48Philadelphia, United States
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My self-summary
i live in philly, write, and love going on long walks in the wooded wissahickon river valley, nearby.

I love large bodies of fresh water where I can swim. i like sharing stories with people and hearing theirs.

i like shy people and goofy people and people who don't feel exactly like either gender. (i like others, too, if you don't fit any of these categories.) (I'm mostly drawn to queer folk.)

I keep telling myself I'll stop traveling, but I seem to do it a lot.

Here are some highlights of my life (excluding relationships):

--I almost died twice before one years old: major stomach surgery at 6 months and severe reaction to inoculations before going overseas (two weeks in intensive care).

--I grew up in a log cabin (five people, two bed rooms...) in the woods of Appalachia with an outhouse, spring water, wood stove, etc.

--I traveled in southeast asia for six months when i was 23, hiking two weeks in the Himalayas, participating in the Songkran water festival in Chaing Mai (where everyone dumps water on each other, ANYWHERE, day or night, onside or out), visiting an orangutan sanctuary and getting pink eye (unrelated, except on the color wheel) in Sumatra; and entering a Buddhist monastery in Thailand, where i lived through intense versions of lust, pain, ecstasy, evil, and nothingness--all while sitting silently on the quiet temple grounds.

--I lived on a queer commune in where i baked bread, milked goats, wrote, caved, sauna-ed, participated in a lot of meetings, and cooked (sometimes for up to 200 people during our festivals).

Other key words I didn't fit in: philly bicycles writing queer disability rights transgender activism other travel spiritual social justice environment bread baking puns fiction cooking intentional community dyslexia meeting famous people
What I’m doing with my life
generally i like to play with language. i also like to play with flour, plants, ideas, bodies, and tiny found objects until they are art. i write about one good song a year, but they are corny and i rarely share them with anyone, not even my dog. i teach creative writing and am working on several collections of stories and a collection of essays. i also have a shelved novel about an intersex kid who grows up in rural ohio, of all things.
I’m really good at
baking bread; cooking for large groups of people, quickly; helping people with writing or tiny needs, like reaching things on tall shelves; making up puns on the spare of the moment; giving massage; staying single past when i want to.
The first things people usually notice about me
actually, for years I practiced becoming invisible. Now, I can slip through doors to closed events with no one seeing me, though I weight 200 pounds and I'm two meters tall.

Except people seem to notice that I have ridiculously large feet (size fifteen); the other day i went on a bike tour of organic farms and a woman kept taking pictures of my shoes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
i love delany's motion of light in water, good novels with progressive politics like fountain at the center of the world and girl from zanzibar --but the writing and story always have to come first. Motherless Brooklyn, Home at the End of the World, anything by Haruki Murakami, and most flash fiction or sudden fiction.

i like all bands with three letters, esp low, eno, (sigor) rosand ani, but not elo, so much. i could become a teenage girl fan of jeffrey lewis too.

i love all sorts of food. I like cooking, esp from whatever is in the kitchen. It calms me. I'm mostly vegetarian but I'm flexible with what I eat. desserts are things i can bond closely with others over, but so is fasting.
Six things I could never do without
bicycle friends water language silence touch
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to be more environmentally friendly. how words never entirely sit still. my breathing. the poetry that runs through all things. people who are smart, cute, and kind. how some of us are born neither male nor female. how we all put together a map of our world using different fragments and charts. anything that Rumi says, but particularly how "there's a hundred ways to kneel and kiss the ground." (Or, kiss the sky, as hendrix would no doubt add.)
On a typical Friday night I am
thinking, 'ah, another saturday night--no wait, it's friday.'
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think there's plenty up above I've admitted to already.
You should message me if
you generally like tall goofy eclectic people.

you don't think being similar to someone is necessarily the best way to be matched.

you like writing, or are terrified by it, which is really the same thing.

OKCupid says I'm 94% friends with myself; please write if you are the person who is my other 6% friend.
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