62Jersey City, United States
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My self-summary
I live a seemingly ordinary life with a job, friends, relatives, social life, entertainment, etc. I have a good circle of very smart, caring friends and I’ve spent a lot of time creating a parallel or alternative universe in my mind based on my favorite books, poems, novels, stories, films, glamor girls, jazz musicians, old horror films, etc. Now I’d like to find someone whose inner world intersects with mine at least a little bit.

I’m a voracious reader, listener, viewer, and explorer of the outré. I understand the OKC question about intellectual foreplay – poetry, music, philosophy and art are all nearly erotic in their own way as sex itself.

I practice Zen meditation, I’m interested in Buddhist philosophy and go to a Zendo almost every week. All this not as a religion but as a mental exercise. Some people run to exercise their body; I meditate to exercise my mind.

All this sounds very serious, but people tell me I have a good sense of humor. I like to play the class clown, interject quasi surrealist non-sequiturs into the conversation, use arcane references for comic effect. The only way I know how to be serious is to make jokes and vice versa.
What I’m doing with my life
In search of non-toxic mind expanding experience.
I’m really good at
Writing stories. Searching out interesting new words, books, stories, films and music. Striking up conversations with women based on what they're reading or wearing. ("I notice you're wearing a Freddie Mercury tee-shirt. Did you know he was a Zoroastrian?") Sitting in full lotus position.
The first things people usually notice about me
My vocabulary, allusions, jokes and arcane references. I once noticed an article in Cosmopolitan "How to Know If He's Good in Bed" and one of the criteria was "he has a big vocabulary." It must be true if Cosmo said it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Novels: Henry Miller (Tropic of Cancer, Tropic of Capricorn); James Joyce; George Orwell (I'm Winston Smith in search of Julia).

Movies: I especially love the European auteur and Japanese directors including: Bergman (Persona, Monica); Bresson (A Man Escapes, L’Argent); Bunuel (Los Olvididos, Viridiana); Ozu (Late Spring) Kurosawa (Seven Samurai, Ran) and many others. I love to dig out old, obscure, neglected films on YouTube (such as The Gun Fighter, Wanda, Burn, Honeymoon Killers).

Music: Mostly jazz - Coltrane, Monk, Basie, Sam Rivers, Sun Ra, Ornette Coleman and many others. I was sad to hear of Charlie Haden’s death. Also Ravi Shankar and Indian music in general. Some modern composers (Varese, Xenakis, Scelsi).

Poetry: William Blake (as both poet and painter); Ezra Pound (don't worry I'm not a fascist or anti-Semite); David Gascoyne; George Oppen, Thomas Traherne & many, many others. Always interested to discover new poets. Feel free to make some recommendations.

Radio: Don’t own a TV but listen to WKCR and WFMU constantly.

All of this sounds very formal and serious, but I also love things that are funny, light weight, frivolous and playful including: Star Trek (yes, I admit it); comic books (especially Jack Kirby, Marvel Comics, Allan Moore, Wally Wood, early Mad comics, Robert Crumb, Julie Doucet); Jazz & Blues singers (Cab Callaway, Louis Jordan, Louis Armstrong, Bessie Smith); low grade Sci Fi & Horror movies (Attack of the Crab Monsters, House on Haunted Hill, MST3K); punk & garage rock (The Stooges, MC5, Richard Hell, Nuggets collection); classic glamour girls (Jane Fonda as Barbarella, Joy Harmon in the car wash scene from Cool Hand Luke); femme fatale chanteuses (Nico, Marianne Faithful, Billie Holiday); classic comedy (Laural & Hardy, W. C. Fields); icons of exemplary feminine beauty (Suzanne Farrell, Setsuko Hara, Harriet Anderson in Monica); and icons of oddball feminine beauty (Rita Tushingham, Barbara Steele); crackpot geniuses, autodidacts, outré artists (Sun Ra, Moondog, Eric Hoffer, Buckminster Fuller, Captain Beefheart).

I’m dropping lots of names here, but I really do spend a lot of time reading, listening, looking at many books, poems, music, films. As Walt Whitman said "great artists need great audiences." I am part of the great audience.
Six things I could never do without
Passionate women
(Yes, I know that's seven, but the last one is the most important.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Trying to understand the meaning of a poem, film, or piece of music I love. Why certain images and subjects reoccur in my dreams. How to improve my Zen meditation technique. Trying to better understand economic theory (a weak point in my autodidact education) and the causes of the current Great Recession.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out with friends, live music, reading, writing, drinking, at a café, listening to WFMU or WKCR.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I just edited this profile because one woman commented that in the previous draft I seemed “overly intellectual” – and she was a college professor! So now I’ve chopped out some of the more arcane references that were supposed to be clever and interesting, but apparently made me seem overly serious.

Also my age really is 59 as listed above. I had originally listed myself as a bit younger and then revealed my true age in the body of the profile. I did this just to get a wider range of results in my OKC searches. I originally got the idea because I noticed many women did the same thing in their profile and it never bothered me. Still, I’ve decided to give my accurate age at the top of the profile to avoid any possible confusion.
You should message me if
You’re a woman of flesh & spirit, body & mind, passion & intellect (especially passion).

You've got enough friends, yet there's still some aspects of your mind, psyche & body that remain unsatisfied.

You have new (to me) poets, novels, films, music to recommend.

You have your own mind expanding experiences (non-toxic or otherwise) you’d like to share.

You practice some form of meditation and can offer some advice to improve my technique.

You want to have a cup of coffee or a few drinks and talk.
The two of us