I tread the middle way, between realism and idealism. I believe we are subject to two conditions in this life: circumstance and choice. Whether or not circumstance has smiled upon you, what choices have you made?
This online dating thing holds great promise yet is often derailed by the introduction of the human element to the equation. The Profile gives a bit of a back-story, (a peek behind the veil, as it were) but with the advent of the "Swipe left/Swipe right" paradigm we're all back to the superficialities of High School...sans the day to day contact that might give one some idea of anothers' character. I've had more than one friend tell me that I'm too honest in my description of myself here; not suggesting that I lie about myself but that I should leave more unsaid. They may be right, (I may be doing just that right now.)
I look at potential romantic relationships in very much the same way that I always have. There is an aspect of initial attraction, (typically physical but not necessarily) that is either strengthened or diminished by interaction. It's that first conversation that holds such sway, (for me at least.) Like anyone, I cannot summarily describe all that I find compelling in a potential partner but I can say this: I do not care about the amount of money you have or make; I care about who you are, what you think about, the amount of work you've done on yourself and your level of excitement about your life.
I'm smart, educated, opinionated and experienced. I live the life I envisioned and worked hard to attain. I passed through the insecurities of my 20's, the uncertainties of my 30's, the realities of my 40's, came into my own in my 50's and now find myself poised on the edge of my next great adventure. I will die with dreams, not regrets.
I knew a long time ago that I was not going to be happy in a 9-to-5 life so I pursued a career as an entrepreneur. It's been great; a bit hard at times but for the most part I got paid to do things I love and made a comfortable living doing it. I've managed to amass the requisite middle-class possessions, (house, car, savings) without compromising my integrity or imagination.
All in all, I'm very happy with my life; still, it could be made better in the company of the right woman. THAT, however, is a tall order because that person is going to have to attract me physically, hold me intellectually, excite me emotionally and inspire me spiritually.
Treat me like a human being, not some pair of shoes you've become disenchanted with; I promise to do the same.
P.S. Oh Boy! 61 years old now...that's going to change my visibility given standard search parameters. If you're reading this...
Being a friend.
Backing a trailer for some reason.
I'm a good listener, 'pretty good talker.
Appreciating people, places and things for what they are.
Vonnegut, Wim Wenders, The Big Bang Theory, the song I'm currently listening to, (or playing) and Thai...no wait, Mexican! Italian? Chinese?
(All answers subject to change without notice.)
(This list reflects just how good life is; everything listed is a luxury!)
My next appointment.
Why something that's not working isn't working and what I need to do to get it working again.
How much I'm going to miss the Obama's and being represented on the world stage by a thoughtful, well-spoken man.
Where this new regime is going to try to take us and whether or not we can ever get back to any semblance of integrity. I fear we may have gone a bridge too far.