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My self-summary
I'll get the bad stuff out of the way first: I have permanent nerve damage. I walk with a cane sometimes. I have significant external scarring. I have PTSD. No, I'm not ex-military. I WILL be reduced to a miserable shaking husk of a human on occasion. Deal with it.

Still here? Ok then, let's do the happy stuff.

I am a maker. I tinker, I draw, I code, I grow, and more than anything else I improve.

I am a lover. I temper my bleeding heart with pragmatism because I want everyone to suffer as little as possible. It doesn't mean I don't care. It means I care enough to set my emotions aside to find the best answer for everyone.

I am grounded. More accurately, I was raised in an environment that taught me what NOT to be, so most of my impulses are reliably wrong. I hear the easy lies and choose to tell the truth. I hear the hateful words and choose to practice compassion. I hear the excuses and I remember them being told so many times before.

I am Alexander. Historical root name Al-Iskander, as in Alexander the Great, conquerer of the then-known world and seeker of the ocean at the end of all things. I will always be looking for something. And live for the appreciation of reality in all its wonder and horror.

Note: My full time job right now is taking care of my health. I likely don't have time to go on adventures right now, but I want to make new friends.
What I’m doing with my life
C̶o̶n̶v̶e̶r̶t̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶a̶ ̶b̶u̶s̶ ̶i̶n̶t̶o̶ ̶a̶ ̶h̶o̶m̶e̶ (NIMBY neighbors killed that one), experimenting with aquaponic growing systems (no it's not weed stop asking), getting fit, constantly seeking new experiences and enjoying my favorites in my downtime.

My dream is to become not only self sufficient via solar, aquaponics, and similar minimalist urban practices, but to share those things with my community by running a community center that practices the tenets of Ubuntu.
I’m really good at
I'm very good at combining creative and rational ideas. I love to take a fantasy and figure out all the requirements to make it a reality. I can't drink so I've become great at babysitting drunk friends. I have a lot of random skills that I learned in lieu of getting paid for jobs.
The first things people usually notice about me
People tend to comment on my eyes a lot. Other than that, I suppose it would be my unique reaction to what would normally be stressful situations. Low Level stress sets off panic attacks, so I'm a little fidgety and Ativan and I are good friends. Larger stressors (like car accidents and such) tend to not bother me at all.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fantasy books: Unabashedly in love with young adult fantasy like Garth Nix, Eion Colfer, Piers Anthony, J.K.Rowling, etc. Also, Stephen King.

Non-fiction: The life-changing magic of tidying up, 10% happier.

Movies: Miyazaki films, Dr. Horrible's Singalong Blog, Song of the Sea & Law Abiding Citizen.

TV: Anthony Bourdain & psychological/genius thrillers.

Music: Everything except really heavy rap/hip hop and "sad/scorned woman" stuff that is always on the radio.

Food: The only foods I REALLY don't like are stews and vinaigrette dressings. I love sushi (even just the sushi rice is delicious) and burgers. My favorite foreign food is Peruvian. They can do magic I swear.
Six things I could never do without
Intellectual equals
Feeling Loved and appreciated
My service dog
Decent cooking ingredients
Freedom to try new things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How much I'd love to be a house-husband. I'm effectively unemployable and my only source of income right now is Disability. I want the freedom to dedicate my alone time to the pursuit of knowledge and my time with my life partner to be devoted to their happiness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing babysitter for drunk friends, playing a tabletop game, reading.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My personal boundaries are pretty much nonexistent. The best way to communicate with me is with 100% clarity and honesty.
You should message me if
You can communicate exactly what you want.

You are interested in sharing your hobby.

You are looking for a friendship or relationship built on devotion and trust.

You just want to talk to someone.

You understand that I may not have time to pursue a serious relationship and take my health efforts seriously.
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