noboxes4me
36 Ann Arbor, United States
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My self-summary
I love Ann Arbor - where else one can sit on a patio and have excellent beer, walk through beautiful garden or forest, see a band or symphony, and go jump into a river, all within a 10 minute (or less!) bike ride from each other?

Active, ambiverted, inquisitive, kind of obsessed with growth and balance, kindness and compassion... I love to get out and see things and learn things and do things and meet people. And then sometimes not be anywhere near people. Because balance.

FYI, I'm a liberal, science driven, democratic socialist, feminist and LGBTQ+ ally... So if that's not your thing, I'm not your thing - good luck to ya. (Hint: If you voted for Trump and his Alt-Right cess pool, you're probably not my type.)
What I’m doing with my life
I do just about everything people do outdoors, hiking, climbing, camping, biking, kayaking, BBQing, swimming, etc. etc. etc. I also do things indoors, like play board games, dance and listen to music (preferably live!), drink beer, eat fancy cheeses, and cook great food.

I'm an instructional technology consultant by day - I help people use technology to improve their classes and instruction. I also help people relax and heal by doing massage therapy. (Swedish, Thai, neuromuscular, sports, and myofascial - sorry, no energy work - just muscles, bones and nerves.)

Just upgraded my tent, sleeping pad, and camp stove. w00t. Traveling around the country, to listen live music, drink local brews, visit friends and museums, and/or hang out in the woods/mountains/water. To give you an idea of the diversity of things I like to do: I hit up DC for a Blues/BBQ/Dancing event, Chicago for sports and clubbing, the UP to chase waterfalls, waves, and moonbeams, and New River Gorge (WV) for climbing this year. I just renewed my annual pass for planet rock - if you're looking for someone to climb with, hit me up!
I’m really good at
Trying to breath at the same time as I am drinking water.
Seeing how amazing people are inside.
Listening and being open minded.
Standing up to defend people, when others stand by just watching.
Staying up way past my bedtime.
Being open, to a fault.
Cutting rugs.
Calling out BS. (Including my own.)
Going in circles, but learning something new each time I go around.
Caveats. (At least I think I am...)
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm so much more than my afro - why can't people see me for the person inside?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Political satire, Existential Scifi, documentaries, and Kung Fu films with real Kung Fu. And yes, I'm man enough to admit that I watch the occasional rom-com, and I'm a romantic at heart.

Public Radio. Pomplamoose. Passion Pit. Prodigy. Pentatonix. Portishead. Purple Rain. Pure Moods. Just kidding about Pure Moods. Anything I can dance to... swing, jazz, pop, funk, soul, blues, electronic, fusion, etc. etc. Anything that makes me chill or feel alive when I hear it. Now is probably a good time to let you know I'm currently in the middle of a torrid love affair, a quadrangle with myself, Flume, Alina Baraz, and Brittney Spears. If you can't keep your jealously in check, I understand, but just know that if you try to break us up, it's not going to work. It will probably be a different affair next week, though, I like to keep things fresh.

Thich Nhat Hanh, William Gibson, Morihei Ueshiba, Neil Stephenson, Sun Tsu, Miyamoto Musashi, Howard Zinn, The Body Can Speak.

Thai, Vietnamese, Indian, Italian, Korean, Soul food, BBQ, etc... You know, food with flavor.
The six things I could never do without
Good people.
Good food.
Good beer.
Good health.
Good lovin'.
Good learnin'.
Good times.
Ignoring bad rules.
Cuddling. Seriously, if you're not into it, too, this isn't gonna work...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...how sometimes it would be awesome to not over think everything.

...how much I love being outside, in the water, and/or under the sun.

...how to empower people.

...if I should get dreadlocks. (No, I don't smoke. Damnit. That answers my question.)

...if my profile is too long? Or too short?
On a typical Friday night I am
Having fun! Friday and Saturday evenings, I'm usually doing some combination of the following: swing dancing, listening to live music, eating good food, drinking craft beer, and starting trouble. Care to join?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I know who Jem and the Holograms are, and I'm tough enough to admit it. And for the record, the Misfits' songs *are* better - way more interesting!
You should message me if
...you take care of yourself, body and mind.
...you see kindness and compassion as a strength.
...you are strong but kind, have lots of energy but also like to chill, confident but not arrogant, independent but looking for a deeper connection with someone, and smart but crazy... in a good way.
...you've been through it. (You've had a long term relationship or two, and you've learned to *actually* and *openly* communicate with others because you've learned to be open with yourself about your needs. You've learned to trust, forgive, struggle, grow, compromise, set boundaries, maintain your own personality and independence, and all the hard things "love" means within the context of a relationship. You are familiar with Gottman's theories on relationships. You expect the same from a partner.)

Bonus round:
...you know what I mean when I shout "inconceivable!" "points!" or "phrasing?" Because I'll do that.

Wait, you made it through my whole profile? O M G! Congratulations! If you're a like minded person and have a some hobbies in common, we'll probably get along well, even if it's just as friends. If you're up for an adventure, give me a shout!
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