funky and cheap, but great, little restaurants. Checking out up and coming bands would be great as well, I haven't done this as much as I have in the past and would love to change this. Or perhaps packing the car up at the last minute and retreating to an isolated campground and a firepit.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This question is troublesome simply because it doesn't make a whole lot of sense to reveal a secret on the Internet. I suppose it would be my joy of writing and photography. I secretly aspire to publish one day, for now I am fine with filling pages with images, ideas and words.
You should message me if
You're breathing and any of the above sparks an interest.