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My self-summary
I'll get the bad stuff out of the way first: I have permanent nerve damage. I walk with a cane sometimes. I have significant external scarring. I have PTSD. No, I'm not ex-military. I WILL be reduced to a miserable shaking husk of a human on occasion. Deal with it.

Still here? Ok then, let's do the happy stuff.

I'm a maker. I tinker, I draw, I code, I grow, and more than anything else I improve.

I'm a lover. I temper my bleeding heart with cold rational thinking because I want everyone to suffer as little as possible. It doesn't mean I don't care. It means I care enough to set my emotions aside to find the best answer for everyone.

I'm a liar. More accurately, I know how to lie very well and consciously choose to tell the truth no matter what. Yes it costs me money on my car insurance. Yes it makes people uncomfortable sometimes, and yes I've lost friends because they were looking for a yes man and got honest answers.

I am Alexander. Historical root name Al-Iskander, as in Alexander the Great, conquerer of the then-known world and seeker of the ocean at the end of all things. I will always be looking for something. And live for the appreciation of reality in all its wonder and horror.

Pretentious enough yet?
What I’m doing with my life
Converting a bus into a home, experimenting with aquaponic growing systems, getting fit, constantly seeking new experiences and enjoying my favorites in my downtime.
I’m really good at
I'm very good at combining creative and rational ideas. I love to take a fantasy and figure out all the requirements to make it a reality. I can't drink so I've become great at babysitting drunk friends. I have a lot of random skills that I learned in lieu of getting paid for jobs.
The first things people usually notice about me
People tend to comment on my eyes a lot. Other than that, I suppose it would be my unique reaction to what would normally be stressful situations. Low Level stress sets off panic attacks, so I'm a little fidgety and Ativan and I are good friends. Larger stressors (like car accidents and such) tend to not bother me at all.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fantasy books: Garth Nix or Stephen King, Piers Anthony, or any of the Forgotten Realms books.

Non-fiction: The life-changing magic of tidying up, 10% happier.

Movies: Miyazaki films, Dr. Horrible's Singalong Blog, Song of the Sea, and Law Abiding Citizen.

TV: Anthony Bourdain!

Music: Everything except really heavy rap/hip hop and "sad/scorned woman" stuff that is always on the radio.

Food: The only foods I REALLY don't like are stews and vinaigrette dressings. I love sushi (even just the sushi rice is delicious) and burgers. My favorite foreign food is Peruvian. They can do magic I swear.
Six things I could never do without
Intellectual equals
Feeling Loved and appreciated
My service dog
Decent cooking ingredients
Freedom to try new things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How much I'd love to be a house-husband. I'm effectively unemployable and my only source of income right now is Disability. I want the freedom to dedicate my alone time to the pursuit of knowledge and my time with my life partner to be devoted to their happiness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing babysitter for drunk friends, playing a tabletop game, reading.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My personal boundaries are pretty much nonexistent. The best way to communicate with me is with 100% clarity and honesty.
You should message me if
You can communicate exactly what you want.

You are interested in sharing your hobby.

You are looking for a friendship or relationship built on devotion and trust.

You just want to talk to someone.

You understand that I may not have time to pursue a serious relationship and take my health efforts seriously.
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