39Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
I recently heard a solid explanation of why time seems to pass at an accelerating rate as you age. Simple math with time as a percentage of overall years-lived. When you're 10, a year is 10% of your total life experience. When you're 40, a year is 2.5% of your total life lived. Are you buying it? Is this feeling of time-reeling-by universal or do you experience the opposite? Can we slow down some time?
What I’m doing with my life
I build bicycles and work as a mechanic at one of the oldest, most amazingly disfunctional shops in the Bay. Prepping for the Trumpocalypse hoarding canned goods, imaginary ammo, real hugs, real books, real friends.
I’m really good at
working with my hands, eating, driving long distance/navigation, fixing things, plotting and planning, riding no handed, procrastination, amateur used carsalesmanship, haggling/bidding/buylowsellhigh, napping, picking an outfit and really sticking with it day in day out over a long time, forgetting to relax, relaxing, taking stuff apart and getting stuff back together
The first things people usually notice about me
Really don't know, I wish I did. Or do I? Argggh, the anxiety. Physically...hairy like animal. Eyes? Smile?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Looking around my currently pared down book collection probably Looking around my bookshelf at old/new 50/50 fiction and non. Non-fiction: cookbooks, field guides I always forget to deploy, technical car/motorcycle/bike material, long outdated travel guides that make you pine for the good ole days (Afghanistan, New Orleans, Africa by Road, People's Guide to Mexico), dark conspiratorial stuff like Gary Webb on the CIA and crack. Gardening/hydroponic food production left over from another time. Fiction: James Welch "Fool's Crow", Asimov, re-read Burroughs to see if he held up after after reading as a teenager, Cormac McCarthy, bunch of Best American Short Story 20XX, Sherman Alexie, Salman Rushdie. Special mention for James Baldwin's "Another Country" so on point and depressing.

Movies: almost never watch anything new + Hollywood. Pretty much hate computergraphicaction in films. But going to see Star Wars tomorrow, special Star Wars exemption.

Music: if you dislike hip-hop I can't see how we'd spend a ton of time in the car if I was DJ. Unless you wanted to handle DJ duties and play absolutely anything (except maybe pop country, techno) I'm up for jazz, blues, bluegrass, various metals, classical, or whatever weird shit you can come up with. Went on a multi-month D'Angelo binge recently.

Food: focused on pleasure here, been eating mostly veg in the house but do love some carnitas, bacon etc
Six things I could never do without
Love love love more love love and some love.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
other people's experiences of the world, injustice, survival, ACAB, my privilege, maintaining human routines, how to live with someone, how to let go of shit and relax, cleaning my apt, adventures, slowing down when I'm feeling reactive, how to be more kind in my interactions, the odds of ending up in this time and place, how to turn a dollar into two, eating, sex, eating, sex, water, air, war, love, kindness, respect, what other people first notice about me, is the world about to crumble around us or has the world crumbled around us, my friends and family, my 94yo grandpa dude, housing
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday is my Thursday so probably laying semi-low. I really don't drink in bar scenarios. Cook. Watch some goofy stuff. Listen to music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Voted (by me) most likely to sleepwalk and make open-face peanut butter and honey sandwiches (with some garlic on the bread before the PB&H gets laid down). Like wake up in front of the fridge doing prepwork. ***been quite a while since this has happened but a real possibility***

I like to dance around like this sea lion in my spare time and twerk around the house doing the techno seal. BomBomBom. See video.

You should message me if
** I'm not about hate for people's bodies or lifestyles. No unexamined loose cannon racist sexist gay/queer/trans phobics. I feel like we were raised up to our necks, or over our heads, in this shit and it has to start stopping here and now. I'm working to be less judgy and not be around judgmental people. I fail sometimes, but I really value when people walk in others shoes as a routine. I'm schooling myself to never "punch-down", shittalk or laugh at people's difficulties or circumstance. "Punch-up" at people in power and voluntary assholes.

* You should message me if you're OK with a big dude. If you're looking for a skinny man, much of any part of the body toned, visible abs etc; you won't find them at my place. If I could choose "husky as fuck", "hairy like animal" or "big-boneded" as a body type on here, I would. (Was getting naked with someone for the first time recently and got this gem: "Hairy tits...that's sexy...come here!)(Also told "you're hecka plushie") Love to be healthy, not looking to get changed/fixed/regulated/shamed.

If ALL of the above statements apply and at least ONE of the following sound interesting, hit me up. Or hit me up with another idea, I'm open.

- you think you just want to get coffee, talk and see what kind of chemistry exists, laugh cry get real

- you'd be down to have fun cooking, I can't host as my partner and I have an "our home is our sanctuary and a no outside date-zone" policy but if you have a kitchen and wish someone was around to cook with, hi!

- I'm looking to do more quickie overnighter camping trips between workdays. Bike camping partner would be a dream and I can help facilitate. Car would work too. I've done a "poach Kirby cove Thursday night" routine a few times recently and had a great time. Really broke up the work week and made life feel less routine.

- You're up for any type of bike ride as long as breaking personal records isn't an overriding focus. Definitely down for some adventure and picnic type bike riding. I have a bike dubbed the Snakvagen and I'm not scared to use it.

- I'd love some company/motivation to get back in the ocean. Surf/body surf. I know the coast well South of SF and I'm pretty good at not dying in NCal surf conditions by picking my battles.

- you think I'm sexy and sense there'd be chemistry

- you know how to forage for mushrooms or other local edibles and would like to share your knowledge

- you'd like to drive somewhere and see something new and/or exciting

- you'd like to make or fix something, teach me how to make or fix something, learn same etc

The two of us