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My self-summary
Currently, exploring gender, and my identity within. I'm happy to discuss this, but, more importantly, you should know before reading any further. That said, you'll be jealous of my legs. I am queer, and would love to met someone who understands that. I am open to poly relationships, but with awareness of the practical issues, as well. I'm told I am a good kisser. I can not confirm this, myself.

Also, horrible at first messages

We could do a lot worse than following the example of Morticia And Gomez

I have a life-long love affair with words and language, from literature to comedy to banter. This is a long-term, though sometimes tumultuous, relationship.

(ok, seriously, I'm making some good food these days!! My yellow thai curry over cauliflower rice was really good)
(also, I totally miss the blogs here...)
(honestly, I have to rewrite this entire thing soon...its completely insulting to my aesthetics)

(Also, I could use more friends, so if you think we could geek out together, I would love that too)

Let's see...
I'm a geek, personally and professionally, and a writer (though you'd never know it from this I hate filling these kinds of things out). I'm smart, funny, adorable.

If you are looking for a super manly-man, I'm not your boy. If you want someone who can make you laugh and make you blush, then maybe we're a match.
I'm a proud liberal and progressive, a proud feminist (and if you are a woman on OKCupid and say you aren't a feminist, you don't know what the word means), and a proud atheist.

I'm not outdoorsy, but I think I would like to be. I've been taking morning walks before work, and while I am still concerned that nature is out to get me, I think we might be reaching a detente.

(also, I swear to god, I'm much more interesting than this profile would indicate...I dunno why I can't seem to come up with a decent narrative here)
I believe everyone should have a pair of torn jeans completely inappropriate to wear in public but perfect for laying around the house.
I love boardgames/tabletop gaming (and Wil Wheaton's Tabletop), and even this new one with legos.
Also, I might have a Kickstarter problem.

I place great value in laughter and silliness.

If Fetlife is your thing, I'm TheWindUpBoy
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.

Being surprisingly good in the kitchen.
Saying things you wouldn't expect.
I’m really good at
Making people laugh
Writing erotica
Being adorkable.
Being cute with my cat.
Being funny.
Telling stories (I LOVE telling stories...though I seldom know when it will happen, or what just happens)
The first things people usually notice about me
Can one notice a deep, abiding love of cookies?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Asian (chinese, japanese, indian), mexican, and, at the moment, I'm vegetarian (though still eat dairy and eggs). Oh...and PIZZA!
Today, for example, I made three thai dishes. I'm a pretty decent cook.

Movies? Lets see...recently I watched The Untouchables again (thats one of those movies I can just turn on for 20 minutes at any time), I liked The Bay, too. On my DVD shelf is Blade Runner, Battlestar Galactica (the recent series), Buckaroo Banzai (which has the bestest DVD extra EVAH!),Farscape, Fight Club, The Host, LOTR, Sports Night, etc. etc. etc.
Others...Firefly, Serenity, Buffy, Angel, Arrow (for reasons I can't explain),Dr. Who, The Exorcist, Close Encounters, Lady Dynamite, Jaws (seriously, you MUST see the blu-ray release), The Aristocrats, Breaking Bad, Top Chef, Archer, Avengers.
Cowboy Bebop, Mr. Robot, Ghost In The Shell (the original movie, and Stand Alone Complex), RIN Daughters of Mnemosyne, Luther,Hannibal, Rick & Morty, Jeckyl,Sherlock,Sense8 (God, I loved this show!!)

Books, I'm currently reading Austin Grossman's "YOU", and love SF and speculative fiction. I'm particularly drawn to authors with poetic voices. People like Kathe Koja, Caitlin Keirnan, and so on. Some of the really important books for me have been: Where I'm Calling From (my introduction fnord to Raymond Carver), The Things They Carried (which showed me a new way of writing a novel), Neuromancer (which broke SF forever), Skin (poetry and prose, at last). And Borges. Because fucking BORGES!!
Comic books of all varieties (Saga, Bitch Planet, Lumberjanes, and more, including the mainstream stuff)

Music: At heart, I'm a punk/grunge boy (husker du, pixies, smithereens), but I also like Lady Gaga, Cibo Matto, and Rhianna, so...but I'd shoot myself if I was stuck on a desert island with only Korn to listen to.

Dammit. I can't stop listening to BabyMetal's Gimme Chocolate.
Six things I could never do without
my iPhone
my cats (don't tell them, though)
my friends
my t-pass
the great people I work with
my parents
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I want to do now that I'm ready for the next part of my life.
Is The Exorcist really a condemnation of the mental health system?
How badly can Sony screw up the PS4?
Should we even bother being a single country anymore? I mean, really, let'em secede.
How sexuality and gender aren't binary, but a spectrum. If you don't agree, we probably won't get along. I'm not in one of those boxes.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm a homebody so...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Every few years I try circus peanuts, and every few years I am once again disappointed that something with such an improbable, perhaps near impossible, color is not delicious.

Um...I've been to PAX East four times and really wish I could go to Prime this year.
I have a weakness for reality TV marathons (I lost a day once to Making The Band)
Also, I consider myself to be a bit genderfluid and queer.
Also, my sexuality is a thing in flux,l. Its annoying that OKCupid has only the three choices. For a while, I had it set as 'bisexual', but that is rather misleading and unfair to nice gentlemen who might find me in their searches. Herteofleixble, queer, etc, are all better terms. While I don't have very much experience with non-monogomous relationships (except for one, briefly), I'm open to various configurations (no one is more surprised about this than I am), assuming it is all ethical and all parties have consented.

Thats a whole lot of stuff.
However, I should also add this: Outside of one particular friend's child, I really have no interest in kids (even that one I'm only passingly interested in). I have zero interest in having one, and so far I have little reason to think I'll have interest in any children. That might change depending on their age, but I just want to put it out there. I know that's problematic for some (many) but...
You should message me if
You like the things I like.
You have new things to teach me.
You want to be friends and hang out doing geeky things.
You understand that people and relationships are more complex than the options OKCupid supplies.
You wanna cook delicious things inbetween bouts of making out.
You like the phrase 'making out'
You don't mind me becoming crazy cat guy. Someday.
The two of us