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My self-summary
Hey there!

A couple things up front:

If you'd like to go out and have fun, I'm game right away. I like to get to know people by doing things with them, not by email. I don't think email is fun.

I respond frequently--because I'm looking for interesting people who want to do interesting things. You know, like OKC says, activity partners. I'm looking for a partner in crime on some memorable misadventures.

OK. Summary. Let's do this. This is happening:

I'm a reasonably smart regular guy. I have a dry sense of humor and a refined taste for good living, but I like bumming around too.

I'm stuck in the suburbs near National Harbor in a house upside down on the mortgage. I'm a native Washingtonian, and most of my friends live in the city. So I identify here as living in Washington. (I'm saying this here because to some people it really seems to matter. A lot.)

I've just released a jazz big band album of American songbook classics and contemporary songs in the Rat Pack style. I'm a fan of 1960s music and fashion. You can find it on iTunes, Amazon and Google Play. I hope you do. Here, let me help a little:

I'm an actor and a musician. I cover my mortgage by doing public relations (on my own -- I used to have an old dog for company, but he split with the ex-wife. What can I tell you? He really likes the ladies.)

If you've read A Confederacy of Dunces or The Secret History we might have enough in common to have lunch with no awkward silences.

I should probably admit that I have a fascination for Craig T. Nelson that borders on the unexplainable, even to me--but I hate his politics. I have CD collections of Garrison Keillor's Lake Wobegon monologues to help me sleep. That guy's voice is like warm honey on velvet.

I say "totally," "awesome" and "dude" without irony. I'm pretty sure I've said "Totally awesome, dude." That's how I roll (I say that one with irony.).

As the saying goes, I'll try anything at least once: parachute jumping, white water rafting, parasailing, bungee jumping. On the other hand, I'm not a huge party fan, and I'd rather hang out with a few people (or, preferably, one) instead of a massive crowd. A nearly-empty bar is one of my favorite places to be.
What I’m doing with my life
I work for myself as an actor, singer and doing public relations to pick up the slack. I've started two theatre companies -- one that does radio drama adaptations of Shakespeare, and another revives the Theatre du Grand Guignol French theatre of horror.

Until I was about 35, I was a touring musician in a couple ambitious rock bands. Then I wanted to own stuff, so I got into corporate America. The rat race was the pits, so after I got all the stuff I wanted I backed out of it. I'm basically living comfortably on my own, doing enough to cover my mortgage and have some fun.

I guess I'm slouching my way through life now. But like the Gin Blossoms said, "If you don't expect too much from me, you might not be let down."

That's the truth.
I’m really good at
Being a real friend. Sharing credit. Heavy lifting. Minimizing crap. Calling BS without being a jerk about it.
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know; people usually guess my age as about ten years younger than my true age. Is that something you notice? I suppose it's really something I've noticed about other people.

I'm pretty tall -- not NBA tall, but bigger than average. Feel free to wear the most precarious heels you can find, if that's your thing; I think tall women are cool. Or flats -- I'm fine either way.

Oh, and certain folks will notice right away that I have no patience for self-important people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: A Confederacy of Dunces, The Secret History, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, An Actor Prepares, We Are Still Married,

Movies: Shoot Em Up, Shakespeare in Love, In Bruges, The Big Chill, The Long Kiss Goodnight, Baz Luhrman's Romeo and Juliet, Anchorman,This Is Spinal Tap, Best in Show, Closer, Strange Days, Zoolander. If you like Shakespeare, I have the most amazing 1970's era production of The Taming of the Shrew with Mark Singer (yes, of Beastmaster fame) which rocks. The film update of Hamlet with Ethan Hawke and Liev Schreiber as Laertes also was pretty cool. And the Ralph Fiennes production of Coriolanus is a must-have.

Music: The Brandenburg Concertos,Roxy Music, Chris Isaak, Hank Williams III, BR549, The Rembrandts, Ima Robot's later material, The Buzzcocks, big band swing music. I came late to Johnny Cash's American IV album, but it blew my mind -- so intense. That's the voice of a guy who's just about seen it all. And most recently, Leonard Cohen. Too bad those two never did a duet. The acoustic album of The Butterfly House, by the British band The Coral, is as close as I've heard to a perfect album since Avalon by Roxy Music. The debut album by Vintage Trouble is amazing, if your thing is James Brown influenced super-catchy juke joint pop. Is it?

Food: I'm addicted to frozen grapes, even in the winter. I eat them like it's my job, until my core temperature gets so low I have to go to bed under the covers. But really, I'll eat any kind of food except boiled peanuts. Gak. Wait a minute -- steak, ribs and sashimi are particular faves. And living in the mid-Atlantic, I'm always open to a crab feast. Sorry if I just made a vegan's head explode. I like vegans, I just can't be one.
Six things I could never do without
My own way of doing things, regular meals, a television, someone cool to spend time with and a couple of their essential things, and that's about it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why are the catfish on this site so obvious? Are they dim, or just not trying?

Why do so many OKC profiles include "I love to have fun"? Honestly, who doesn't? I'm sure even a monk busts a move every now and then (and I'd pay money to see that).

In those photos of guys with bees making a beard on their faces, how many bees make up a bee beard?

Other than that I try not to think too much any more. I have a degree in Philosophy from William & Mary, so I did way too much of that when I was younger.

Now, of course, I'm not a statue, and I have a brain in my head, and sometimes that brain shakes loose a thought or two. You can scare up a deep conversation from me if you really want, but don't ask me my opinion about why we're here or what happens after we're gone -- I don't know and I stopped worrying about it a long time ago. Besides, you'd probably get a string of philosophy-major-type phrases in response that would be unlikely to shed any more light on the subject.

But what the hell. Challenge me. You might be surprised. I might be surprised.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with a few friends at a bar, hanging out with a few friends at home, at a movie, on stage or seeing a play. I just bought an amazingly huge HDTV monitor -- 80 vulgar, sweet-ass inches. Great for action flicks, or possibly burning your retinas.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Frogs skeeve me out.

I can NOT get a damned fitted sheet on my bed the right way in fewer than three tries. (I know, it can only go on two ways.) If someone can explain an easy way to do it, that would be life-changing.
You should message me if
you have nothing better to do, and you think you might be entertained by hanging out with a reasonably smart guy who's still easily amused by stupid things.

Just as an observation, I have found that (in DC), the closer women are to my age, the farther apart our OKC numbers get. So I don't really look at that stuff much any longer.
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